Is cumming inside someone without permission sexual assault or just "a douchy-move"?

I explicitly told him before we had sex that I didn't want him to do it. After he did it, I became angry and he said "it's not like I raped you". This just made me more angry, because I view what he did, not necessarily as rape, but at least sexual assault, since he did it without my consent. He said at bare minimum it was "a douchy-move, and that he wouldn't do it again".

And yes, I'm dumping him, because no matter if it's sexual assault or not, I do not wish to be with someone who can't respect my boundaries and breaks my trust. However, I'm still wondering if cumming inside someone without permission is sexual assault or just "a douchy-move"? I feel like if I were in public, and was discussing it with someone, I'd hesitate to call it sexual assault (even though in my head I can't help but think it is).

EDIT: If he did it accidentally and was sorry, I wouldn't see it as sexual assault. But maybe that's too complicated.

Submitted April 17, 2019 at 06:35AM

I explicitly told him before we had sex that I didn't want him to do it. After he did it, I became angry and he said "it's not like I raped you". This just made me more angry, because I view what he did, not necessarily as rape, but at least sexual assault, since he did it without my consent. He said at bare minimum it was "a douchy-move, and that he wouldn't do it again".And yes, I'm dumping him, because no matter if it's sexual assault or not, I do not wish to be with someone who can't respect my boundaries and breaks my trust. However, I'm still wondering if cumming inside someone without permission is sexual assault or just "a douchy-move"? I feel like if I were in public, and was discussing it with someone, I'd hesitate to call it sexual assault (even though in my head I can't help but think it is).EDIT: If he did it accidentally and was sorry, I wouldn't see it as sexual assault. But maybe that's too complicated.