Girl (20f) I've (20m) went on a fantastic first date with is being distant. Any ideas?

Ive (20M) Been talking to this girl (20f) for over a month. Everything seemed great, and went on our first date. Which went fantastic!

(Read about ithere).

Our date went well, spent over 8 hours together, vibed really well! Confessed feelings for one another and agreed to take things slow and let things play out naturally. She said she never had a boyfriend before and doesnt know how to act/ respond. But since our first date, everything seemed to take a 180. Communication basically shut down. (Also I have a feeling she has some sort of anxiety or relationship anxiety.) She went silent for Tuesday and Wednesday. Ignored my two texts those days. Thursday she said sorry shes been mia because shes been not feeling so well. And friday she said shes been stressed with work, school, socializing and over all had no energy and her social battery is depleted. And once again, she said she was very sorry she fell into a rut and needs to pull herself out of it.

I told her that she shouldnt apologize, everyone stresses out and she needed to take time for herself and relax this weekend. No word from her since friday. Told her sunday night (yesterday) that shes got this week in the bag, shes strong and will pull through in one piece. And that I wanna be there for her and if she needs anything to let me know. That was the last text I sent her. Still no response.

My gut says that she's just stressed and anxious. Everything will be fine, she just needs time to recover and breath. So I've been telling myself to just give it time and be patient. But finding it hard and questioning my gut.

I'm not too sure I know what to do? Shes been distance for over a week now, and idk if it's because relationship anxiety, stress, depression, combination of them? Did I do anything wrong? Does stress/ anxiety/ depression make people push others away like this? How long does this usually last? Did I do Something to put her off? I wanna help her and be there for her but the lack of communication and ignoring my texts is concerning me. And making me second guess her interest in me. Any ideas?



Submitted February 11, 2020 at 12:25AM

Ive (20M) Been talking to this girl (20f) for over a month. Everything seemed great, and went on our first date. Which went fantastic!(Read about ithere).Our date went well, spent over 8 hours together, vibed really well! Confessed feelings for one another and agreed to take things slow and let things play out naturally. She said she never had a boyfriend before and doesnt know how to act/ respond. But since our first date, everything seemed to take a 180. Communication basically shut down. (Also I have a feeling she has some sort of anxiety or relationship anxiety.) She went silent for Tuesday and Wednesday. Ignored my two texts those days. Thursday she said sorry shes been mia because shes been not feeling so well. And friday she said shes been stressed with work, school, socializing and over all had no energy and her social battery is depleted. And once again, she said she was very sorry she fell into a rut and needs to pull herself out of it.I told her that she shouldnt apologize, everyone stresses out and she needed to take time for herself and relax this weekend. No word from her since friday. Told her sunday night (yesterday) that shes got this week in the bag, shes strong and will pull through in one piece. And that I wanna be there for her and if she needs anything to let me know. That was the last text I sent her. Still no response.My gut says that she's just stressed and anxious. Everything will be fine, she just needs time to recover and breath. So I've been telling myself to just give it time and be patient. But finding it hard and questioning my gut.I'm not too sure I know what to do? Shes been distance for over a week now, and idk if it's because relationship anxiety, stress, depression, combination of them? Did I do anything wrong? Does stress/ anxiety/ depression make people push others away like this? How long does this usually last? Did I do Something to put her off? I wanna help her and be there for her but the lack of communication and ignoring my texts is concerning me. And making me second guess her interest in me. Any ideas?
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