I bet I have the most confusing crush EVER! Help?

Hey everyone!

I (F,22) could really use some help SMH... I’ll try to keep this post as short as possible. Who am I kidding, it's gonna be freaking long. So basically, I need your opinion/advice on what you think his (M, 18) actions say. I’m beyond confused at this point...Maybe I’m in denial? Who knows.

Quick backstory: I know this guy for about 7 years now. We used to go to school together (small school, grades 7,8 & 9 put together). I had a crush on him for most of those 7 years (still do kinda). We had our ups and downs (long crazy story). Now, he never made an actual move on me and vis versa. Not that I noticed anyway? (Unless playing with my hair and childish “games” are flirting?) I’d like to say he didn’t make a move because of his age, and his home situation (he couldn’t really afford a lot and lives a few hours away). Everyone in my class knew I was into him (including the teachers LOL).

A few years ago I kept asking him if he likes me back, his answer always was ”No”. Anyways a couple of years ago our communication plunged quite a bit. We went from him initiating random, long phone calls/skype calls - to me having to initiate the contact regularly. Once I stopped initiating contact, we didn’t text/talk for over a year. We started talking again randomly sometime (I think he ”accidentally” texted me). However, shortly after, it was me initiating contact again. So, I did what I felt was right at the time and ended it completely. Also, he asked to meet me and I felt very insecure at the time which also was a big factor (I really would’ve wanted to meet him tho 😕)

Our conversation 2 years ago; (I don’t normally write like that, tried to be cool I guess 🤦‍♀️) Him: Yo you got snap? If you do Add me (his snap name) 👆🏻👆🏻 Me: Hey ✌️ Imma be real blunt, why do you wanna meet up again? 🤔 Him: I asked you for your snapchat 🤔🤔 Me: yeah I know, it’s private sry You wanted to meet up like a few months ago, so I’m askin why 🤷‍♀️ Him: Because we haven’t seen each other in like 3 years Me: Okay, that’s all? Him: I thought it would’ve been fun Me: Cute, but ehh I’m sure you’re a great homie n all but thinkin bout it now I don’t really see it happenin 🤷‍♀️ Him: Ehm Why Too cool for me or what😅 Me: Idk 💁‍♀️ maybe Him: Definitely not😘 Me: Nah but like we live completely different lives now Him: Yeah I know That’s why I thought it would be quite fun to meet up again Me: like I had a good time with ya back at (our school) n all but that’s the past Him: I am well aware Me: Tbh like nothing against ya but your 16 😂 I’m 20...like that’s just weird 🙈 We have different interests too so ya 🤔 Him: What do you mean with that Different interests? Me: Teen interests vs adult interests, ya know? Nothing against 16 year olds been there once too😂 Him: What is the difference You’re 20 Not 30 There can’t be a huge difference Me: Hmm, let me guess you’re all about girls, alc, you’re motorcycle, fucking around & drugs? Him: You are wrong Me: enlighten me Him: You never really spent any time with me have you You would know, that I don’t consume any drugs And idk why you are concerned about my motorcycle I haven’t used it in at least a year I occasionally have a couple beers with some friends of mine Me: Okay Still right about the rest, huh? Him: The rest? Me: What I said above 👆 Him: Define “fucking around” Me: Experimenting around with chicks or dudes 😂 no judgment Him: (my name) When I said let’s meet up I didn’t say Let’s smash Me: Boy I know 😂 Him: Then why are you worried bout that Me: Wait... haha you misunderstood me I’m just sayin that’s how teen boyz are 😅 Horny af But that’s not why I don’t wanna meet up Him: Why didn’t you want to meet up Me: Cause as I said, we live different life’s now n we didn’t talk for like over a year. Plus the connection is gone, ya know? Him: I am aware That’s exactly why I would’ve been happy to see you again Me: sorry 🤷‍♀️ But time’s money 💰 we should not waste it Him: I have enough time on my hands Me:👌great I don’t know what you wanna hear from me Actually came here to end the contact and you ain’t helpin 🤷‍♀️😂 Him: Idk what your problem is Either way You must decide Me: I don’t have one Just wanna tell you nicely that we should go our separate ways Him: Let me give you two options Me: Sure Him: The first See me one final time Grown up basically We’ll just idk grab something to eat, talk and then leave Or You can just end it all right now Just don’t forget to say bye Me: told him I need to order something at Starbucks Him: You have enough time Don’t worry Me: Sorry bout that @ Starbux so crazy here Okay, regarding your 2 options I think it’s time to “end the chapter” ...as dramatic as that sounds We had a great time n all but as I said it’s the past. Don’t take it personal. You sound like a good guy 🙏 Him: Thanks but I still would’ve liked to see you one last time Curious to see what you look like now But hey You have made up your mind Me: Maybe you will, the world ain’t that big 🤷‍♀️ Sooo, to wrap it all up... I wish you nice n happy life & take care ☺️ Stay yourself n don’t let anyone change ya ✌️ N don’t forget, the sky is the limit 🙌 Him: Alright let me wrap things up too Half of the time i knew you, i just wanted to beat you with a fucking sledgehammer But in the end You turned out alright I indeed liked you very much, once I’ve gotten to know you better That is also why i tried to keep our contact up for as long as possible But in the end All things will eventually fade away So (my name) I wish you a joyful, successful and happy life I hope for you, that you will find the man of your dreams and eventually have a nice family As you have chosen I must depart from you now And I wish you good luck in the future Goodbye (my name), it was nice getting to know you❤️ Me: That was nicely said. Thank you, (his name) ☺️ It was nice knowing you too. Goodbye 👋 ——————————————— Safe to say that was the sweetest thing he’s ever said to me. Anyhow, I decided to contact him again after 2 years (today a little over two months ago). However, I needed an excuse to talk to him so I chose the coronavirus situation as my excuse.

Conversation on Snapchat; Me: (voice message) Hey (his name) it's me (my name). This is super random...ehm...I just wanted to make sure you're alright. As well as your family and that every one of you is healthy and safe...you know in regards to the coronavirus and all. So yeah...that’s all. Take care, bye! (He replied within one or two hours) Him: Heyy (my name) wassupp I didn’t expect you to contact me ever But yeah me and the fam is still doing fine for now Trying to keep my mom away from the virus y’know I hope you and your family are also healthy and all Me: (voice message) I said something along the lines of “My family’s healthy too and I find it random myself that I contact him. Also, I still care about him and wanted to make sure he’s fine”. Him: Yeah I guess it wasn’t a bad time to contact me Glad you did And yeah I hope you and your family are safe through this first wave of corona Me: (voice message) I congratulated him to his birthday (quite late tho) and told him in my mind I still remember him as the cute 13 year old. (That’s the last time I saw him in person🤦‍♀️) Him: Yeah a bit late but it’s fine I have definitely changed since the last time you saw me😂 Me: You mean it’s possible for you to become even more swoon-worthy? 😜 Him: I fully believe so Because y’know Older We’ll id have to send you pics to believe If you want Me: I would very much like to see how you look like now. 🙊 Him: Sends me 6 different 😍 pics of himself Me: Hot damn...Who let you outta the candy shop? 🔥🙈 Him: I guess I let myself out Nam sayn I wonder how you look like nowadays Got any pics? Me: Only for special people 💁‍♀️ Sent him my 10 best pics (including a little flirty/sexy one, to make my intentions clear I guess?) Him: Damnn not bad Me: 😅 I guess we both upgraded Him: Yeah you look pretty good How old are you now? Me: 22 👌 & thanks 🙏 ——————————————— He never texted me again after that. 2-3 days of great conversation and now nothing. WTF?! That was a little over 2 months ago...Did I say something wrong? Did I miss something? He always looks at my Snapchat stories though...It’s kinda my only way to get his attention. I normally only post positive quotes or random pictures. However I posted a cute bikini pic (only for him to see) yet no reaction. So, today I stepped it up quite a bit by posting a super naughty yet classy pic on my story but made sure only he could see it. He saw it, yet no reaction. No comment. Nothing. I’m so damn confused! I don’t understand guys 😂 I’d be very grateful for some advice and/or opinions! Someone who understands the male mind 🤔

Damn. Thanks for reading all of that! You’re amazing 😄

Xoxo

Submitted May 30, 2020 at 11:57PM

Hey everyone!I (F,22) could really use some help SMH... I’ll try to keep this post as short as possible. Who am I kidding, it's gonna be freaking long. So basically, I need your opinion/advice on what you think his (M, 18) actions say. I’m beyond confused at this point...Maybe I’m in denial? Who knows.Quick backstory: I know this guy for about 7 years now. We used to go to school together (small school, grades 7,8 & 9 put together). I had a crush on him for most of those 7 years (still do kinda). We had our ups and downs (long crazy story). Now, he never made an actual move on me and vis versa. Not that I noticed anyway? (Unless playing with my hair and childish “games” are flirting?) I’d like to say he didn’t make a move because of his age, and his home situation (he couldn’t really afford a lot and lives a few hours away). Everyone in my class knew I was into him (including the teachers LOL).A few years ago I kept asking him if he likes me back, his answer always was ”No”. Anyways a couple of years ago our communication plunged quite a bit. We went from him initiating random, long phone calls/skype calls - to me having to initiate the contact regularly. Once I stopped initiating contact, we didn’t text/talk for over a year. We started talking again randomly sometime (I think he ”accidentally” texted me). However, shortly after, it was me initiating contact again. So, I did what I felt was right at the time and ended it completely. Also, he asked to meet me and I felt very insecure at the time which also was a big factor (I really would’ve wanted to meet him tho 😕)Our conversation 2 years ago; (I don’t normally write like that, tried to be cool I guess 🤦‍♀️) Him: Yo you got snap? If you do Add me (his snap name) 👆🏻👆🏻 Me: Hey ✌️ Imma be real blunt, why do you wanna meet up again? 🤔 Him: I asked you for your snapchat 🤔🤔 Me: yeah I know, it’s private sry You wanted to meet up like a few months ago, so I’m askin why 🤷‍♀️ Him: Because we haven’t seen each other in like 3 years Me: Okay, that’s all? Him: I thought it would’ve been fun Me: Cute, but ehh I’m sure you’re a great homie n all but thinkin bout it now I don’t really see it happenin 🤷‍♀️ Him: Ehm Why Too cool for me or what😅 Me: Idk 💁‍♀️ maybe Him: Definitely not😘 Me: Nah but like we live completely different lives now Him: Yeah I know That’s why I thought it would be quite fun to meet up again Me: like I had a good time with ya back at (our school) n all but that’s the past Him: I am well aware Me: Tbh like nothing against ya but your 16 😂 I’m 20...like that’s just weird 🙈 We have different interests too so ya 🤔 Him: What do you mean with that Different interests? Me: Teen interests vs adult interests, ya know? Nothing against 16 year olds been there once too😂 Him: What is the difference You’re 20 Not 30 There can’t be a huge difference Me: Hmm, let me guess you’re all about girls, alc, you’re motorcycle, fucking around & drugs? Him: You are wrong Me: enlighten me Him: You never really spent any time with me have you You would know, that I don’t consume any drugs And idk why you are concerned about my motorcycle I haven’t used it in at least a year I occasionally have a couple beers with some friends of mine Me: Okay Still right about the rest, huh? Him: The rest? Me: What I said above 👆 Him: Define “fucking around” Me: Experimenting around with chicks or dudes 😂 no judgment Him: (my name) When I said let’s meet up I didn’t say Let’s smash Me: Boy I know 😂 Him: Then why are you worried bout that Me: Wait... haha you misunderstood me I’m just sayin that’s how teen boyz are 😅 Horny af But that’s not why I don’t wanna meet up Him: Why didn’t you want to meet up Me: Cause as I said, we live different life’s now n we didn’t talk for like over a year. Plus the connection is gone, ya know? Him: I am aware That’s exactly why I would’ve been happy to see you again Me: sorry 🤷‍♀️ But time’s money 💰 we should not waste it Him: I have enough time on my hands Me:👌great I don’t know what you wanna hear from me Actually came here to end the contact and you ain’t helpin 🤷‍♀️😂 Him: Idk what your problem is Either way You must decide Me: I don’t have one Just wanna tell you nicely that we should go our separate ways Him: Let me give you two options Me: Sure Him: The first See me one final time Grown up basically We’ll just idk grab something to eat, talk and then leave Or You can just end it all right now Just don’t forget to say bye Me: told him I need to order something at Starbucks Him: You have enough time Don’t worry Me: Sorry bout that @ Starbux so crazy here Okay, regarding your 2 options I think it’s time to “end the chapter” ...as dramatic as that sounds We had a great time n all but as I said it’s the past. Don’t take it personal. You sound like a good guy 🙏 Him: Thanks but I still would’ve liked to see you one last time Curious to see what you look like now But hey You have made up your mind Me: Maybe you will, the world ain’t that big 🤷‍♀️ Sooo, to wrap it all up... I wish you nice n happy life & take care ☺️ Stay yourself n don’t let anyone change ya ✌️ N don’t forget, the sky is the limit 🙌 Him: Alright let me wrap things up too Half of the time i knew you, i just wanted to beat you with a fucking sledgehammer But in the end You turned out alright I indeed liked you very much, once I’ve gotten to know you better That is also why i tried to keep our contact up for as long as possible But in the end All things will eventually fade away So (my name) I wish you a joyful, successful and happy life I hope for you, that you will find the man of your dreams and eventually have a nice family As you have chosen I must depart from you now And I wish you good luck in the future Goodbye (my name), it was nice getting to know you❤️ Me: That was nicely said. Thank you, (his name) ☺️ It was nice knowing you too. Goodbye 👋 ——————————————— Safe to say that was the sweetest thing he’s ever said to me. Anyhow, I decided to contact him again after 2 years (today a little over two months ago). However, I needed an excuse to talk to him so I chose the coronavirus situation as my excuse.Conversation on Snapchat; Me: (voice message) Hey (his name) it's me (my name). This is super random...ehm...I just wanted to make sure you're alright. As well as your family and that every one of you is healthy and safe...you know in regards to the coronavirus and all. So yeah...that’s all. Take care, bye! (He replied within one or two hours) Him: Heyy (my name) wassupp I didn’t expect you to contact me ever But yeah me and the fam is still doing fine for now Trying to keep my mom away from the virus y’know I hope you and your family are also healthy and all Me: (voice message) I said something along the lines of “My family’s healthy too and I find it random myself that I contact him. Also, I still care about him and wanted to make sure he’s fine”. Him: Yeah I guess it wasn’t a bad time to contact me Glad you did And yeah I hope you and your family are safe through this first wave of corona Me: (voice message) I congratulated him to his birthday (quite late tho) and told him in my mind I still remember him as the cute 13 year old. (That’s the last time I saw him in person🤦‍♀️) Him: Yeah a bit late but it’s fine I have definitely changed since the last time you saw me😂 Me: You mean it’s possible for you to become even more swoon-worthy? 😜 Him: I fully believe so Because y’know Older We’ll id have to send you pics to believe If you want Me: I would very much like to see how you look like now. 🙊 Him: Sends me 6 different 😍 pics of himself Me: Hot damn...Who let you outta the candy shop? 🔥🙈 Him: I guess I let myself out Nam sayn I wonder how you look like nowadays Got any pics? Me: Only for special people 💁‍♀️ Sent him my 10 best pics (including a little flirty/sexy one, to make my intentions clear I guess?) Him: Damnn not bad Me: 😅 I guess we both upgraded Him: Yeah you look pretty good How old are you now? Me: 22 👌 & thanks 🙏 ——————————————— He never texted me again after that. 2-3 days of great conversation and now nothing. WTF?! That was a little over 2 months ago...Did I say something wrong? Did I miss something? He always looks at my Snapchat stories though...It’s kinda my only way to get his attention. I normally only post positive quotes or random pictures. However I posted a cute bikini pic (only for him to see) yet no reaction. So, today I stepped it up quite a bit by posting a super naughty yet classy pic on my story but made sure only he could see it. He saw it, yet no reaction. No comment. Nothing. I’m so damn confused! I don’t understand guys 😂 I’d be very grateful for some advice and/or opinions! Someone who understands the male mind 🤔Damn. Thanks for reading all of that! You’re amazing 😄Xoxo