I (35M) Need advice if I should say something to my (33F) "Ex"

I want to keep this semi-short. This girl and I had been seeing each other for about 3 months but no label had ever been put on it. I did a ton of sweet things for her (flowers, breakfast in bed, etc) She also did nice things for me (Good morning texts, massages, etc) Before the split I could tell something was weird but I went to see her anyway, I arrived and we had a casual conversation up until I said something about how I have her and she makes me happy, her face just went pale. I asked her what was going on and she told me she just doesn't feel the same as she used to about me. After a bit of talking I left. She told me she still wants to be friends and I'm a great guy...

I have thought about it over the days that have gone by and want to send her a message that is close to what follows. Need to know if it would be a terrible idea.
Hey, I wanted to let you know that I'm still not sure how I feel about things. I'm confused, but I understand that your feelings changed. I want you to know that I still care for you, and I am willing to try being just friends. But know that I can't just give up on you entirely. I will still hold on to hope but I won't let it hang me up from other possibilities in life.

TL;DR! Should I tell my ex that I'm ok with trying to be just friends with her but let her know that I have hopes that it could still work someday but won't let my feelings hold me back in life?



Submitted December 20, 2019 at 12:27AM

I want to keep this semi-short. This girl and I had been seeing each other for about 3 months but no label had ever been put on it. I did a ton of sweet things for her (flowers, breakfast in bed, etc) She also did nice things for me (Good morning texts, massages, etc) Before the split I could tell something was weird but I went to see her anyway, I arrived and we had a casual conversation up until I said something about how I have her and she makes me happy, her face just went pale. I asked her what was going on and she told me she just doesn't feel the same as she used to about me. After a bit of talking I left. She told me she still wants to be friends and I'm a great guy...I have thought about it over the days that have gone by and want to send her a message that is close to what follows. Need to know if it would be a terrible idea.Hey, I wanted to let you know that I'm still not sure how I feel about things. I'm confused, but I understand that your feelings changed. I want you to know that I still care for you, and I am willing to try being just friends. But know that I can't just give up on you entirely. I will still hold on to hope but I won't let it hang me up from other possibilities in life.TL;DR! Should I tell my ex that I'm ok with trying to be just friends with her but let her know that I have hopes that it could still work someday but won't let my feelings hold me back in life?
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