My girlfriend [21/F] is banned from my house and she's upset with me [22/M] over it.

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 months and we're both admittedly still in the honeymoon phase. We're crazy for each other right now and she's all that's on my mind right now. That said, I think she is starting to have in effect on my job. I work physical labor at a construction site and there are times when I'm not focused on my work because I'm thinking of my girlfriend. I admit to not being on my A-game at work lately, but it recently reached a point where my boss actually contacted my parents and told them about my poor performance and how they should do what they can to get me back on track. I was extra pissed off that my boss would actually do something like that, as if he were a fucking school teacher and that's lead to the conflict.

My parents talked things over and they know that I'm head-over-heels for my girlfriend right now. My dad ultimately came up to me and decided that my girlfriend is banned from coming over to our house. He told me that he's also taking my car keys and putting a tracker on my car so that I don't go to see my girlfriend on the weekdays. He said that me and her are only allowed to see each other on weekends, but I have to go see her and she's not allowed at our home. I have to ask him for permission whenever I want to drive my car (a car that's legally under his name) and he has my keys locked in a safe in his closet. My mom is in full agreement over this and they said that it's for the best to "improve my work ethic and be a man".

The worst part was having to tell my girlfriend about it. We went out to lunch one day and I broke the news to her right there. She was upset, but at me, not my dad. She accused me of making up the whole aspect involving my dad and she thought that I was just lying and using it as an excuse to break up. I kept trying to tell her that I was being honest, but she wouldn't believe me. She was raising her voice right there in the middle of the restaurant and I was trying to calm her down, but she splashed her soda in my face and walked off. I was pissed off and I just shouted to her "Go on and leave, you fucking bitch!" I was kicked out by the manager and now I'm not sure what to do. She obviously doesn't believe me, but I still deeply care about her and I want this relationship to work out. How do I go about this whole situation?

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tldr: Girlfriend doesn't believe me that she's banned from my house.



Submitted July 12, 2019 at 10:03PM

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 months and we're both admittedly still in the honeymoon phase. We're crazy for each other right now and she's all that's on my mind right now. That said, I think she is starting to have in effect on my job. I work physical labor at a construction site and there are times when I'm not focused on my work because I'm thinking of my girlfriend. I admit to not being on my A-game at work lately, but it recently reached a point where my boss actually contacted my parents and told them about my poor performance and how they should do what they can to get me back on track. I was extra pissed off that my boss would actually do something like that, as if he were a fucking school teacher and that's lead to the conflict.My parents talked things over and they know that I'm head-over-heels for my girlfriend right now. My dad ultimately came up to me and decided that my girlfriend is banned from coming over to our house. He told me that he's also taking my car keys and putting a tracker on my car so that I don't go to see my girlfriend on the weekdays. He said that me and her are only allowed to see each other on weekends, but I have to go see her and she's not allowed at our home. I have to ask him for permission whenever I want to drive my car (a car that's legally under his name) and he has my keys locked in a safe in his closet. My mom is in full agreement over this and they said that it's for the best to "improve my work ethic and be a man".The worst part was having to tell my girlfriend about it. We went out to lunch one day and I broke the news to her right there. She was upset, but at me, not my dad. She accused me of making up the whole aspect involving my dad and she thought that I was just lying and using it as an excuse to break up. I kept trying to tell her that I was being honest, but she wouldn't believe me. She was raising her voice right there in the middle of the restaurant and I was trying to calm her down, but she splashed her soda in my face and walked off. I was pissed off and I just shouted to her "Go on and leave, you fucking bitch!" I was kicked out by the manager and now I'm not sure what to do. She obviously doesn't believe me, but I still deeply care about her and I want this relationship to work out. How do I go about this whole situation?​tldr: Girlfriend doesn't believe me that she's banned from my house.
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