If an ex wanted to get back together, is your sexual history during the breakup any of their business?

My ex and I have been broken up for about 4 months now and we’ve reconnected in the past few days. I don’t know for sure but I think he’s going to ask me to get back together. We had a long chat the other night (unfortunately we were both drunk and it’s all quite a blur) and he asked me if I’ve been with anyone since we’ve broken up, which I have. I told him that I did but I lied about the way I met the guy. (Told him he was a friend of a friend when I actually met him on Bumble). I don’t know why I lied but now I feel physically sick with guilt. There were other things that happened while we were apart as well and I feel as though having left them out was technically lying but I also feel like it’s none of his business. We were/are truly broken up, not “on a break” or anything like that, and I know I did not actually do anything wrong (minus the aforementioned lie) but I don’t know if he’d change his mind about wanting to be together if he knew everything. He hasn’t been with anyone else since we broke up.

Basically my question is: does he need to know these things? Am I in the wrong for not disclosing my sexual endeavours while we were apart? Should I feel guilty?

If he does ask me to get back together I do intend to tell him about how I actually met Bumble Guy because I would feel too guilty otherwise.



Submitted December 20, 2019 at 12:11AM

My ex and I have been broken up for about 4 months now and we’ve reconnected in the past few days. I don’t know for sure but I think he’s going to ask me to get back together. We had a long chat the other night (unfortunately we were both drunk and it’s all quite a blur) and he asked me if I’ve been with anyone since we’ve broken up, which I have. I told him that I did but I lied about the way I met the guy. (Told him he was a friend of a friend when I actually met him on Bumble). I don’t know why I lied but now I feel physically sick with guilt. There were other things that happened while we were apart as well and I feel as though having left them out was technically lying but I also feel like it’s none of his business. We were/are truly broken up, not “on a break” or anything like that, and I know I did not actually do anything wrong (minus the aforementioned lie) but I don’t know if he’d change his mind about wanting to be together if he knew everything. He hasn’t been with anyone else since we broke up.Basically my question is: does he need to know these things? Am I in the wrong for not disclosing my sexual endeavours while we were apart? Should I feel guilty?If he does ask me to get back together I do intend to tell him about how I actually met Bumble Guy because I would feel too guilty otherwise.
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