(22/F) Going on road trip with very shy guy (22/M), would like to initiate more but I feel weird

To make this short, I moved to another country for my masters. When I toured the school in May I matched with a guy who had recently graduated. He was really funny, we have the same interests, and even though I deleted my Tinder we texted every day until I moved last week.

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A week later he asked me to get drinks. We stayed out until 4 a.m. I noticed he's very shy, doesn't make a lot of eye contact, has some nervous tics like running his hand through his hair and shrugging constantly. But by the end of the night (and several beers later) when we were talking at the table he held my hand and ran his thumb over my knuckles. It was the most gentle, sweet thing I've ever experienced.

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I have been in some very bad relationships, both emotionally and physically abusive. I have not dated in a long time because I am worried about moving things forward. However, this guy is the exact opposite of any guy I've gone out with. We went on one more date and now we're doing a road trip together to a historic area of the country, it's not overnight but we'll be out late.

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What should I do to get closer to him without feeling weird? Part of me feels like I've known him for five months, the other part feels awkward because I've only physically met him twice. He's shown no signs of initiating anything more than the hand holding, and that was after getting him plastered lol. Can I hold his hand when we walk around? Do I tease him about making the first move?

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I was thinking if nothing major happens giving him a kiss on the cheek when he drops me off. I did that after a date once and the guy said it was the cutest thing that ever happened to him. Any suggestions welcomed!

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tl;dr: Talking to a guy for 5 months on Tinder, finally moved to that country. We've been on two dates but he's very shy and the physical contact has been G-rated. I move slowly in relationships. What are some innocent ways to show him I am interested on our upcoming road trip?



Submitted September 10, 2019 at 11:12PM

To make this short, I moved to another country for my masters. When I toured the school in May I matched with a guy who had recently graduated. He was really funny, we have the same interests, and even though I deleted my Tinder we texted every day until I moved last week.​A week later he asked me to get drinks. We stayed out until 4 a.m. I noticed he's very shy, doesn't make a lot of eye contact, has some nervous tics like running his hand through his hair and shrugging constantly. But by the end of the night (and several beers later) when we were talking at the table he held my hand and ran his thumb over my knuckles. It was the most gentle, sweet thing I've ever experienced.​I have been in some very bad relationships, both emotionally and physically abusive. I have not dated in a long time because I am worried about moving things forward. However, this guy is the exact opposite of any guy I've gone out with. We went on one more date and now we're doing a road trip together to a historic area of the country, it's not overnight but we'll be out late.​What should I do to get closer to him without feeling weird? Part of me feels like I've known him for five months, the other part feels awkward because I've only physically met him twice. He's shown no signs of initiating anything more than the hand holding, and that was after getting him plastered lol. Can I hold his hand when we walk around? Do I tease him about making the first move?​I was thinking if nothing major happens giving him a kiss on the cheek when he drops me off. I did that after a date once and the guy said it was the cutest thing that ever happened to him. Any suggestions welcomed!​tl;dr: Talking to a guy for 5 months on Tinder, finally moved to that country. We've been on two dates but he's very shy and the physical contact has been G-rated. I move slowly in relationships. What are some innocent ways to show him I am interested on our upcoming road trip?
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