Am I [21M] just overthinking? Should I give her [22F] the benefit of the doubt?

So long story short, I met a girl [22F] on Interpals a few days ago. She actually messaged me first because she liked something I mentioned in my profile. We are both from the US but she is studying abroad in Bulgaria currently. Anyway, we were talking for a couple hours and then we started talking on Whatsapp. Conversation went on for a little bit then we said good night and she went to bed. Anyway, I send her a message on the website because she was on there at the time and not Whatsapp. So we keep talking for a couple more days. Sometimes we'll be in the middle of a conversation and she'll fall asleep and read my message and respond the next day. By then, things had already escalated in so far as that we had explicitly expressed romantic interest in each other. Yesterday, we were chatting on Whatsapp and then she didn't open my message but I saw she was still online for a few more hours. Today comes around and she has been on the app and still hasn't read the message yet. Honestly, I didn't know if it was better to contact her on Whatsapp or the website so I messaged her on the website and she had been logged in but didn't read the message I sent there either.

I mean, maybe I am overreacting and overthinking and I should probably give her the benefit of the doubt. However, I am thinking of every possible variable and am beginning to think she may not be interested. I am starting to go there mentally because I have gotten involved with women before who told me they were interested and things ended up fizzling out anyway. Honestly, I am feeling more strongly about this than I should because we have so much in common and she is pretty much everything I want in a partner. People say that you attract what you fear and I fear not being able to talk with her anymore to be totally truthful and I don't want to be fixated over that because I think my fears might come true if I do that. Can ya'll help me out? Thanks.



Submitted July 12, 2019 at 11:49PM

So long story short, I met a girl [22F] on Interpals a few days ago. She actually messaged me first because she liked something I mentioned in my profile. We are both from the US but she is studying abroad in Bulgaria currently. Anyway, we were talking for a couple hours and then we started talking on Whatsapp. Conversation went on for a little bit then we said good night and she went to bed. Anyway, I send her a message on the website because she was on there at the time and not Whatsapp. So we keep talking for a couple more days. Sometimes we'll be in the middle of a conversation and she'll fall asleep and read my message and respond the next day. By then, things had already escalated in so far as that we had explicitly expressed romantic interest in each other. Yesterday, we were chatting on Whatsapp and then she didn't open my message but I saw she was still online for a few more hours. Today comes around and she has been on the app and still hasn't read the message yet. Honestly, I didn't know if it was better to contact her on Whatsapp or the website so I messaged her on the website and she had been logged in but didn't read the message I sent there either.I mean, maybe I am overreacting and overthinking and I should probably give her the benefit of the doubt. However, I am thinking of every possible variable and am beginning to think she may not be interested. I am starting to go there mentally because I have gotten involved with women before who told me they were interested and things ended up fizzling out anyway. Honestly, I am feeling more strongly about this than I should because we have so much in common and she is pretty much everything I want in a partner. People say that you attract what you fear and I fear not being able to talk with her anymore to be totally truthful and I don't want to be fixated over that because I think my fears might come true if I do that. Can ya'll help me out? Thanks.
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