My parents don't trust me to have a computer or phone in my room and it makes me upset. (18F)

My parents have always had this rule of "no technology in your room." Okay, fine, that was good when we were younger. As I got older my parents had more kids and we moved into a very large, very beautiful house, and my bedroom (which I am very happy with) is on the second floor.

Not having technology soon became a bit of a nuisance, because my room is awesome and I love being able to spend time there. Furthermore, we have two baby siblings who scream and break everything. We've been in the house for a little over a year now and I turned 18 last November. My parents allowed me to use a SCHOOL ISSUED computer in my room for homework purposes, but I had to plug it in downstairs at night.

On top of this, while I have been diligent in following the rules, (I plug my phone and computer in by the kitchen, my mom checks most nights) my brother (15M) does not give a RAT'S ASS about the rules. Before the quarantine he would bring his phone into his room, he's be up late into the night (I'm talking like 2am) face timing people or listening to tik toks. He'd play them so loud that they'd wake me up. My parents would always say that it "wasn't worth fighting about" but told me that they would punish me SEVERELY if I did the same.

When the quarantine came he moved all of his stuff into this hallway next to our rooms because he's not allowed to have a TV in his room (he did for a while but his grades slipped and my parents took it out). He sleeps on this pull out futon and has TWO TV's that he stares at ALL DAY and plays on his phone so late into the night. Our rooms are right nearby the hall so I have to listen to him scream into his mic about madden or fortnite or whatever all while following the rules, knowing damn well that he's not following them and gets away with it.

Somehow I'm still having to follow the rules and he can get away with whatever he wants! I recently bought myself my OWN computer with my OWN money and STILL I can't have it in my room! I'm taking two college classes starting June 1 and will be going to school this fall and STILL my parents are holding me to a silly rule! I try to explain tp them that I love my room and want to be able to do homework up there peacefully, but I get called "disrespectful" and "selfish" for wanting an old rule changed.

Honestly this whole thing makes me so mad that I want to cry. I'm an ADULT! I'm trying to do SCHOOLWORK away from my family because there are two screeching toddlers running around downstairs! I still spend so much time with them and am respectful and am 12th in my class but for some reason I can't have a phone in my room. My parents once said they didn't want me looking up "bad things" which just made me feel worse. I'm a STRAIGHT A's STUDENT and work SO HARD! It made me feel like they don't trust me and that just makes me so resentful and hurt.

What can I do? I've tried to talk to them but they dismiss me and won't even listen as to why I want to anymore. My parents say "it's just a house rule" before I can say anything and it makes me really angry. They treat me like i'm still little and won't even listen to me when I'm literally a legal adult now.

tldr; I'm 18 and still not allowed to have a phone or computer in my room. Younger brother gets away with it but I don't.



Submitted May 31, 2020 at 12:13AM

My parents have always had this rule of "no technology in your room." Okay, fine, that was good when we were younger. As I got older my parents had more kids and we moved into a very large, very beautiful house, and my bedroom (which I am very happy with) is on the second floor.Not having technology soon became a bit of a nuisance, because my room is awesome and I love being able to spend time there. Furthermore, we have two baby siblings who scream and break everything. We've been in the house for a little over a year now and I turned 18 last November. My parents allowed me to use a SCHOOL ISSUED computer in my room for homework purposes, but I had to plug it in downstairs at night.On top of this, while I have been diligent in following the rules, (I plug my phone and computer in by the kitchen, my mom checks most nights) my brother (15M) does not give a RAT'S ASS about the rules. Before the quarantine he would bring his phone into his room, he's be up late into the night (I'm talking like 2am) face timing people or listening to tik toks. He'd play them so loud that they'd wake me up. My parents would always say that it "wasn't worth fighting about" but told me that they would punish me SEVERELY if I did the same.When the quarantine came he moved all of his stuff into this hallway next to our rooms because he's not allowed to have a TV in his room (he did for a while but his grades slipped and my parents took it out). He sleeps on this pull out futon and has TWO TV's that he stares at ALL DAY and plays on his phone so late into the night. Our rooms are right nearby the hall so I have to listen to him scream into his mic about madden or fortnite or whatever all while following the rules, knowing damn well that he's not following them and gets away with it.Somehow I'm still having to follow the rules and he can get away with whatever he wants! I recently bought myself my OWN computer with my OWN money and STILL I can't have it in my room! I'm taking two college classes starting June 1 and will be going to school this fall and STILL my parents are holding me to a silly rule! I try to explain tp them that I love my room and want to be able to do homework up there peacefully, but I get called "disrespectful" and "selfish" for wanting an old rule changed.Honestly this whole thing makes me so mad that I want to cry. I'm an ADULT! I'm trying to do SCHOOLWORK away from my family because there are two screeching toddlers running around downstairs! I still spend so much time with them and am respectful and am 12th in my class but for some reason I can't have a phone in my room. My parents once said they didn't want me looking up "bad things" which just made me feel worse. I'm a STRAIGHT A's STUDENT and work SO HARD! It made me feel like they don't trust me and that just makes me so resentful and hurt.What can I do? I've tried to talk to them but they dismiss me and won't even listen as to why I want to anymore. My parents say "it's just a house rule" before I can say anything and it makes me really angry. They treat me like i'm still little and won't even listen to me when I'm literally a legal adult now.tldr; I'm 18 and still not allowed to have a phone or computer in my room. Younger brother gets away with it but I don't.
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