Asking out a coworker?

Yeah yeah I know. "Don't dip your pen in the company ink." I may not even end up making a movie but I just wanted some advice.

So I've (23M) been working at this job for 3 months and this girl (22F) started a month ago. We're on the same account, with the same job title, working on different projects. So we'll work together sometimes but not a lot. We're both also relatively knew to the town we're in. I've been here for over half a year and she just moved here a month ago for this job. But we both have friends here and everything too. We also both went to similar schools, have similar interests, and seemed to vibe from the first time we talked.

I'm sure a lot of what I'm interpreting is just friendliness but other signs I'm not so sure about:

  • She's asked me to eat lunch with her once or twice and a few times I left work to go get lunch and she went with me just to tag along (even though she brought lunch from home)
  • Since she's new and we have the same job title I've been training her on a lot of stuff. Usually this starts as me showing her how to do stuff but it usually diverts into talking about other stuff. Like for example we ask each other random stuff like the other day she started talking about her favorite movies
  • We moved to a different office within the same building and she said I should pick the seat by her

Honestly I was gonna try and talk to her more outside of work whenever we went to one of our work functions, but our office recently starting working from home because of the coronavirus. Before we left she said she wasn't gonna be able to do any work without me (even though there's a few other people on our account with a lot more work experience that she could ask). Now I'm not sure what to do since we're both kinda stuck at home for work.

Again I'm sure a lot of this is pure friendliness, but there's been enough of certain inflections or looks that's made me think twice about it. I'd love to ask her out, even if it's just for coffee, but I would HATE if I was just interpreting all of these signs the wrong way and she wasn't interested at all. I really like what we have as friends right now and as much as I'd like to give a shot to something more I don't wanna ruin what we have.

TLDR: New girl at my office has been dropping "hints" but I don't know if they're hints or just friendliness. Wanna ask her out but don't wanna ruin what we have.



Submitted March 14, 2020 at 12:14AM

Yeah yeah I know. "Don't dip your pen in the company ink." I may not even end up making a movie but I just wanted some advice.So I've (23M) been working at this job for 3 months and this girl (22F) started a month ago. We're on the same account, with the same job title, working on different projects. So we'll work together sometimes but not a lot. We're both also relatively knew to the town we're in. I've been here for over half a year and she just moved here a month ago for this job. But we both have friends here and everything too. We also both went to similar schools, have similar interests, and seemed to vibe from the first time we talked.I'm sure a lot of what I'm interpreting is just friendliness but other signs I'm not so sure about:She's asked me to eat lunch with her once or twice and a few times I left work to go get lunch and she went with me just to tag along (even though she brought lunch from home)Since she's new and we have the same job title I've been training her on a lot of stuff. Usually this starts as me showing her how to do stuff but it usually diverts into talking about other stuff. Like for example we ask each other random stuff like the other day she started talking about her favorite moviesWe moved to a different office within the same building and she said I should pick the seat by herHonestly I was gonna try and talk to her more outside of work whenever we went to one of our work functions, but our office recently starting working from home because of the coronavirus. Before we left she said she wasn't gonna be able to do any work without me (even though there's a few other people on our account with a lot more work experience that she could ask). Now I'm not sure what to do since we're both kinda stuck at home for work.Again I'm sure a lot of this is pure friendliness, but there's been enough of certain inflections or looks that's made me think twice about it. I'd love to ask her out, even if it's just for coffee, but I would HATE if I was just interpreting all of these signs the wrong way and she wasn't interested at all. I really like what we have as friends right now and as much as I'd like to give a shot to something more I don't wanna ruin what we have.TLDR: New girl at my office has been dropping "hints" but I don't know if they're hints or just friendliness. Wanna ask her out but don't wanna ruin what we have.
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