How do I [24F] manage my husband [25M] yelling at me over things that don’t warrant it?

Together 2 and a half years.

Gross I know, but I picked my nose and my husband yelled at me over it. He got explosively angry with me and stormed off out of our room.

We had just gotten in bed to relax after work to watch something on tv and my nose was bothering me so I picked my nose lol. He did a 180 on me. I know it wasn’t considerate of me because we were both in bed at that point but the way he yelled at me was completely unwarranted and mean. He stormed out of our room and came back to our doorway to yell at me. I was entirely calm throughout the whole thing and apologized yet asked him to stop yelling 2-3 times. I told him his reaction was mean but he didn’t acknowledge it.

Not ten minutes earlier he was joking around with me and asked me to smell his balls before he showered? And when I brought that up he said it was different because we’ve joked about it before. We’ve joked about picking noses before too. He selectively thinks it’s gross on his terms, but I didn’t say that. It’s taxing being around him sometimes because I don’t know what will set him off anymore. He was slamming stuff around the house after he stopped yelling/arguing with me in the doorway. I told him I didn’t deserve a husband that yelled at me over something like this and he didn’t really acknowledge that.

Tl;dr: husband yelled at me over something trivial and I don’t know how to manage it.

Submitted June 25, 2019 at 11:30PM

Together 2 and a half years.Gross I know, but I picked my nose and my husband yelled at me over it. He got explosively angry with me and stormed off out of our room.We had just gotten in bed to relax after work to watch something on tv and my nose was bothering me so I picked my nose lol. He did a 180 on me. I know it wasn’t considerate of me because we were both in bed at that point but the way he yelled at me was completely unwarranted and mean. He stormed out of our room and came back to our doorway to yell at me. I was entirely calm throughout the whole thing and apologized yet asked him to stop yelling 2-3 times. I told him his reaction was mean but he didn’t acknowledge it.Not ten minutes earlier he was joking around with me and asked me to smell his balls before he showered? And when I brought that up he said it was different because we’ve joked about it before. We’ve joked about picking noses before too. He selectively thinks it’s gross on his terms, but I didn’t say that. It’s taxing being around him sometimes because I don’t know what will set him off anymore. He was slamming stuff around the house after he stopped yelling/arguing with me in the doorway. I told him I didn’t deserve a husband that yelled at me over something like this and he didn’t really acknowledge that.Tl;dr: husband yelled at me over something trivial and I don’t know how to manage it.