I (14GF) don’t know if I should still text my boyfriend (14M) paragraphs about how important he is. ( Relationship 3 months )

Sorry if this looks a bit wacky but I’m on mobile.

I am 14 and gender-fluid, my boyfriend (14M) has depression. It’s been a while since I’ve known as he told me before we started dating. He gets really uncomfortable when either of us brings it up, so I try really hard not to prod him. It’s to the point where I just know he has therapy Friday’s and not even the time it ends. He’s saying “I don’t want to talk about it” is usually my cue to leave the topic alone.

From the start of this week, he was ignoring my texts and I had 2 messages from him, yesterday (He was also avoiding me all week in class). This is with me reaching out to him multiple times everyday. I expressed my concerns for him yesterday and I was responded with, “Sorry it's not your fault but I have been sad recently and I don't want to talk about it just give me some time.”

I understand leaving the people you care about alone because you don’t want to lash out or say something you don’t mean. It’s not out of the ordinary for him, he isolates himself when he has problems.

I feel like I want to hold him tight and tell him everything will be alright but, I don’t even know what’s wrong. I want to text him saying how important he is. I don’t even care if he just reads it and doesn’t respond I just want him to know I care about him. He said to give him some time and I don't know if that violates the time giving. I’m honestly confused, I don’t know if I just leave and he tells me when he’s better or to leave flowers at his door and hope he opens the door and takes them.

Edit: It was probably important to say this but I cannot speak to him in person as school was canceled due to the coronavirus. I won’t see him for at last 2 weeks

TLDR; my boyfriend is depressed and isolates himself when he’s down. He’s down right now and told me to give him some time. I still want to tell him how important he is to me in an attempt to let him know at least one person cares, regardless of a response. What do I do?



Submitted March 13, 2020 at 11:40PM

Sorry if this looks a bit wacky but I’m on mobile.I am 14 and gender-fluid, my boyfriend (14M) has depression. It’s been a while since I’ve known as he told me before we started dating. He gets really uncomfortable when either of us brings it up, so I try really hard not to prod him. It’s to the point where I just know he has therapy Friday’s and not even the time it ends. He’s saying “I don’t want to talk about it” is usually my cue to leave the topic alone.From the start of this week, he was ignoring my texts and I had 2 messages from him, yesterday (He was also avoiding me all week in class). This is with me reaching out to him multiple times everyday. I expressed my concerns for him yesterday and I was responded with, “Sorry it's not your fault but I have been sad recently and I don't want to talk about it just give me some time.”I understand leaving the people you care about alone because you don’t want to lash out or say something you don’t mean. It’s not out of the ordinary for him, he isolates himself when he has problems.I feel like I want to hold him tight and tell him everything will be alright but, I don’t even know what’s wrong. I want to text him saying how important he is. I don’t even care if he just reads it and doesn’t respond I just want him to know I care about him. He said to give him some time and I don't know if that violates the time giving. I’m honestly confused, I don’t know if I just leave and he tells me when he’s better or to leave flowers at his door and hope he opens the door and takes them.Edit: It was probably important to say this but I cannot speak to him in person as school was canceled due to the coronavirus. I won’t see him for at last 2 weeksTLDR; my boyfriend is depressed and isolates himself when he’s down. He’s down right now and told me to give him some time. I still want to tell him how important he is to me in an attempt to let him know at least one person cares, regardless of a response. What do I do?
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