My S/O [19f] recently broke up with me [18m] and I'm not sure what to do now...

*throwaway account bc my friends know my real username*

Title pretty much says it all. My girlfriend recently broke up with me, not due to anything that happened, but we are currently doing long-distance just due to college and other factors, so we are still on good terms with one another; however, I really do believe that she is the one for me. She makes me happier than anyone else ever has, and even though we’re technically not together anymore I still think of her as motivation and inspiration to accomplish what I need to and to be the best version of myself. She has even said to me that she still loves me, but does not think its a great idea for us to be in a relationship at this current state in time.

To be honest with you all, I don’t blame her for a thing. I had thought previously that if we had ever broken up, whether or not it would be a good idea for me to do this, but that I would just convince myself in my head that it's better that we are broken up and that she is out of my life. I kind of just figured this because that’s how I’ve reacted to all of my previous relationships ending, whether or not I broke up with the other or I was broken up with; however, its different this time. I really still do have feelings for her and can’t think of myself with anyone else. She still means the world to me, and it kills me that we haven’t spoken in days when we used to text or call whenever possible, even when doing long distance.

I was just wondering if any of you had any feedback or advice on what I should do. I don’t think that I should try to get her back, being that if the way it is now is better for her than that’s the way I want it to be, I can truly say that I want nothing but the best for her. But once again, I don't know what would be best to try to do in this situation.

There aren’t any real options for me to pick from in my head, I just feel lost. I’m not saying anybody has to help me figure out what is 100% best, that would be impossible to do being that all any of you guys know about our relationship is what I’ve been able to tell you these last few paragraphs, but if you have any advice on how I can get myself to feel better I’d be all ears. People have been telling me that I’ll move on, but I really don’t want to. I know that having this girl as inspiration truly does make me able to accomplish things I know for a fact I wouldn’t be able to do otherwise.

I’m not sure if anyone will read this, none-the-less respond, but I figured it was worth a shot. If you made it this far I really am grateful and would really appreciate what anybody has to say. Thanks in advance.

TL;DR: my girlfriend recently broke up with me, and I don't want to move on because she makes me a better person, and I know myself well enough to know I am better having her as inspiration. What should I do next (makes more sense if you read the whole thing but thats essentially it)?

Submitted September 19, 2019 at 11:27PM

*throwaway account bc my friends know my real username*Title pretty much says it all. My girlfriend recently broke up with me, not due to anything that happened, but we are currently doing long-distance just due to college and other factors, so we are still on good terms with one another; however, I really do believe that she is the one for me. She makes me happier than anyone else ever has, and even though we’re technically not together anymore I still think of her as motivation and inspiration to accomplish what I need to and to be the best version of myself. She has even said to me that she still loves me, but does not think its a great idea for us to be in a relationship at this current state in time.To be honest with you all, I don’t blame her for a thing. I had thought previously that if we had ever broken up, whether or not it would be a good idea for me to do this, but that I would just convince myself in my head that it's better that we are broken up and that she is out of my life. I kind of just figured this because that’s how I’ve reacted to all of my previous relationships ending, whether or not I broke up with the other or I was broken up with; however, its different this time. I really still do have feelings for her and can’t think of myself with anyone else. She still means the world to me, and it kills me that we haven’t spoken in days when we used to text or call whenever possible, even when doing long distance.I was just wondering if any of you had any feedback or advice on what I should do. I don’t think that I should try to get her back, being that if the way it is now is better for her than that’s the way I want it to be, I can truly say that I want nothing but the best for her. But once again, I don't know what would be best to try to do in this situation.There aren’t any real options for me to pick from in my head, I just feel lost. I’m not saying anybody has to help me figure out what is 100% best, that would be impossible to do being that all any of you guys know about our relationship is what I’ve been able to tell you these last few paragraphs, but if you have any advice on how I can get myself to feel better I’d be all ears. People have been telling me that I’ll move on, but I really don’t want to. I know that having this girl as inspiration truly does make me able to accomplish things I know for a fact I wouldn’t be able to do otherwise.I’m not sure if anyone will read this, none-the-less respond, but I figured it was worth a shot. If you made it this far I really am grateful and would really appreciate what anybody has to say. Thanks in advance.TL;DR: my girlfriend recently broke up with me, and I don't want to move on because she makes me a better person, and I know myself well enough to know I am better having her as inspiration. What should I do next (makes more sense if you read the whole thing but thats essentially it)?