My (27F) Father (65M) Wants to Marry Someone He's Never Met

I made this throw away account for obvious reasons, but I write this with an extremely heavy heart.

Some backstory if you want, or you can skip ahead to current events....

My father has always been my hero. He raised both me (27F) and my older sister (35F) as our Mom lost custody of us during their divorce (after 22 years of marriage) when I was ten. He is a very outgoing, friendly guy, and anyone who meets him likes him. He would give his shirt off his back to help a stranger out. My sister and I are very close with our father and visit him regularly; however, this year has been harder to visit with my sister having a baby and me starting college.

After the divorce, he found a new girlfriend through a mutual friend, and they were together for 17 years until she broke up with him just after new years this year. He had given her $60,000 or more to renovate her house (they did not live together), and he gave her daughter $20,000 to go towards a down payment on a house. She promised to pay him back but hasn't yet... he is retired and lives alone.

After that break-up, he reconnected with his high school sweet-heart and she was supposed to fly in to spend the month with him. He paid for her plane ticket and everything, but THE DAY BEFORE she was supposed to come, she had a family emergency and had to cancel the trip. Then his dog was attacked by two large dogs off leash and unfortunately died. Shortly after, my Dad sliced open his hand while fixing the motor on a seadoo. And if that isn't enough, his childhood best friend served stabbed my Dad in the back.

All of this happened in a short time, and my Dad hasn't really been the same since. He is taking medication for depression for years already, and I knew that this past summer changed him.

Fast forward to now:

Another childhood friend of my Dad's (who lives long distance and hasn't actually seen my Dad in decades) went to the Philippines and married a much younger woman. He told my Dad how Filipino women are so different than people from here, how they have more respect, love, and would do anything for you. it feels like he sold my Dad on this idea that a Filipino woman would solve all his problems! My Dad's friend's (much younger) wife introduced one of her friends to my Dad, and they've been talking for about a month or two and now my Dad is thinking about moving to the Philippines and buying property down there. WHAT!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! He has grand kids up here, and I am worried that my Dad will be taken advantage of (because he has a history of being too nice and being taken advantage of).

I am SOOOOO WORRIED for him, I am literally sick to my stomach thinking about losing my father to this mystery woman in the Philippines.

Alas, I ask you, reddit...... what would you do? or if you don't have any advice but maybe have a similar story, please share how it played out.

Thank you.

(TL:DR: My retired father is charming and friendly, has a history of being too giving and being taken advantage of in relationships (talking about lending out $100k that he cannot afford to lend). Has a string of horrible events take place this summer, and a history of depression. Childhood friend he hasn't seen in decades pops up in his life through Facebook, and sells him on the idea that Filipino women will solve his problems. Introduced him to a Filipino woman, and wants to marry her after 2 months of talking.)

Submitted November 25, 2019 at 11:13PM

I made this throw away account for obvious reasons, but I write this with an extremely heavy heart.Some backstory if you want, or you can skip ahead to current events....My father has always been my hero. He raised both me (27F) and my older sister (35F) as our Mom lost custody of us during their divorce (after 22 years of marriage) when I was ten. He is a very outgoing, friendly guy, and anyone who meets him likes him. He would give his shirt off his back to help a stranger out. My sister and I are very close with our father and visit him regularly; however, this year has been harder to visit with my sister having a baby and me starting college.After the divorce, he found a new girlfriend through a mutual friend, and they were together for 17 years until she broke up with him just after new years this year. He had given her $60,000 or more to renovate her house (they did not live together), and he gave her daughter $20,000 to go towards a down payment on a house. She promised to pay him back but hasn't yet... he is retired and lives alone.After that break-up, he reconnected with his high school sweet-heart and she was supposed to fly in to spend the month with him. He paid for her plane ticket and everything, but THE DAY BEFORE she was supposed to come, she had a family emergency and had to cancel the trip. Then his dog was attacked by two large dogs off leash and unfortunately died. Shortly after, my Dad sliced open his hand while fixing the motor on a seadoo. And if that isn't enough, his childhood best friend served stabbed my Dad in the back.All of this happened in a short time, and my Dad hasn't really been the same since. He is taking medication for depression for years already, and I knew that this past summer changed him.Fast forward to now:Another childhood friend of my Dad's (who lives long distance and hasn't actually seen my Dad in decades) went to the Philippines and married a much younger woman. He told my Dad how Filipino women are so different than people from here, how they have more respect, love, and would do anything for you. it feels like he sold my Dad on this idea that a Filipino woman would solve all his problems! My Dad's friend's (much younger) wife introduced one of her friends to my Dad, and they've been talking for about a month or two and now my Dad is thinking about moving to the Philippines and buying property down there. WHAT!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! He has grand kids up here, and I am worried that my Dad will be taken advantage of (because he has a history of being too nice and being taken advantage of).I am SOOOOO WORRIED for him, I am literally sick to my stomach thinking about losing my father to this mystery woman in the Philippines.Alas, I ask you, reddit...... what would you do? or if you don't have any advice but maybe have a similar story, please share how it played out.Thank you.(TL:DR: My retired father is charming and friendly, has a history of being too giving and being taken advantage of in relationships (talking about lending out $100k that he cannot afford to lend). Has a string of horrible events take place this summer, and a history of depression. Childhood friend he hasn't seen in decades pops up in his life through Facebook, and sells him on the idea that Filipino women will solve his problems. Introduced him to a Filipino woman, and wants to marry her after 2 months of talking.)