19M needing some help. Do i ask this girl out? If so, how?

. Hi! Another guy asking for advice here, normal stuff. Where do i begin? So, i'm 19M, turning 20 in a few months from now, and the thing is, i've never been in a relationshipp or even kissed a girl before . Now, some people think and even told to me that my situation is kind of a pathetic one, but actually, i'm quite proud of it! Why? because i spent all those years growing as the man i always wanted to be: healthy, gentle, hitting the gym now and then and getting into a well known college here in my country, blah blah.

When i was a freshman in my college i met this girl from a different career, let's call her N (19F) N is a cute and quite charming girl. So N and i became classmates and it wasn't long until she entered my group of friends (we're like 4 boys and 3 girls). We talk a few times since then (like 2 times per week), but i know so little about her, onlu that she LOVES cats, and that she suffers from insecurity problems because of her ex. There were a few times when she showed me photos of herself and asks if she really is cute, obviously i always tell her that she's indeed really cute (never done that before so i felt pretty weird to be honest).

As i told you before i've never had a gf or a date, but i think i'm ready now, but there is a few problems:
1) She likes muscular guys, i'm not. 2) One of my friends asked her out a few weeks ago, he got rejected. That's not a problem for me actually, but i believe this one is: 3) Her insecurities, i think she's kinda obsessed with her ex and don't want to let him go which is worrying me a little.

Right now i'm confused, i want to ask her out but somehow i know i'm gonna get rejected too. I think i'm quite pretty looking but also i'm really shy and sometimes even awkward. I don' t know what to do, i think i'm just gonna be her friend, getting closer and help with her insecurities in anyway i can, but i want an advice too, so i'm all ears right now, i hope you can help me clear my mind, thank you!

(English is not my main language so you might find some typos here and there.)



Submitted February 17, 2020 at 12:23AM

. Hi! Another guy asking for advice here, normal stuff. Where do i begin? So, i'm 19M, turning 20 in a few months from now, and the thing is, i've never been in a relationshipp or even kissed a girl before . Now, some people think and even told to me that my situation is kind of a pathetic one, but actually, i'm quite proud of it! Why? because i spent all those years growing as the man i always wanted to be: healthy, gentle, hitting the gym now and then and getting into a well known college here in my country, blah blah.When i was a freshman in my college i met this girl from a different career, let's call her N (19F) N is a cute and quite charming girl. So N and i became classmates and it wasn't long until she entered my group of friends (we're like 4 boys and 3 girls). We talk a few times since then (like 2 times per week), but i know so little about her, onlu that she LOVES cats, and that she suffers from insecurity problems because of her ex. There were a few times when she showed me photos of herself and asks if she really is cute, obviously i always tell her that she's indeed really cute (never done that before so i felt pretty weird to be honest).As i told you before i've never had a gf or a date, but i think i'm ready now, but there is a few problems:1) She likes muscular guys, i'm not. 2) One of my friends asked her out a few weeks ago, he got rejected. That's not a problem for me actually, but i believe this one is: 3) Her insecurities, i think she's kinda obsessed with her ex and don't want to let him go which is worrying me a little.Right now i'm confused, i want to ask her out but somehow i know i'm gonna get rejected too. I think i'm quite pretty looking but also i'm really shy and sometimes even awkward. I don' t know what to do, i think i'm just gonna be her friend, getting closer and help with her insecurities in anyway i can, but i want an advice too, so i'm all ears right now, i hope you can help me clear my mind, thank you!(English is not my main language so you might find some typos here and there.)
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