Update: My boyfriend (34M) broke up wih me (36F) last night. Should I give him a letter or burn it?

Thank you Reddit for all your different perspectives. For those who responded and for those who are interested: Original Post

I sealed the note and left it with his items. To lift my spirits, I baked my coworker 2 lemon meringue pies. A few months ago, I decided to make my manager one after he shared a story about his mother's amazing lemon meringue pie. So I'm happy I kept to my goal and tried a new recipe. My manager's excitement was extremely rewarding along with other coworker's joy.

I came home sad after work to find all his items gone. However, personally, the note gave me a lot of closure. I'm glad I left it. He texted me and thanked me for the note. He said it meant a lot and he was so sorry to have caused me hurt. He added that he hopes we can still be friends. I suggested to him that if he wanted to, we can reconnect in the spring - as it hopefully will be enough time. He said he will keep in touch.

I been watching TedX talks to keep a positive perspective. I cannot always control what life dishes out at me. However, I can control my emotions, my actions, and my perspective.

In the mean time, a few remote friends have gotten in touch. I'm planning some road trips to visit old friends. Also, I may make plans with another friend to travel internationally next year. International travel is a huge life priority. I am a bit relieve don't need to delicately juggle this goal with a relationship.

Also, thank you u/180090DayFiance. Your comment assured me to make the choice.

And, thank you u/sleepybeta, for the encouragement while you are going through the same situation yourself. I hope you feel better today.

tl:dr - Left the note to let him know I understand and thanked him for 3 years. I feel better. He thanked me. Hopefully someday we can be friends.

Submitted November 25, 2019 at 11:58PM

Thank you Reddit for all your different perspectives. For those who responded and for those who are interested: Original PostI sealed the note and left it with his items. To lift my spirits, I baked my coworker 2 lemon meringue pies. A few months ago, I decided to make my manager one after he shared a story about his mother's amazing lemon meringue pie. So I'm happy I kept to my goal and tried a new recipe. My manager's excitement was extremely rewarding along with other coworker's joy.I came home sad after work to find all his items gone. However, personally, the note gave me a lot of closure. I'm glad I left it. He texted me and thanked me for the note. He said it meant a lot and he was so sorry to have caused me hurt. He added that he hopes we can still be friends. I suggested to him that if he wanted to, we can reconnect in the spring - as it hopefully will be enough time. He said he will keep in touch.I been watching TedX talks to keep a positive perspective. I cannot always control what life dishes out at me. However, I can control my emotions, my actions, and my perspective.In the mean time, a few remote friends have gotten in touch. I'm planning some road trips to visit old friends. Also, I may make plans with another friend to travel internationally next year. International travel is a huge life priority. I am a bit relieve don't need to delicately juggle this goal with a relationship.Also, thank you u/180090DayFiance. Your comment assured me to make the choice.And, thank you u/sleepybeta, for the encouragement while you are going through the same situation yourself. I hope you feel better today.tl:dr - Left the note to let him know I understand and thanked him for 3 years. I feel better. He thanked me. Hopefully someday we can be friends.