My (M23) girlfriend (F21) is trying to make new friends because she doesn't have any, but she's struggling

Essentially my girlfriend has no friends. We have been together for around 5 years and ever since she got back from uni she has been struggling with the fact she has no friends here. Everybody she did know either disappeared or she grew apart from them. She had friends at uni but not many, and those who she hung out with it seemed more like a 'classmate' situation. She isn't the type to 'socialize' and it's worth noting she studied a STEM subject, and her class was all guys. This didn't bother her, nor me, but in her words she "Just wanted some girl hangouts once in a while".

Anyway she got a job back in our hometown after uni, she's one of the very few females in the workplace and she has been trying to get to know some people around. Another issue she faces is they are mostly a bit older than her. She keeps saying things like "I don't find anything in common with anyone", "I want to have some girl friends", "All they talk about is guy stuff". She did meet one girl there and they kind of got along for a bit, but that girl was an intern and lives a bit of a distance away so it didn't last, they still text each other.

For my part I have introduced her to my circle obviously (I don't have a big group of friends) and we've gone on double dates and things. She gets along with everyone well enough.

When I ask about this it seems like A: She doesn't want it to be guy, presumably because she doesn't have any girl friends to talk to. B: She doesn't do enough outside work to be able to meet new people. and C: She struggles with the process of making friends anyway.

I've suggested we do more things together that mean meeting other people, or take up new hobbies. I've suggested she go to more work events and try getting to know more people outside her usual group. Can you give me some tips that I can relay, or anything I can do?

TL;DR: My (M23) girlfriend (F21) of 5 years has no friends and is struggling to make new ones. How can I help her?



Submitted January 03, 2020 at 11:51PM

Essentially my girlfriend has no friends. We have been together for around 5 years and ever since she got back from uni she has been struggling with the fact she has no friends here. Everybody she did know either disappeared or she grew apart from them. She had friends at uni but not many, and those who she hung out with it seemed more like a 'classmate' situation. She isn't the type to 'socialize' and it's worth noting she studied a STEM subject, and her class was all guys. This didn't bother her, nor me, but in her words she "Just wanted some girl hangouts once in a while".Anyway she got a job back in our hometown after uni, she's one of the very few females in the workplace and she has been trying to get to know some people around. Another issue she faces is they are mostly a bit older than her. She keeps saying things like "I don't find anything in common with anyone", "I want to have some girl friends", "All they talk about is guy stuff". She did meet one girl there and they kind of got along for a bit, but that girl was an intern and lives a bit of a distance away so it didn't last, they still text each other.For my part I have introduced her to my circle obviously (I don't have a big group of friends) and we've gone on double dates and things. She gets along with everyone well enough.When I ask about this it seems like A: She doesn't want it to be guy, presumably because she doesn't have any girl friends to talk to. B: She doesn't do enough outside work to be able to meet new people. and C: She struggles with the process of making friends anyway.I've suggested we do more things together that mean meeting other people, or take up new hobbies. I've suggested she go to more work events and try getting to know more people outside her usual group. Can you give me some tips that I can relay, or anything I can do?TL;DR: My (M23) girlfriend (F21) of 5 years has no friends and is struggling to make new ones. How can I help her?
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