I just finished my second year of college, and so far I've had pretty few dating prospects or opportunities. There have been a few dates that haven't really gone anywhere. One person I really really liked, but lives states away. So like 3-4 months ago I downloaded the three big dating apps (hinge, bumble, tinder). It was fun at first, but now I kind of feel desperate just scrolling hoping that someone will come along and it will finally be something. Across all those apps, I have had hundreds and hundreds of matches. I'm just starting to feel disheartened because if out of hundreds and hundreds of people I haven't been able to find one that I want to go on more than a few days with, or one that I really like that also will go on a date with me. It just kind of feels like I'm doing something wrong, or I'm not understanding something.... I think it's bad for my health, and I'm using these apps more for a game of who thinks I'm cute or just for swipi...

Anxiety’s anxiety either way. OCD’s just another anxiety disorder. Although I am really happy to hear something’s helping. I hope it keeps helping. July 01, 2022 at 12:10AM

so ive been having a period where im trying to basically do everything to improve myself. working out a lot, socializing with people way more than usual, going out, working on fashion etc but still feel like same things keep happening. ill meet someone and it goes well (at least I think), I get some texts back then a few days later they ghost. Or I'll meet someone in a class or etc Im taking and they are super nice and friendly (months long thing) and then I try to make plans and they just stop responding. basically I feel like im getting friend zoned so much or a girl has second thoughts the day after or two and is getting me VERY frustrated. I'm even starting to get real bitterness about the opposite gender which I never had before like this, and something I don't want but it's just frustrating the hell out of me. I don't know what to do just expressing my honest thoughts right now bc it just gets me really mad when I dont feel like im getting treated like a h...

I'll probably get crazy hate for this but I'm trying to settle down and a serious question. Exception being she's an immigrant and grew up religious. She came to the states during her teens. She's a very mature and sweet girl but simetimed while out she can't control herself around other guys while she's with me. Just constant eye f'ing, playing with her hair, and stretching so het chest extends out. But she says she in crazy love with me and I can definitely see the effort she puts in. Though I can also know she can be very sneaky if she wants to be. I've lived in Miami before for a few years and I know how the hook up life is down there. I know people will cheat anywhere if they want to but I've always heard Miami girls are just not loyal at all and I can sort of see that. I mean I'm being biased I guess and paranoid from being cheated on so much lol. We currently have a long distance relationship and we're thinking of taking it to the n...

Batman! June 30, 2022 at 11:30PM

I work with this girl about 4 years younger than me.. I just turned 24m and she is 19 about to be 20. she is beyond hard to read but somehow I’m oddly attracted to her. I really want to make a move and just say fuck it.. the denial I guess it’s what’s most scary even though I know she’s well within my “league”.. how should I go about this? Submitted June 30, 2022 at 01:14AM I work with this girl about 4 years younger than me.. I just turned 24m and she is 19 about to be 20. she is beyond hard to read but somehow I’m oddly attracted to her. I really want to make a move and just say fuck it.. the denial I guess it’s what’s most scary even though I know she’s well within my “league”.. how should I go about this?

Glad you like the advice. Be advised it doesn’t always work I’m afraid June 30, 2022 at 12:19AM

Crochet. I started knitting but still only seem able to knit scarfs ( for humans and cats 💜) June 30, 2022 at 12:18AM

If a guy is used to getting chased by girls all the time, will he notice the one girl that doesn’t chase after him? Submitted June 30, 2022 at 12:13AM If a guy is used to getting chased by girls all the time, will he notice the one girl that doesn’t chase after him?

And aaaaallll the way in the back. June 29, 2022 at 11:16PM

I don't really believe in the general narrative of porn addiction. . .of course you can get addicted to anything but not the way the NoFap guys say. Are you going to college? They should have student counselors and access to therapists. June 29, 2022 at 11:13PM

Wow I didn't try to date until I was like 18 June 29, 2022 at 12:31AM

Nice nails and nice socks! Sorry someone said that to your friend. Really sucks that people can’t view eachother as regular good old human beings ever. We are all different and deserve to be treated the same June 29, 2022 at 12:30AM

Hey guys, I need some advice for moving forward. I started talking to a girl, and went on some dates with her. From the start I could tell she was different to me than the other girls I’ve dated, and I wanted to make things official. However, this is where the real shit comes in. She confessed to me that she has a leg and back condition, and if it doesn’t get treated she’ll die. She told me she didn’t want to be with someone in a relationship if she died, and she has to get through her treatment and then she can get together with me. Should I wait for her, or should I let her go and get with someone else? Submitted June 28, 2022 at 11:33PM Hey guys, I need some advice for moving forward. I started talking to a girl, and went on some dates with her. From the start I could tell she was different to me than the other girls I’ve dated, and I wanted to make things official. However, this is where the real shit comes in. She confessed to me that she has a leg and back condition, and i...

I text her many Times a day, she anserw me and go offline. It take her some hours to anserw. I always text her first. Most of People are saying that if she would like me she would text earlier and faster and even first. But the way she text to me looks like she likes me. She send me her pics when I didnt even ask her to do it, she is supportive and I think i love her but I dont know does her love me too. I dont know does she even like me. So what do you think, is it Worth it to continue to texting to her or should I give up? Submitted June 28, 2022 at 08:25PM I text her many Times a day, she anserw me and go offline. It take her some hours to anserw. I always text her first. Most of People are saying that if she would like me she would text earlier and faster and even first. But the way she text to me looks like she likes me. She send me her pics when I didnt even ask her to do it, she is supportive and I think i love her but I dont know does her love me too. I dont know does sh...

First encountered her two years ago at this other gym I used to go to. I nicknamed her Ariana Grande due to her resembling her when she was on Victorious. Even has the same soft voice. Anyway, ever since then, she would always stare at me. And I mean stare, as in just stand there between her rest sets looking right at me. Even lowkey followed me around. Even at the new gym I’m at now. She’s even broken neck while she’s passing the treadmill in front of me while I do cardio. I tried small talking her a few times but she seems rather shy. Few words here and there but not much further. Only ever seen her talk to one other guy but that was long while ago, she’s always by herself and her phone. Not sure how to approach it. Obviously can’t go up and say “I’ve noticed you staring at me for two years” lol. Submitted June 29, 2022 at 12:12AM First encountered her two years ago at this other gym I used to go to. I nicknamed her Ariana Grande due to her resembling her when she was on Vi...

Definitely I’ve come across this several times on a LGBT sub, there was a heterosexual man who realised he was bi-romantic, a person who was homosexual and hetero-romantic as well as others. June 28, 2022 at 11:15PM

Yay for this— but seriously, an “abomination?” Because you only are sexually attracted to a small handful of people? There is no strong social more attached to this idea. This is a nonsensical insult. An “aberration,” maybe, but whoever this “friend” is, their vocabulary is seriously lacking. Don’t let the bastards get ya down! June 28, 2022 at 11:14PM

So basically I (19M) was in a relationship with my ex now (17F) for 2 months and I broke it up and I want to know if I did the right thing. Basically me and her were really close for a while like 1/2 years but we never really said anything and I didn’t want to ruin what we had so we just kept doing whatever we had going on like we cuddled and everything but idk why I didn’t ask her out. And then we one day finally we accepted it to each other and then she had to move with her family to the USA (I’m in canada). And she moved so far from me and we were actually only in a relationship for a week. After she moved we talked on call for a while but then she got caught of being in a relationship (she wasn’t allowed to be in one) so then we couldn’t really talk and so we always only texted and even when we video called we only typed and it was just so fucking depressing to one point cause like I couldn’t ever talk to her and me being in my first year of uni looking at people together with t...

Honestly? As an ace guy who didn’t realize until I was nearly 30? I think there’s a lot of us - especially men - who just…don’t even know what all asexuality entails. And even when you do know, it’s kind of hard to accept it about yourself for multiple reasons. June 27, 2022 at 11:35PM

If you don't moisturize , you might be a wrinkly raisin by 45. June 27, 2022 at 11:34PM

What would your opinion be on the following: you just started dating a girl 3 months ago. The first two months all was fine. Met up once per week, started a sexual relationship, went out on dates. On the days that you don’t meet you would ask to (video)call and play a game together (at least 3 times in a week). Then the girl goes on holiday, you start communicating less (instead of max 3 / 4 hours, almost 8+ hours). She comes back and is worried and you tell her you are sick and got COVID two weeks ago. Then two weeks go by and you don’t ask to call anymore or hang out (but you do mention you’re still sick, even if you did go out with friends one week ago). You still however keep texting. Sometimes on time, sometimes late. When the girl distances herself you start texting her more… What do you think happened here? Am I overthinking? Also, he added his “toxic” ex back on social media. The one he couldn’t stop talking negatively about during the first month of dating 🙄 Submitted J...

yeah fr, this just sounds like someone being bitter lol June 27, 2022 at 11:34PM

No. Plenty of asexuals have sex and even love it. We just have little to no sexual attraction toward any gender. June 27, 2022 at 01:19AM

My ex (20M) and I (20M) broke up this past winter because he felt like he couldn’t provide what he needed in the relationship. Essentially it boiled down to him thinking I was better off without him; he had low self-esteem, and thought I was upset because he couldn’t hang out much due to his crazy school / work schedule. He also had pressure from his parents, whom he was closeted to. Anyways, it was really difficult for both of us. We were very in love, and for me, I didn’t really think it had to end, but of course it wasn’t my decision to make. We talked for a few weeks, then went quiet for a couple months. Up until about a month ago, we texted maybe once every few weeks, usually I initiated contact. But then a month ago he started talking to me again; asking how I am, what I’m up to, how the family is. He then kind of rambled on (in text) saying how he really missed me, and he’s “tortured” by the thought of me / missing “us”, and he feels so guilty for what happened. And he wishes...

I just don't get it. It's something I hardly think about. Just an activity I associate with another group. Generally it doesn't occur to me to think about Hanukka, or Kwanzaa, or Ramadan, or World Cup [something] unless I see a picture or article that diverts my attention to it. Then I'm no more than very mildly curious: " it's a big deal to some people" kind of way, and then go back to thinking about getting caught up with chores, or whatever. Ok, maybe a teeny exaggeration to make my point, which is that I almost never think about the sex act unbidden. I am however, intrigued about the psychological angle of different orientations. Even when I'm pondering this issue, I just don't imagine people " doing it". I'm not excited by it, nor am I repelled by it. It's just not in my head space. I can't even imagine going around with sexual thoughts swirling around in one's mind. How do people like that drive without getting i...

me tbh. just a straight dude who doesn't like sex. very much pro-lgbt+ though. June 27, 2022 at 12:26AM

for starters I am a 22 year old F, i recently just got out of a 2 year relationship and im so conflicted and stuck. so on one hand i feel guilty for leaving my ex they’re still so in love with me and it hurts to know that im making them feel this way but i don’t feel guilty enough to get back with them. on the next hand i have been going on dates and actually living my best life tbh but now i have this boy begging to be my boyfriend and i keep saying i’ll think about it but now im meeting all his family and he’s introducing me as his girlfriend but a part of me feels like i just got single after 2 years why do we have to rush into things?? whats should i do ?? Submitted June 27, 2022 at 12:08AM for starters I am a 22 year old F, i recently just got out of a 2 year relationship and im so conflicted and stuck. so on one hand i feel guilty for leaving my ex they’re still so in love with me and it hurts to know that im making them feel this way but i don’t feel guilty enough to get ...

Title. I’m a black man and it’s just really unfortunate being apart of the demographic of men that women by-in-large tend to be afraid of. Sometimes I wish I was white or at the very least appeared less black (sorry if that offends anyone lmao). Submitted June 27, 2022 at 12:12AM Title. I’m a black man and it’s just really unfortunate being apart of the demographic of men that women by-in-large tend to be afraid of.Sometimes I wish I was white or at the very least appeared less black (sorry if that offends anyone lmao).

I'm currently talking to two people. And I like them both. I cant decide right now and I'd like to go on an in person date before deciding. But is that ok? I've had this happen to me, so I've assumed it was ok. Then I remembered it made me feel kinda crappy after someone broke up with me for this reason. Any advice would be appreciated. Submitted June 26, 2022 at 01:07AM I'm currently talking to two people. And I like them both. I cant decide right now and I'd like to go on an in person date before deciding. But is that ok? I've had this happen to me, so I've assumed it was ok. Then I remembered it made me feel kinda crappy after someone broke up with me for this reason. Any advice would be appreciated.

Did getting a better body help your dating prospects? Submitted June 26, 2022 at 01:08AM Did getting a better body help your dating prospects?

Am from Kenya currently working in Dubai for the last almost 5 years now. My cousin has come up here a couple of times to visit but this time round she brought her besty with her. I know her besty and her family, it's been a while since the last time I saw her. When my cousin told me she is bringing a friend along I didn't think it was her until I met her. On Friday I was off work so I call my cousin up told her I was gonna drop by and say hi and we catch up a little. I reach there, I go up to her appointment I walk in and there she was. I looked at her her besty and asked my cousin who she was and she told it's (LO) Amma call her that. She came over gave me a hug I was still in disbelief cause this girl had grown up in to fine sexy gorgeous young woman, I couldn't keep my eyes off her. After a while we started talking to some family members and my big brother goes ahead and asks me if I found someone or dating. I told no then him and my cousin started looking at LO an...

I want a "romance-only relationship". (Mine) It depends on your flavour of asexuality. Either: "I'm just seeking a platonic relationship" "I don't want a relationship" "I want a conventional relationship, but..." Or something else very blunt. June 26, 2022 at 12:42AM

Y E S June 26, 2022 at 12:40AM

Thank you, I was trying formulate this reply but words are hard lol June 26, 2022 at 12:39AM

I have quite few girls in my friends group and they found a girl for almost anyone in my group except me. They just look at one member of the group and be like "I think that you're gonna match with this friend of mine". I never got that, they probably even didn't think of me as a potential candidate for their friend for some reason. I'm starting to think that i'm just ugly or something cause i can't find another explanation. It just feels bad to see that i never got a "Hey, i think that this girl would be great for you", never. And i don't think i'm that ugly or that bad as a person so...it just hurts. Btw we're all around 20yo and the girls are generally pretty hot and with good personalities even, so they're not reccomending bad people. What are your thoughts about this? Submitted June 26, 2022 at 12:12AM I have quite few girls in my friends group and they found a girl for almost anyone in my group except me.They jus...

I thought the date went well, no silences. Plenty of laughs, walked her back to her car and kissed for a few seconds. She doesn’t text for a few days so I ask her if she’s still interested and apparently not. She didn’t do it out of feeling obligation or sketchiness did she? It WAS midnight but- I don’t get it Submitted June 25, 2022 at 01:12AM I thought the date went well, no silences. Plenty of laughs, walked her back to her car and kissed for a few seconds. She doesn’t text for a few days so I ask her if she’s still interested and apparently not.She didn’t do it out of feeling obligation or sketchiness did she? It WAS midnight but- I don’t get it

Challenge accepted . June 25, 2022 at 12:31AM

What in the old-school Buzzfeed? June 25, 2022 at 12:31AM

I know people have different opinions on what is and isn't considered cheating, but I'm curious as to what you guys think. Submitted June 25, 2022 at 12:02AM I know people have different opinions on what is and isn't considered cheating, but I'm curious as to what you guys think.

“Normal”, “is asexual as you”. Yes because theres normal and not, and asexuality is based on if you’re ace enough and not you know a spectrum of sexual attraction defined by your own experiences. When I see these comments I just know these people are bigoted in other areas of life too and hold a very narrow view of what’s ‘normal’. June 24, 2022 at 11:21PM

FINAL BOSS BATTLE: ANONYMOUS AROACE 100% IMMUNITY AGAINST OOH SEXY 🔥 50% IMMUNITY AGAINST BAD PUN ATTACKS AND GARLIC BREAD ATTACK BONUSES June 24, 2022 at 11:20PM

I’m ace and my partner isn’t. Currently he’s not sure about his sexuality, but I do know that he enjoys sex. The thing for us is that while sex is enjoyable for him, it’s not a necessity and he could go without it, and I’m willing to have sex even though I’m sex repulsed to please him. We’re both perfectly happy where we’re at. <3 June 24, 2022 at 12:30AM

​ Hey guys, my girlfriend and I, well..ex, lasted for 13 months. Our relationship was not perfect, and not the "fairest" in hindsight, but it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. For a guy who was really insecure ever since I was kid because of my appearance and personality, after going through a revamp, I finally got one! She made me feel loved, appreciated and "enough". For a guy who always had trouble making close friends, she filled that void. Having your partner be your best friend is one of the best things in the world. I was, and still am so grateful for her, that I vowed to never lie to her, and I never did. We've always had rough patches, the root being my inability to meet up with her. This was a big deal for her cause quality time together was her love language and I just couldn't be there for her due to the pandemic and my dad being an overbearing megalomaniac (a story for another day). She broke up with me several times but t...

I have no problem with my boyfriend having friends. The only issue I have is that I've never met them. He's met all of mine, everyone I've ever met and he knows everything we do together. But when I ask "When can I meet your friends?" The answer is always "Soon" or "I don't want you to be pulled into drama." It's a very strange answer. I thought nothing of it at first, but my intrusive thoughts are getting the best of me. I don't know if it's normal to feel this way, or if I should try harder to ignore it. Something about it feels off. How can I sit him down and talk about this? I trust him, but this one just makes me uncomfortable. Submitted June 24, 2022 at 12:01AM I have no problem with my boyfriend having friends. The only issue I have is that I've never met them. He's met all of mine, everyone I've ever met and he knows everything we do together. But when I ask "When can I meet your friends?" T...

I'm Attracted to a beautiful girl not just physically. I love her personality and she has a lot of the same shared interests as me. I get the greatest feeling everytime I talk to her. I've known her for a couple of months now and I have actually had many good chats with her through messages. But the problem is that she never starts a conversation even if we always have really enjoyable talks for hours. I have invited her to hangout twice already and she came up with an excuse each time. But I also know that she has strict parents, could that explain why she seems so distant despite our great late night talks? Does she like me back or this all just one sided? Submitted June 24, 2022 at 12:11AM I'm Attracted to a beautiful girl not just physically. I love her personality and she has a lot of the same shared interests as me. I get the greatest feeling everytime I talk to her. I've known her for a couple of months now and I have actually had many good chats with her ...

I liked this girl for a while, she’s very sweet and beautiful. We’d talk a fair bit in person at school sophomore year before covid, and I always felt we had some nice similarities. Now as seniors, I still find her attractive but we just never got around to talking as much, but we had an actual conversation at a prom after party and she said to me I had “a very alluring personality” and that she “could tell there was more than I let on” because I’m typically very sarcastic/cracking jokes in school and never quite somber. We both seemed happy talk to each other and personally that was one of the best compliments I’ve received. However, I just don’t think I have enough time before college, and I honestly don’t know if I’m reading into it too much. I was slightly drunk and as was she, so I just don’t really know how to navigate this because I don’t want to harm her impression of me regardless of if we date or not for misinterpreting her compliment. I know she at least likes me but showin...

we sit and talk a bit in college after class tho we're not really close how do i respond ? This is pretty much my first time going on a date with someone as an adult haha Submitted June 24, 2022 at 12:14AM we sit and talk a bit in college after class tho we're not really close how do i respond ? This is pretty much my first time going on a date with someone as an adult haha

Oh now I'm confused haha. Asexual just means that there's no sexual attraction to the person, but...some can still enjoy sex. Such as sex positive asexuals. And they can still experience a romantic desire/attraction. So if someone was asexual but had no preference for what sexual parts someone had. Then they could still be pansexual, wouldn't they? June 23, 2022 at 11:44PM

As other commenters have said, just because you said ‘yes’ doesn’t really mean it was consensual. If you have to be pressured into it then it isn’t. It’s really no surprise that you would feel this way about these situations regardless of your sexual orientation - I agree that this sounds like borderline rape/sexual assault. You may be asexual, you may not be, at 16 you’re still really young, and there’s no need to label yourself yet unless it’s something that you feel is helpful to you. Your stories resonate a lot with me, and unfortunately I went through a lot of trauma as a teenager because of experiences like these. One of the challenges that can come with being asexual is that because you don’t know what it’s like to want something (sex, intimacy), it’s harder to be sure that you don’t want it. Because I thought sex was something I was just supposed to like and would like when it happened, I ended up agreeing to it when I shouldn’t have after being pressured into it. If there’s...

So me (18M) and my now Ex girlfriend (18f) have just broken up (we’ve been dating for about 4 years before our breakup) because she’s trying to work on her self and tells me to see other people so that we can work on what we want for the future but I told her that I’m not looking for any other relationship. And so she isn’t looking for a relation ship but she tells me she’s feeling the same emotions she had when we first started dating. I’m trying to make her feel special and show her that I’m willing to make this work again and I’m wanting to reignite this relationship again. Submitted June 22, 2022 at 11:52PM So me (18M) and my now Ex girlfriend (18f) have just broken up (we’ve been dating for about 4 years before our breakup) because she’s trying to work on her self and tells me to see other people so that we can work on what we want for the future but I told her that I’m not looking for any other relationship. And so she isn’t looking for a relation ship but she tells me she...

I've just finished my undergrad and am starting a masters. My exes and men I've dated have all been my age or a year older at most. Thing is, eventually their childishness drives me crazy. I hate being put into a motherly role by men Im dating- I want an equal. Recently I went on a date with a 27 year old. Didn't go anywhere, we texted a little after but he got a little flakey. I felt we really gelled. He seemed more like me than the last 23-25 year olds I've dated. I ended up going on 2 dates with a 29 year (scary I know, but he's gorgeous). I'm very sceptical of age gaps, but they've been 2 of the best dates or my life. I've always laughed when girls my age want to date older men but I'm lowkey thinking I should be trying men in their late 20s. Is it stupid? Submitted June 22, 2022 at 11:53PM I've just finished my undergrad and am starting a masters. My exes and men I've dated have all been my age or a year older at most. Thing is, e...

Seeing this guy who is 32. So far he is very nice but there have been some weird moments and I’m not sure if these are red flags. 1.) on Father’s Day I asked how he was and he said “nobody has texted me happy Father’s Day yet so great” 2.) second date he introduced me to his friends but half way into the night he was just on the other side of the bar with his friends and pretty much forgot I was there. 3.) 3rd date he was talking about a female coworker and then showed me a picture of her in a bikini? I guess I really want it to work out? Stay or move on to the next? Submitted June 22, 2022 at 11:59PM Seeing this guy who is 32. So far he is very nice but there have been some weird moments and I’m not sure if these are red flags. 1.) on Father’s Day I asked how he was and he said “nobody has texted me happy Father’s Day yet so great” 2.) second date he introduced me to his friends but half way into the night he was just on the other side of the bar with his friends and pretty muc...

I have a crush on this guy who works as a security for the building I work in. I lowkey always thought he was into me because he tends to visit my work (he doesn’t have to for his job but he has a couple of friends at my job so I never really thought about him going only specifically to see me.) We will always say hi to each other and small talk. Our convos never really last more than a minute or two. Yesterday before my lunch we saw each other and greeted one another and we ended up walking downstairs together and talked a little. Today, he came to my job and bought something (he has never done this and I was the only cashier). I was ringing him up and he was talking to me. But then I had to leave for a moment to talk with my manager. When I came back I was like “so sorry”. Then he was like “Oh no, it’s okay. Take your time, anyways I get to be with you longer”. I literally was thinking like 😳, ain’t no way he just said that. I don’t remember if or what I said to him after he said...

Seriously. You might think you’re giving a compliment but most people don’t want to hear they look like someone else & some might even consider it flat out rude. Just tell them they have a nice smile or whatever you like about them. It’s a lot easier and less of a chance to backfire Submitted June 23, 2022 at 12:13AM Seriously. You might think you’re giving a compliment but most people don’t want to hear they look like someone else & some might even consider it flat out rude. Just tell them they have a nice smile or whatever you like about them. It’s a lot easier and less of a chance to backfire

I hope y’all are well, Tl;dr at end. Just want to present all the facts Sorry to bother you all but I was hoping someone/some people could give me insight if I’m reading too much into this, as I really like this gal but I’m afraid she may not see me in that light. I don’t want to risk a budding friendship with her if she doesn’t feel that way. Any insight would be appreciated as I have lots of trouble understanding people and often can’t tell if someone wants to be around me or is just tolerating me. Sorry it this rambles on, I just want to provide enough details. Background: Long Version: This woman and I started working together about a year ago. She’s 30 and I’m 25 (4 1/2yr age gap if it makes a difference). We work different shifts and different fields, but out of the same building. My job deals with logisitcs and the building, so whenever she’s needed something she would send me a request and I would get the items. One day when I was talking to a mutual coworker about how I ...

So over the past several years I’ve gone out with a good handful of different people. recently I was going out with a girl for about month and it was going really well. We had pretty good chemistry, similar sense of humor and she had been giving me the amount of attention I had been craving which was right in that sweet spot of not too little but not too much. I was really excited to see where things went with her. But then out of the blue she texts me basically saying “hey sorry I got lot going on in my life right now and I I’ve been thinking it over, I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship right now I’m sorry”. I ended up calling her because I hate it when shit ends over text and we got into a little bit more. She said that I was the nicest guy she has ever dated and that there was nothing wrong with me but for some reason the feelings just weren’t there and she didn’t want to lead me on. I don’t have any reason to believe she was trying to save me from hurt feelings either by s...

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If they want to be Some of them, just like any other person No Definitely. June 21, 2022 at 11:44PM

wait that’s enforced? who knew! June 21, 2022 at 11:43PM

I did it over a year ago at pride month! If anyone is interested I have other flags as well June 21, 2022 at 11:42PM

It violated Reddit's rules against promoting hate. June 21, 2022 at 11:42PM

I remember I once went on there without realizing that it was a hate sub and was so confused about why they were letting themselves get worked up over the most obvious bait posts ever June 21, 2022 at 11:41PM

what was the ban reason? anything related? June 21, 2022 at 11:40PM

So I(M18) have this group of guy and girl internet friends that I play games with and stuff. I have known them for just under a year and around 7 months ago another girl(F18) joins the group. I obviously thought she was pretty from the get go but I had no intensions of speaking with her romantically because she was just this girl off the internet that lived an hour away. And then it sort of just… happened… About three months ago we started talking properly over snap, FaceTiming each other, staying up late on the phone. We even started sending nudes every now and again. About three weeks into this, when I realised I actually liked her, I asked her out on a date in real life and she agreed but was clearly nervous about it. She’s never been in a relationship with a guy before and she even told me I was the first guy to actually ask her out. I could tell that she wasn’t ready to go on this date and I go to sixth form, so I said we could wait until the summer and see what she thought then....

This girl has been in love with me for months and over time and because of the way she has treated me, I have fallen little by little. But we are very different, she really likes to party and I don't, I could go to the movies, to a restaurant or to the park, but despite everything she says she doesn't care, and that she wants to be with me. I don't know whether to enter into a relationship with a woman of this type, although I must say that she has been excellent to me. What advice would you give me? Submitted June 21, 2022 at 12:14AM This girl has been in love with me for months and over time and because of the way she has treated me, I have fallen little by little. But we are very different, she really likes to party and I don't, I could go to the movies, to a restaurant or to the park, but despite everything she says she doesn't care, and that she wants to be with me. I don't know whether to enter into a relationship with a woman of this type, although...

Hi. So I've been seeing this guy for 3 months now, we rushed into a "relationship" after two weeks and then we broke up because we both agreed we're moving way too fast and took a week break. Got back and have been hanging out most of the time. Ever since we got back from the one week break, we remain exclusive. For the past 1 month we have been enjoying each others company, he would often tell me how much he likes spending quality time with me and would take me out when we're done with assignments (we're in our early 20s). Recently we have been spending almost 5 to 6 days a week together and I can see that he's been suffocated. I openly lay down what I want from this, telling him I can take it slow, and we should, but for me to take it slow its because I see us together, and that I want to try. He said I don't want a relationship, I'm not ready. So I asked then if he's willing to even try to see where it goes or you want to completely give up...

I can definitely understand the struggle. I'm not in a good place to talk further on the subject, but I do want to show my support and reassurance to you :) June 20, 2022 at 11:31PM

That doesn't even make any sense, pronouns are for gender expression, not sexual orientation June 20, 2022 at 11:31PM

I joined a dating app for one day, put ace in my bio, waited until the end of that day, and got so many requests from creepy guys that I immediately deleted my account. Dating apps aren’t safe for us. June 20, 2022 at 11:30PM

Well do you know any sir (lmao get your gender assumed) June 20, 2022 at 11:30PM

What? June 20, 2022 at 11:29PM

So me (23M) and this girl (21F) matched on tinder about a month ago and over the last two weeks we have started to have frequent voice and facetime calls aswell as playing games with eachother. We also recently met for the first time when i went to see her gig and we hung out after. She however recently told me she wanted to take it slow due to how her past relationships panned out. I really like this girl and feel that she likes me back. Im more than happy to wait, (She told me she would want a couple months of talking until she went on a first date with anyone) i am worried that ill end up in the friendzone. Submitted June 20, 2022 at 01:05AM So me (23M) and this girl (21F) matched on tinder about a month ago and over the last two weeks we have started to have frequent voice and facetime calls aswell as playing games with eachother. We also recently met for the first time when i went to see her gig and we hung out after. She however recently told me she wanted to take it slow ...

I (21F) am head over heels for him (22M). Never felt that way with anyone else. I want to get to know him better and definitely want him around, but I also really like being single. I like not having to be accountable to anyone, I don’t want hour-long phone calls or good morning texts but when I’m at dinner, I want to look up from my phone and see his smiling face. I want to sit in the park and listen to him rant about his problems but I also want to go home and have some time to myself. This is my very long-winded way of saying I want to have something that’s not as intense as a relationship but more than casual dating but without losing my privacy, alone time and free will or having to compromise on shit like what to have for dinner. Is this possible at all? How do I tell him this without sounding like a complete self centered asshole Submitted June 20, 2022 at 01:11AM I (21F) am head over heels for him (22M). Never felt that way with anyone else. I want to get to know him b...

Oh, my, this exact thing. When I was having the "hey, I'm ace" conversation with my ex, she immediately jumped to "oh, so I'll just have sex with other people, cool". And like, I, as in me in particular, am very polyamorous and open relationships and all that, but she had no way of knowing that? (we immediately started dating after meeting for the first time). I can't imagine how devastated I would have felt if I was monogamous. That's just... there are so many ways to solve this issue without the first one being "sex with strangers" June 20, 2022 at 12:37AM

I tried my dating profiles with liberal, conservative and non-affiliated. I get tons of matches if I call myself liberal because on paper I'm pretty attractive. Inevitably when politics come up the conversation almost always escalates into an argument with the woman attacking me(lol). I live in PDX area and I am wondering how different it will be in other areas of the country. I suspect it will be better anywhere but LA/SF, Seattle or NYC but I appreciate others opinions. Submitted June 20, 2022 at 12:15AM I tried my dating profiles with liberal, conservative and non-affiliated. I get tons of matches if I call myself liberal because on paper I'm pretty attractive. Inevitably when politics come up the conversation almost always escalates into an argument with the woman attacking me(lol).I live in PDX area and I am wondering how different it will be in other areas of the country. I suspect it will be better anywhere but LA/SF, Seattle or NYC but I appreciate others opinio...

Thank you! 💜 June 19, 2022 at 11:40PM

Yes ✨ Haven’t played it in years, because I only played it at a school club. But I had a few ace/aro characters. June 19, 2022 at 12:36AM

So I am 25 years old female and I just got out of a 2 almost 3 year relationship. So I’m not so much worried about dating currently but where is good places to meet people. For context I work and I go to school (online)and I don’t have a lot of activities outside of that. I work in hospitality so I see a-lot of people through out the day but my worry is guys approaching me are not the right kind of guy for a long term relationship. I additionally don’t have friends outside family. Any advice would be good, I don’t wanna be so picky that you miss out on people Bec you don’t get to meet them in the best circumstances or scenario. Submitted June 19, 2022 at 01:10AM So I am 25 years old female and I just got out of a 2 almost 3 year relationship. So I’m not so much worried about dating currently but where is good places to meet people. For context I work and I go to school (online)and I don’t have a lot of activities outside of that. I work in hospitality so I see a-lot of people th...

I met my ex on a dating app last year and he was very sweet and lovely early on. The only issues were he was in a low wage factory job, pretty much broke and lived in his mates spare room. He also talked about his ex girlfriend a lot even though they broke up 4 years ago, and they remained best friends. I saw him keeping tabs on her social media a lot In the end, he became super unhappy about where is is in life and having no money. He never ever even bought me a coffee or took me out on dates. I gave him a lot of love and support with not much in return, and he became critical about little things and only talked about himself. He scowled at me a lot and shook his head at me, I was trying my best. He accused me of being manipulative when I wasn’t trying to be manipulative at all He dumped me and said he never fell in love and dated me because he was lonely But he got on the dating apps recently again and I found out he’s dating someone else. Surely he’s not ready for a relationsh...

Technically a he would be an incubus but I guess it's pretty much the same. June 19, 2022 at 12:35AM

I do that! Mainly out of curiosity. June 19, 2022 at 12:34AM

this guy (m20) got out of a toxic relationship 3 months ago which lasted 8 months. i have a gut feeling he’s dating me now as a rebound. has anyone had positive or negative experiences dating someone fresh out of a relationship? Submitted June 19, 2022 at 12:14AM this guy (m20) got out of a toxic relationship 3 months ago which lasted 8 months. i have a gut feeling he’s dating me now as a rebound. has anyone had positive or negative experiences dating someone fresh out of a relationship?

I thought it was just me who was sensitive there lol June 18, 2022 at 01:18AM

Right when you think you've heard it all, aphobes come up with the wildest things. June 18, 2022 at 01:16AM

date is next Friday and I leave on July 6th. Should I tell her in advance or tell her in person? I think if the date was earlier I would do in person.. Thoughts? Submitted June 18, 2022 at 01:13AM date is next Friday and I leave on July 6th. Should I tell her in advance or tell her in person? I think if the date was earlier I would do in person..Thoughts?

I didn't. I definitely knew I was different and used to fake being allosexual but I didn't fake very well with my close friends because the time I did experience sexual attraction, it wasn't the same way my friends did, for them they could brush it off, I definitely couldn't. June 18, 2022 at 12:08AM

That’s all…I’m just defeated and sad atm Submitted June 18, 2022 at 12:14AM That’s all…I’m just defeated and sad atm

:D June 17, 2022 at 12:42AM

dont let the bastards get you down. do whatever you want. go wherever you want. some gay man tells you youre not whatever enough? tell him to eat a dick. straight people go to gay bars all the time. June 17, 2022 at 12:42AM

I met a guy in June 4 walking down the town strip in Nashville. We smiled as we passed eachother. I knew I had to know him immediately but I just kept walking with my friend down the strip and went on with the night. I ended up seeing him again at the end of the night taking a selfie alone, so I dediced to be bold and jump in! He ended up asking me for my number and spent a few hours with my friend and I, bar hopping & dancing. He mentioned he moved here about a month ago. It was his first night exploring the city (he lives further out into the country) The night was coming to an end. We said our goodbyes and we immediately were texting all smitten to one another. He asked me if I wanted to do a slumber party and I wasn’t opposed to having him come over. I wanted to hook up with him. He ended up sleeping over. We talked for hours upon hours and had the most amazing night together. When he left the next afternoon he ended up telling me how great of time he had and asked me out on a...