I (f22) broke up with my long term boyfriend (m23) after I discovered his comment under a post on r/gonewild

When we first started dating (2 years ago) we talked about porn and we both agreed that we were comfortable with it. After about a year, my feelings changed and I shared that with him and he agreed and said he felt the same after I’ve said something. I had the impression that we were on the same page after that.

A year and some months go by and we have to do long distance (we see each other every 2-3 months and have a great time when we do). Since we have to do long distance, we FaceTime almost every night to talk and we send each other tons of sexy pics/videos. Yesterday morning I discovered he had posted a comment under a girls post. The post was a sob story on why she hasn’t been posting lately and she asked people to comment their user names if they want to be invited into her private subreddit.

The problem is not even 10 minutes after he posted that comment I had sent him a fun video of myself to get him off since I knew he was just waking up for work. That means he saw my video, instantly wanted to look at other people to finish, took the time to read her long sob story post, share his own personal experience, and put his username further proving my point he’d like to keep seeing regular nudes and videos from this girl instead of me. What he did was not a compulsive action.

I broke up with him on his lunch break and he started crying and kept saying it was a mistake and left work early. He claims it is NOT me, I am more than enough, and he doesn’t know why he felt the need to look somewhere else when he has tons of videos and pics of me doing the exact same stuff that girl was doing. Apparently he loves me and my body and he was just talking to his older sister the other day about future plans for us. What he said is not enough for me and his actions say otherwise. We got on FaceTime to talk about it more and he cried for hours, didn’t eat dinner, and I don’t think he even took a shower.

My thought process is how will I ever trust him again? He lied to act like he felt the same way as me on the subject. I’m clearly not good enough for him and if he wants something different after only 2 years then I can only imagine what he might lie to me about in 5-10.Am I an asshole and did I make the wrong decision to end our relationship over this? We have managed to successfully get past all of our problems (some of them were big) and I finally thought we were doing really good until this happened.

I should add that our sex life is good and we don’t have problems in the bedroom. He is incredibly sweet to me in person and during long distance. We have been on many long road trips together and we do fine and we have talked about our future together.

TL;DR broke up with long term boyfriend because his recent activity on porn subreddits proves that regardless of what he claims, I am not good enough for him. He has pics/videos of me and still wants to get off from looking at other girls.

Submitted July 12, 2019 at 10:42PM

When we first started dating (2 years ago) we talked about porn and we both agreed that we were comfortable with it. After about a year, my feelings changed and I shared that with him and he agreed and said he felt the same after I’ve said something. I had the impression that we were on the same page after that.A year and some months go by and we have to do long distance (we see each other every 2-3 months and have a great time when we do). Since we have to do long distance, we FaceTime almost every night to talk and we send each other tons of sexy pics/videos. Yesterday morning I discovered he had posted a comment under a girls post. The post was a sob story on why she hasn’t been posting lately and she asked people to comment their user names if they want to be invited into her private subreddit.The problem is not even 10 minutes after he posted that comment I had sent him a fun video of myself to get him off since I knew he was just waking up for work. That means he saw my video, instantly wanted to look at other people to finish, took the time to read her long sob story post, share his own personal experience, and put his username further proving my point he’d like to keep seeing regular nudes and videos from this girl instead of me. What he did was not a compulsive action.I broke up with him on his lunch break and he started crying and kept saying it was a mistake and left work early. He claims it is NOT me, I am more than enough, and he doesn’t know why he felt the need to look somewhere else when he has tons of videos and pics of me doing the exact same stuff that girl was doing. Apparently he loves me and my body and he was just talking to his older sister the other day about future plans for us. What he said is not enough for me and his actions say otherwise. We got on FaceTime to talk about it more and he cried for hours, didn’t eat dinner, and I don’t think he even took a shower.My thought process is how will I ever trust him again? He lied to act like he felt the same way as me on the subject. I’m clearly not good enough for him and if he wants something different after only 2 years then I can only imagine what he might lie to me about in 5-10.Am I an asshole and did I make the wrong decision to end our relationship over this? We have managed to successfully get past all of our problems (some of them were big) and I finally thought we were doing really good until this happened.I should add that our sex life is good and we don’t have problems in the bedroom. He is incredibly sweet to me in person and during long distance. We have been on many long road trips together and we do fine and we have talked about our future together.TL;DR broke up with long term boyfriend because his recent activity on porn subreddits proves that regardless of what he claims, I am not good enough for him. He has pics/videos of me and still wants to get off from looking at other girls.