First Relationship; What’s too far?

I [16F] just recently got into my first relationship with my now boyfriend [16M]. I come from a town where fast and intimate relationships are SO common at my age, even younger. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 weeks now, and honestly things are going great between us so far. HOWEVER, he’s already asked to do some more intimate stuff that I’m not used to at all, like touch my chest and bottom and make out (he’s never had a proper relationship before this, so I think he’s also trying to explore this to the fullest). I know he doesn’t mean ill-will towards me, especially since I brought up my concerns of us going to fast since we’ve already kissed and said our “I love you”s.

I’m worried I might lose the actual feeling aspect of the relationship and end up accidentally using him just to say “Oh look at me, I have a boyfriend!” which he does not deserve. I’m also afraid of, since he’s asked to do such intimate stuff only two weeks into our relationship, that he might be using me because I’m easy, which his long time friends assure me he’s not. I just don’t want us to get too invested into each other when we might just be toxic for each other without realizing. It’s scary. I should add that we’ve only known each other for almost 2 months now, which feels bizarre to me that it’s ONLY been 2 months as we’ve been talking nonstop since. I haven’t been this happy in a while, so I really don’t want it to be ‘fake’.

I have close friends who’ve gone MUCH farther with their SOs over the course of less than a few months. I admit I used to be so insanely jealous over that, hence my worry of me using him just as some trophy. We’re close to the age of consent but I’m not ready to go too much farther than we’ve already gone, but I also don’t want to offend him since he’s been so nice about it and not pressuring me into anything.

TL;DR I’m wondering if I’m being stupidly anxious over something that I shouldn’t worry over thinking he might be a danger to me or the other way around, or if I should just put my foot down and tell him to back off despite me having no major problems with him getting intimate with me. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated!

Submitted November 25, 2019 at 11:24PM

I [16F] just recently got into my first relationship with my now boyfriend [16M]. I come from a town where fast and intimate relationships are SO common at my age, even younger. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 weeks now, and honestly things are going great between us so far. HOWEVER, he’s already asked to do some more intimate stuff that I’m not used to at all, like touch my chest and bottom and make out (he’s never had a proper relationship before this, so I think he’s also trying to explore this to the fullest). I know he doesn’t mean ill-will towards me, especially since I brought up my concerns of us going to fast since we’ve already kissed and said our “I love you”s.I’m worried I might lose the actual feeling aspect of the relationship and end up accidentally using him just to say “Oh look at me, I have a boyfriend!” which he does not deserve. I’m also afraid of, since he’s asked to do such intimate stuff only two weeks into our relationship, that he might be using me because I’m easy, which his long time friends assure me he’s not. I just don’t want us to get too invested into each other when we might just be toxic for each other without realizing. It’s scary. I should add that we’ve only known each other for almost 2 months now, which feels bizarre to me that it’s ONLY been 2 months as we’ve been talking nonstop since. I haven’t been this happy in a while, so I really don’t want it to be ‘fake’.I have close friends who’ve gone MUCH farther with their SOs over the course of less than a few months. I admit I used to be so insanely jealous over that, hence my worry of me using him just as some trophy. We’re close to the age of consent but I’m not ready to go too much farther than we’ve already gone, but I also don’t want to offend him since he’s been so nice about it and not pressuring me into anything.TL;DR I’m wondering if I’m being stupidly anxious over something that I shouldn’t worry over thinking he might be a danger to me or the other way around, or if I should just put my foot down and tell him to back off despite me having no major problems with him getting intimate with me. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated!