The pressure is rising

Don’t you feel like the time is running out? Like the more time you let pass thru you the harder will be for you to get someone? I mean that is obviously true and that is why the pressure is rising.

I am a 25-year-old guy that until this day (and probably many to come) never had no someone to call girlfriend. To be honest I never actually tried and to be honest I think I never had more than 2 crushes. I was always the funny shy type of guy that only talks to anyone that first talks to me. The first step has always been my biggest trouble and because of that, to this current date, I don’t have a single girl that I can call friend. Only macho friends LUL.

I mean of course they are not going to be the ones to first talk to me but, the thing is, I always am expecting the perfect opportunity for me to do it but that never arrives.

So, in the end I am left with “friends” that are co-worker’s and barely any girls because I work in IT and if there are, they are taken.

And that is why I am stressed, I am afraid that I might try to rush things and pick the first girl that talks to me, probably a co-worker because I don’t party or belong in any club. I am afraid that that I might miss the “true love” girl, I know that is juvenile thinking that way but that is how I feel. Most of my nights are dreaming a reality where I started dating the crush I had in school because that was the only time, I really liked someone. Now days I don’t even know girls to be able to like them.

In the end, should I forget the true love thing and just get someone? I really am afraid of that because if that does not workout then it’s the more time I lose until I find someone.

I am really stupid for being so shy in school.



Submitted March 13, 2020 at 11:41PM

Don’t you feel like the time is running out? Like the more time you let pass thru you the harder will be for you to get someone? I mean that is obviously true and that is why the pressure is rising.I am a 25-year-old guy that until this day (and probably many to come) never had no someone to call girlfriend. To be honest I never actually tried and to be honest I think I never had more than 2 crushes. I was always the funny shy type of guy that only talks to anyone that first talks to me. The first step has always been my biggest trouble and because of that, to this current date, I don’t have a single girl that I can call friend. Only macho friends LUL.I mean of course they are not going to be the ones to first talk to me but, the thing is, I always am expecting the perfect opportunity for me to do it but that never arrives.So, in the end I am left with “friends” that are co-worker’s and barely any girls because I work in IT and if there are, they are taken.And that is why I am stressed, I am afraid that I might try to rush things and pick the first girl that talks to me, probably a co-worker because I don’t party or belong in any club. I am afraid that that I might miss the “true love” girl, I know that is juvenile thinking that way but that is how I feel. Most of my nights are dreaming a reality where I started dating the crush I had in school because that was the only time, I really liked someone. Now days I don’t even know girls to be able to like them.In the end, should I forget the true love thing and just get someone? I really am afraid of that because if that does not workout then it’s the more time I lose until I find someone.I am really stupid for being so shy in school.
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