My boyfriend continues to surprise me over and over again, despite his age.

First off, let me start by saying that my boyfriend is 6 years younger than me. I'm almost 25; you do the math. I am a very sexually expressive person, and I always have been. From exploring this stuff at a young age, to being a tantric masseuse, and having worked in the adult industry since I turned 18, I'm around it all the time. It is a VERY normalized part of my life. I wouldn't have it any other way.

You hear all this stuff all the time about men not knowing where the clitoris is to save their lives. Women turn to vibrators and self-pleasure to satisfy themselves all the time. Very few women reach orgasm during intercourse on a regular basis. I've been one of those women for most of my adult life.

Cue my boyfriend. I do not understand it. Not just because he's so young, but because fully grown men aren't capable of half the stuff he does in bed. He is a VERY passionate lover, and I'm definitely all about that. His emotional intelligence when it comes to sex is well beyond his years. But what really gets me is the fact that he is capable of bringing me to orgasm with his fingers in half the time that I typically do by myself. With the majority of men I've been with in the past, I find that it is not pleasurable at all when they put their hands down there, thinking it's going to feel good for you. Most times, it does not because they have absolutely no idea what they're doing, or where the clitoris is.

But not only does he know where it is, he understands the concept that it is deeply pleasurable only when there is lubrication, and he knows where it comes from. Not to mention that his head is absolutely phenomenal. I have no idea where he learned all of this from or who the hell taught him all of this stuff, but I can only imagine he must have an ex who knows exactly what she wants and how to communicate it. I never really imagined that sex could be some sort of talent, but I'm now realizing that my understanding of sex, even after all these years of it playing such a big part in my life, is not thorough at all.

Submitted January 25, 2020 at 11:41PM

First off, let me start by saying that my boyfriend is 6 years younger than me. I'm almost 25; you do the math. I am a very sexually expressive person, and I always have been. From exploring this stuff at a young age, to being a tantric masseuse, and having worked in the adult industry since I turned 18, I'm around it all the time. It is a VERY normalized part of my life. I wouldn't have it any other way.You hear all this stuff all the time about men not knowing where the clitoris is to save their lives. Women turn to vibrators and self-pleasure to satisfy themselves all the time. Very few women reach orgasm during intercourse on a regular basis. I've been one of those women for most of my adult life.Cue my boyfriend. I do not understand it. Not just because he's so young, but because fully grown men aren't capable of half the stuff he does in bed. He is a VERY passionate lover, and I'm definitely all about that. His emotional intelligence when it comes to sex is well beyond his years. But what really gets me is the fact that he is capable of bringing me to orgasm with his fingers in half the time that I typically do by myself. With the majority of men I've been with in the past, I find that it is not pleasurable at all when they put their hands down there, thinking it's going to feel good for you. Most times, it does not because they have absolutely no idea what they're doing, or where the clitoris is.But not only does he know where it is, he understands the concept that it is deeply pleasurable only when there is lubrication, and he knows where it comes from. Not to mention that his head is absolutely phenomenal. I have no idea where he learned all of this from or who the hell taught him all of this stuff, but I can only imagine he must have an ex who knows exactly what she wants and how to communicate it. I never really imagined that sex could be some sort of talent, but I'm now realizing that my understanding of sex, even after all these years of it playing such a big part in my life, is not thorough at all.