My [22F] mom [40s] gets on my case about my food choices and it's stressing me out

I'm a petite woman and pretty strict with what I eat. Last year around spring 2019 I got a lil fat (due to my careless actions of thinking that I won't gain weight from eating whatever I want) and decided to get my shit together in fall 2019. I eventually lost weight through mindful eating and focus more on working out. I'm still trying to lose weight but I'm trying to be as discreet as possible or else my mom will piss me off. I would describe her as a helicopter parent.

I've maintained the schedule of fasting a bit (if anyone knows more about intermittent fasting and wanna help me out a bit about that, please message me. I already researched as much as I can but it's better to have someone experienced help). I say "a bit" because I'm not too strict with fasting.

Anyway, so my mom starts telling me to eat more due to how "thin" I got. I'm not stick skinny at all. I believe I'm average but in her eyes I'm too thin and she gets on my case if she notices that I eat small portion size. It's been going on for too long and I really do try to talk to her. I told her that I eat little portions (meals) to save my stomach so I can eat something else or I get full fast. I even told her that she should be more concerned that I am healthy despite being thin or thick. I basically kept standing on my ground. I even told her that she's used to seeing fat/larger people and that there are girls out there who are thinner than me and are healthy.

Eventually, I got in a heated argument with her at some point. I'm so tired of it. Just last night when I was eating, I chose to eat some noodles with vegetables and she saw it and she's like, "You're only eating vegtables?" and I just glared at her. I'm at a point where just looking at her stresses and pisses me off. If she does plan to take me to a doc I'll be sure to tell the doc to tell her that I'm a healthy weight. Her main concern is me turning to bones.

Both my parents are helicopters but more so my mom. I just want to maintain a healthy diet without her sticking her nose in places where it doesn't belong. I want her off my back. She also thinks I don't know anything when I clearly can make my own decisions and care for myself. I told her that I can take care of myself and she says sarcastically, "Fantastic job."

Out of desperation, I turned to Reddit. I've lurked on here for a long time but this is my first time posting.

Please help me, Reddit.

TL;DR: My mom gets on my case about the food choices I eat. I became mindful of what I eat due to getting fat last year for eating whatever I want so now she won't get off my back and it's pissing me off and it's making me hate her every day. Her concern is me turning to sticks and bones. I already talked to her and gave my reasons before, but nothing's working.

Submitted January 25, 2020 at 11:59PM

I'm a petite woman and pretty strict with what I eat. Last year around spring 2019 I got a lil fat (due to my careless actions of thinking that I won't gain weight from eating whatever I want) and decided to get my shit together in fall 2019. I eventually lost weight through mindful eating and focus more on working out. I'm still trying to lose weight but I'm trying to be as discreet as possible or else my mom will piss me off. I would describe her as a helicopter parent.I've maintained the schedule of fasting a bit (if anyone knows more about intermittent fasting and wanna help me out a bit about that, please message me. I already researched as much as I can but it's better to have someone experienced help). I say "a bit" because I'm not too strict with fasting.Anyway, so my mom starts telling me to eat more due to how "thin" I got. I'm not stick skinny at all. I believe I'm average but in her eyes I'm too thin and she gets on my case if she notices that I eat small portion size. It's been going on for too long and I really do try to talk to her. I told her that I eat little portions (meals) to save my stomach so I can eat something else or I get full fast. I even told her that she should be more concerned that I am healthy despite being thin or thick. I basically kept standing on my ground. I even told her that she's used to seeing fat/larger people and that there are girls out there who are thinner than me and are healthy.Eventually, I got in a heated argument with her at some point. I'm so tired of it. Just last night when I was eating, I chose to eat some noodles with vegetables and she saw it and she's like, "You're only eating vegtables?" and I just glared at her. I'm at a point where just looking at her stresses and pisses me off. If she does plan to take me to a doc I'll be sure to tell the doc to tell her that I'm a healthy weight. Her main concern is me turning to bones.Both my parents are helicopters but more so my mom. I just want to maintain a healthy diet without her sticking her nose in places where it doesn't belong. I want her off my back. She also thinks I don't know anything when I clearly can make my own decisions and care for myself. I told her that I can take care of myself and she says sarcastically, "Fantastic job."Out of desperation, I turned to Reddit. I've lurked on here for a long time but this is my first time posting.Please help me, Reddit.TL;DR: My mom gets on my case about the food choices I eat. I became mindful of what I eat due to getting fat last year for eating whatever I want so now she won't get off my back and it's pissing me off and it's making me hate her every day. Her concern is me turning to sticks and bones. I already talked to her and gave my reasons before, but nothing's working.