(24f) my friends acting distant when they get boyfriends

My friends and I have all been super close the last few years, with none of us gavjng serious relationships. I have never had a serious boyfriend.

However, two of my closest friends recently have gotten boyfriends. I moved two hours awaysince then So I haven’t been around them much. But I am worried that they are going into MIA boyfriend mode.

For example, I planned a Friendsgiving and invited my one friend S. I planned this like a month ago and she had been saying she missed me and was excited for this dinner. However, the day of the event came and she ended up not coming because her bf came to town to visit and they wanted to watch a fight. I was pretty upset, I haven’t seen her in a month. She said she was sorry, but I never responded to her text. She doesn’t seem to care much cause she hasn’t reached back out since. We rarely talk since she got her new boyfriend.

My one friend A also has similar habits. This was someone I called my best friend for years, but then she started dating someone and now we never speak. I last spoke(including texting & snap chatting) on her bday in October. She comes to my city to visit her boyfriend- but often doesn’t even tell me she’s here and I see that she’s in town by her stories. She responded to my story today and asked if I was home, and I just feel like it’s forced/ weird now. Like she’s only reaching out once every few months when it’s convenient for her.

I don’t know what to do cause I think it is normal for people to pair off. It’s hard for me to understand cause I never have relationships and run on my own mostly. But how can I accept that? It makes me sad to think I will lose these friendships once everyone gets a boyfriend.

tl;dr: friends not speaking to me as much when they get boyfriends and seeming to not care anymore



Submitted November 25, 2019 at 11:04PM

My friends and I have all been super close the last few years, with none of us gavjng serious relationships. I have never had a serious boyfriend.However, two of my closest friends recently have gotten boyfriends. I moved two hours awaysince then So I haven’t been around them much. But I am worried that they are going into MIA boyfriend mode.For example, I planned a Friendsgiving and invited my one friend S. I planned this like a month ago and she had been saying she missed me and was excited for this dinner. However, the day of the event came and she ended up not coming because her bf came to town to visit and they wanted to watch a fight. I was pretty upset, I haven’t seen her in a month. She said she was sorry, but I never responded to her text. She doesn’t seem to care much cause she hasn’t reached back out since. We rarely talk since she got her new boyfriend.My one friend A also has similar habits. This was someone I called my best friend for years, but then she started dating someone and now we never speak. I last spoke(including texting & snap chatting) on her bday in October. She comes to my city to visit her boyfriend- but often doesn’t even tell me she’s here and I see that she’s in town by her stories. She responded to my story today and asked if I was home, and I just feel like it’s forced/ weird now. Like she’s only reaching out once every few months when it’s convenient for her.I don’t know what to do cause I think it is normal for people to pair off. It’s hard for me to understand cause I never have relationships and run on my own mostly. But how can I accept that? It makes me sad to think I will lose these friendships once everyone gets a boyfriend.tl;dr: friends not speaking to me as much when they get boyfriends and seeming to not care anymore
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