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TL;DR parents are letting my brother ruin his life by dropping out of school and not doing online school I don't know what to do

First time posting on this sub but this is obviously a non-romantic issue I'm not 100% sure this sub helps with this but I'm not sure where to post.

My little brother (16) recently dropped out of high school because of bullying and is now doing online high school. I support this decision because he was depressed, but my parents are so scared of making him sad again they aren't making him do his schoolwork. My parents are older in their late 50s and don't have the energy to fight with him.

He was never good at school but now he is only doing schoolwork for maybe an hour a week. At this rate, he won't complete it for two years. That would be fine if he was learning but he is barely doing anything. One hour of school a week doesn't equate to a normal school load where one typically graduates at 18. My parents are deluding themselves that he will be able to go to community college after completing this course but he hasn't gone to school since November. He was in remedial courses and has never written more than a paragraph.

No one in my family is taking it seriously and I love my brother and don't want to see him have a bad life. He was suicidal in school because he felt he was behind and he will feel the same if he is behind in life. I'm not his parent and my parents aren't listening to me so I don't know what to do. This is ruining my relationship with my family. Should I give up and let him do what he wants what his life?



Submitted June 26, 2019 at 12:19AM

TL;DR parents are letting my brother ruin his life by dropping out of school and not doing online school I don't know what to doFirst time posting on this sub but this is obviously a non-romantic issue I'm not 100% sure this sub helps with this but I'm not sure where to post.My little brother (16) recently dropped out of high school because of bullying and is now doing online high school. I support this decision because he was depressed, but my parents are so scared of making him sad again they aren't making him do his schoolwork. My parents are older in their late 50s and don't have the energy to fight with him.He was never good at school but now he is only doing schoolwork for maybe an hour a week. At this rate, he won't complete it for two years. That would be fine if he was learning but he is barely doing anything. One hour of school a week doesn't equate to a normal school load where one typically graduates at 18. My parents are deluding themselves that he will be able to go to community college after completing this course but he hasn't gone to school since November. He was in remedial courses and has never written more than a paragraph.No one in my family is taking it seriously and I love my brother and don't want to see him have a bad life. He was suicidal in school because he felt he was behind and he will feel the same if he is behind in life. I'm not his parent and my parents aren't listening to me so I don't know what to do. This is ruining my relationship with my family. Should I give up and let him do what he wants what his life?
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