My [23F] common sense disappears completely when I like someone so please tell me what’s going on with this guy [25M]

I feel like I look too far into good details and wrongfully assume they really like me, or look too far into negative details and immediately think they must not be into me. I really don’t care whether someone likes me, but the guessing drives me crazy.

We’ve been seeing each other since the beginning of January, and have gone on 5 dates. He took a solo trip to London for 3 weeks and kept in touch with me every single day, and still does. We’ve done 5 dinner dates and they always end in a quick peck kiss and that’s all. I’m wondering why he’d go on so many dates with me if he wasn’t into me, but why won’t he make a move? Neither of us is too shy. So I’m confused. If he’d offer to pick me up and drop me off (which he doesn’t - is he nervous to ask or does he really not care to?) I’d probably invite him up afterwards.

In my past I always found myself chasing after a guy and becoming a pathetic shell of myself and taking the reins so much that the guy feels no need to make an effort at all. So this is why I’m nervous to make a move myself. I considered saying “yeah let’s stay in and have a movie night” next time he asks me out, but I don’t want him to think I want to fool around just yet either, and I don’t know what that could imply in today’s world.

Also he still texts daily but the conversation has gotten a little calmer and less smiley - but maybe that’s good and we’re both more comfortable now?

Finally - no VDay plans yet - what are the odds? I don’t think it would be weird to hang out with eachother. Nothing extravagant and no gifts of course. But why not spend it with your romantic interest?



Submitted February 11, 2020 at 12:13AM

I feel like I look too far into good details and wrongfully assume they really like me, or look too far into negative details and immediately think they must not be into me. I really don’t care whether someone likes me, but the guessing drives me crazy.We’ve been seeing each other since the beginning of January, and have gone on 5 dates. He took a solo trip to London for 3 weeks and kept in touch with me every single day, and still does. We’ve done 5 dinner dates and they always end in a quick peck kiss and that’s all. I’m wondering why he’d go on so many dates with me if he wasn’t into me, but why won’t he make a move? Neither of us is too shy. So I’m confused. If he’d offer to pick me up and drop me off (which he doesn’t - is he nervous to ask or does he really not care to?) I’d probably invite him up afterwards.In my past I always found myself chasing after a guy and becoming a pathetic shell of myself and taking the reins so much that the guy feels no need to make an effort at all. So this is why I’m nervous to make a move myself. I considered saying “yeah let’s stay in and have a movie night” next time he asks me out, but I don’t want him to think I want to fool around just yet either, and I don’t know what that could imply in today’s world.Also he still texts daily but the conversation has gotten a little calmer and less smiley - but maybe that’s good and we’re both more comfortable now?Finally - no VDay plans yet - what are the odds? I don’t think it would be weird to hang out with eachother. Nothing extravagant and no gifts of course. But why not spend it with your romantic interest?
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