Maybe she just wants to be fwb

Pretty long story but I'd like to share as my first post on this subreddit.

I was introduced to a girl through a friend. We went on a few double dates and Valentine's date (second day of knowing her). We made out on the first date. The attraction was there. She was always open to hanging out. She made plans of being around months down the road by saying she wanted to attend certain future events togther. Then COVID happened. So much has changed. I'm trying to be responsible and not ask her to hang during a damn pandemic.

During this period, we mostly talked on the phone. It's been very dry. What can we really talk about? She's home all day. I'm working 5 days a week with long hours. I'm exhausted after work. I'm introvert and don't like to talk when I'm tired. We snapchatted each other, on a streak and everything. I tried sending her snaps/messages so it wouldn't seem like we're getting distant. Maybe the content was corny? She changed. Started leaving me on read. Told me she would call me back but never did. I called her all week, she would answer, then make an excuse to hang up. One day I call, she doesnt pick up. First time this happened during our time of knowing each other. I texted her asking if she is ok because I felt something was wrong. She texted 2 hours later that she was taking a nap. She never called back. Weird.

The next night at 1am she texts me that she's going through a lot and is in a weird place in her life. She doesn't want to lead me on and wants to stay friends. I knew this was coming. I could just feel it. I thanked her for being honest and told her she could reach out to me anytime to talk since she's not in a good place (and tbh there is no way I'm calling her after calling her all week). I ended it by saying "I'm glad I met you :)". Doesn't reply until next morning. Says, "we can still be friends". I'll be honest I don't even know what to say to her at this point. I distanced myself.

She texts me a week later. Starts off with "Heyyyyy you". Did you forget my name already? So that's exactly what I asked her LOL. She mentions I've been MIA. Huh? What do you expect me to do? Call you everyday after you texted me about staying friends? I have friends in my life I see/talk to like twice a year max, and we're on good terms. Nobody brings up being MIA. She calls me, we talk for a bit, I thank her for her phone call and hang up. Almost a week passes by. She sends me a meme of someone searching for "a decent fking n*a" in an Amazon search bar and there are no results. Duhhh lol. I thought it was funny. I told her to try Kijiji. 🤣 She ends up calling me again. This time at 3am. She says she's very bored. I'm very tired and gotta be up for work at 7am, goodnight. Wtf is going on? So many mixed signals. I don't need this in my life. I've always been single, but I've gone on enough dates in my life. I've always been focused on my own growth and never found a girl that was worth sacrificing what little time I already have. I hold myself to a high standard. I've been disinterested ever since that text from her about being just friends. I didn't appreciate that it was delivered by text and not by phone call. Especially since I called her and she never called back and chose to text me that BS the next night at 1am..

I think she is confused. I told her that. I also told her I didnt appreciate her texting instead of calling me. I thought that was hella pathetic. I've been doing me. At this point I'm ready to ask if she's just trying to be fwb because nothing makes sense. Thanks for reading!

Why girls gotta make things so confusing? Just be straight up with real men. What's happening here?

Submitted May 07, 2020 at 12:03AM

Pretty long story but I'd like to share as my first post on this subreddit.I was introduced to a girl through a friend. We went on a few double dates and Valentine's date (second day of knowing her). We made out on the first date. The attraction was there. She was always open to hanging out. She made plans of being around months down the road by saying she wanted to attend certain future events togther. Then COVID happened. So much has changed. I'm trying to be responsible and not ask her to hang during a damn pandemic.During this period, we mostly talked on the phone. It's been very dry. What can we really talk about? She's home all day. I'm working 5 days a week with long hours. I'm exhausted after work. I'm introvert and don't like to talk when I'm tired. We snapchatted each other, on a streak and everything. I tried sending her snaps/messages so it wouldn't seem like we're getting distant. Maybe the content was corny? She changed. Started leaving me on read. Told me she would call me back but never did. I called her all week, she would answer, then make an excuse to hang up. One day I call, she doesnt pick up. First time this happened during our time of knowing each other. I texted her asking if she is ok because I felt something was wrong. She texted 2 hours later that she was taking a nap. She never called back. Weird.The next night at 1am she texts me that she's going through a lot and is in a weird place in her life. She doesn't want to lead me on and wants to stay friends. I knew this was coming. I could just feel it. I thanked her for being honest and told her she could reach out to me anytime to talk since she's not in a good place (and tbh there is no way I'm calling her after calling her all week). I ended it by saying "I'm glad I met you :)". Doesn't reply until next morning. Says, "we can still be friends". I'll be honest I don't even know what to say to her at this point. I distanced myself.She texts me a week later. Starts off with "Heyyyyy you". Did you forget my name already? So that's exactly what I asked her LOL. She mentions I've been MIA. Huh? What do you expect me to do? Call you everyday after you texted me about staying friends? I have friends in my life I see/talk to like twice a year max, and we're on good terms. Nobody brings up being MIA. She calls me, we talk for a bit, I thank her for her phone call and hang up. Almost a week passes by. She sends me a meme of someone searching for "a decent fking n*a" in an Amazon search bar and there are no results. Duhhh lol. I thought it was funny. I told her to try Kijiji. 🤣 She ends up calling me again. This time at 3am. She says she's very bored. I'm very tired and gotta be up for work at 7am, goodnight. Wtf is going on? So many mixed signals. I don't need this in my life. I've always been single, but I've gone on enough dates in my life. I've always been focused on my own growth and never found a girl that was worth sacrificing what little time I already have. I hold myself to a high standard. I've been disinterested ever since that text from her about being just friends. I didn't appreciate that it was delivered by text and not by phone call. Especially since I called her and she never called back and chose to text me that BS the next night at 1am..I think she is confused. I told her that. I also told her I didnt appreciate her texting instead of calling me. I thought that was hella pathetic. I've been doing me. At this point I'm ready to ask if she's just trying to be fwb because nothing makes sense. Thanks for reading!Why girls gotta make things so confusing? Just be straight up with real men. What's happening here?