Am I in? And how do I make it a thing?

Looking for some advice on my "relationship" with a girl [17] I [17M] know from work. We started as friends and she would ask for advice on what to say to other boys who were pursuing her, but during this time I met her mom, stepdad, dad and brother and went to her house twice (mostly just talking on her bed, and by on her bed I mean me awkwardly sitting on her bed while she wrapped herself in blankets). For the past week or two, we've been going out and just doing whatever almost every other night, even on weeknights. And three days prior to Valentine's day, she started texting me every morning, starting a convo, and we would text all day until we would meet up. The day before Valentine's, I started the convo and we talked until we had work (our shifts started at the same time). She saved me some fries from Maccas and waited for me in the parking lot so she could give them to me and we could walk in together. Initially, my plan was to talk with her the entire shift (like I had a few days before, it was really fun) and then ask her out on a date explicitly (it being valentine's and all) but I got assigned to someone else so we didn't get to talk hardly at all. When it got slow she dropped off a half a bag of skittles and before my shift ended I texted her on snap asking if she wanted to "do anything" after work. Her shift ended half an hour after mine, but she had plans to hang out with her dad that night (her parents are divorced and so she doesnt get to see him that often) but she managed to talk him into letting us go get food for an hour (he was at the store to pick her up), and she had me hang out next to her until her shift ended (even though I wasn't on the clock (although I was absolutely fine with that)). We drove to the food place, got our food and just kind of chilled. The food place thought we were a couple because they gave us heart shaped chocolates, I pointed out the chocolates but we didn't really do anything with them. Then we ate and parted.

Later that night, she sent me a goodnight snap, so I replied with one of my own, and got a very interesting response- "we could've had a kissing booth in my bed tonight, opportunity missed." Trying to be confident for once I said something along the lines of "we can absolutely fix that." She seemed shocked/happy at that and so I asked if she wanted to "hang out this weekend," she said sure, but then I tried asking her if she wanted me to buy her a nice dinner and she said "spend that money on yourself" (I was going to use a bonus I got from work). I wasn't sure if that was a rejection, so the convo died out.

The next day, we didn't really text at all, we snapped a little back and forth but not a lot. At night, I asked if she would be free the following day (today) to hang out and she had work in the afternoon but the morning free, so we decided to go out shopping. But this morning she spent too much time apparently cleaning her room (I offered to help but she said no) and we ended up only getting to meet up for 15 minutes at a coffee shop before she had to go to work. I tried to start another convo over text today, twice, but both times I just got two word responses that I couldn't really do much with (or maybe it's just a placebo now that I think things are falling apart). So basically I don't know if things are falling apart or not, I absolutely want to be a couple but feel like I'm getting mixed signals and I'm so awkward I don't really know how to make it an official thing.

I didn't think I'd write this much but if anyone could please help me out I'd really appreciate it. Where the hell do I go from here? This whole day I've just been feeling nothing and I can't get the thought out of my head that I fucked something up.

Submitted February 17, 2020 at 12:31AM

Looking for some advice on my "relationship" with a girl [17] I [17M] know from work. We started as friends and she would ask for advice on what to say to other boys who were pursuing her, but during this time I met her mom, stepdad, dad and brother and went to her house twice (mostly just talking on her bed, and by on her bed I mean me awkwardly sitting on her bed while she wrapped herself in blankets). For the past week or two, we've been going out and just doing whatever almost every other night, even on weeknights. And three days prior to Valentine's day, she started texting me every morning, starting a convo, and we would text all day until we would meet up. The day before Valentine's, I started the convo and we talked until we had work (our shifts started at the same time). She saved me some fries from Maccas and waited for me in the parking lot so she could give them to me and we could walk in together. Initially, my plan was to talk with her the entire shift (like I had a few days before, it was really fun) and then ask her out on a date explicitly (it being valentine's and all) but I got assigned to someone else so we didn't get to talk hardly at all. When it got slow she dropped off a half a bag of skittles and before my shift ended I texted her on snap asking if she wanted to "do anything" after work. Her shift ended half an hour after mine, but she had plans to hang out with her dad that night (her parents are divorced and so she doesnt get to see him that often) but she managed to talk him into letting us go get food for an hour (he was at the store to pick her up), and she had me hang out next to her until her shift ended (even though I wasn't on the clock (although I was absolutely fine with that)). We drove to the food place, got our food and just kind of chilled. The food place thought we were a couple because they gave us heart shaped chocolates, I pointed out the chocolates but we didn't really do anything with them. Then we ate and parted.Later that night, she sent me a goodnight snap, so I replied with one of my own, and got a very interesting response- "we could've had a kissing booth in my bed tonight, opportunity missed." Trying to be confident for once I said something along the lines of "we can absolutely fix that." She seemed shocked/happy at that and so I asked if she wanted to "hang out this weekend," she said sure, but then I tried asking her if she wanted me to buy her a nice dinner and she said "spend that money on yourself" (I was going to use a bonus I got from work). I wasn't sure if that was a rejection, so the convo died out.The next day, we didn't really text at all, we snapped a little back and forth but not a lot. At night, I asked if she would be free the following day (today) to hang out and she had work in the afternoon but the morning free, so we decided to go out shopping. But this morning she spent too much time apparently cleaning her room (I offered to help but she said no) and we ended up only getting to meet up for 15 minutes at a coffee shop before she had to go to work. I tried to start another convo over text today, twice, but both times I just got two word responses that I couldn't really do much with (or maybe it's just a placebo now that I think things are falling apart). So basically I don't know if things are falling apart or not, I absolutely want to be a couple but feel like I'm getting mixed signals and I'm so awkward I don't really know how to make it an official thing.I didn't think I'd write this much but if anyone could please help me out I'd really appreciate it. Where the hell do I go from here? This whole day I've just been feeling nothing and I can't get the thought out of my head that I fucked something up.