My [24/M] roommate [24/M] and his girlfriend [22/F] may break up, I’ll go insane if they do

My roommate and I have lived together for 3 years now and it’s been a good arrangement thus far. We have a real one-in-a-million flat that’s super cheap, but also really nice and in a great area. The only problem with the place is its size, it’s almost like one of those university dormitory rooms - meaning there isn’t much in the way of privacy. This hasn’t been a problem though, as my roommate is often at his girlfriend’s place. So while I don’t get as much privacy as I’d otherwise like, he’s not home enough for it to be an issue, meaning my girlfriend can come stay with me all we’d like, and I can have the place to myself most evenings should I desire some alone time.

This may come to an end soon, however, as I fear my roommate’s girlfriend may dump him. As of the last 6 months or so, he’s really been treating her like shit, to put it frankly. Constantly bailing on her to play video games, and the odd time she’s at our place, he ignores her basically the whole time. I’ve known both of them for 5 years, and this is definitely new behaviour.

I understand it’s generally not my place to get involved in their relationship, and I know this is selfish, but I’m concerned that if they break up our living arrangement will become significantly less equitable. Apart from going to his girlfriend’s place, my roommate never leaves the flat. He’s a freelancer so he often works at home, his hometown is on the other side of the country, and I’m his only friend in this town. They broke up for about 2 months once before, almost 3 years ago, and that two months was absolute torture, with my roommate constantly coming to me for the attention he was starved of.

I don’t have any plans to meddle beyond potentially having a talk with him, but I worry that even that will come off poorly. Worst case, I’ll look for new living arrangements, but damn it, this place is such a great bargain and so close to my work. That aside, I wouldn’t be able to move until next July, so I’d have to deal with no privacy until then. My girlfriend doesn’t have a place of her own in town, so the opportunities for us to be intimate would be extremely limited.

So what do you think, Reddit? Should I have a chat with my roommate? Should I stay out of it? Any other courses of action I could take?

Tl;Dr: I live in a fantastic flat that I love, but there is nothing in the way of privacy. Roommate is always at his girlfriend’s place, affording me plenty of privacy, but his recent treatment of her has me concerned that she’ll dump him and my privacy will permanently come to an end.

Submitted September 19, 2019 at 11:34PM

My roommate and I have lived together for 3 years now and it’s been a good arrangement thus far. We have a real one-in-a-million flat that’s super cheap, but also really nice and in a great area. The only problem with the place is its size, it’s almost like one of those university dormitory rooms - meaning there isn’t much in the way of privacy. This hasn’t been a problem though, as my roommate is often at his girlfriend’s place. So while I don’t get as much privacy as I’d otherwise like, he’s not home enough for it to be an issue, meaning my girlfriend can come stay with me all we’d like, and I can have the place to myself most evenings should I desire some alone time.This may come to an end soon, however, as I fear my roommate’s girlfriend may dump him. As of the last 6 months or so, he’s really been treating her like shit, to put it frankly. Constantly bailing on her to play video games, and the odd time she’s at our place, he ignores her basically the whole time. I’ve known both of them for 5 years, and this is definitely new behaviour.I understand it’s generally not my place to get involved in their relationship, and I know this is selfish, but I’m concerned that if they break up our living arrangement will become significantly less equitable. Apart from going to his girlfriend’s place, my roommate never leaves the flat. He’s a freelancer so he often works at home, his hometown is on the other side of the country, and I’m his only friend in this town. They broke up for about 2 months once before, almost 3 years ago, and that two months was absolute torture, with my roommate constantly coming to me for the attention he was starved of.I don’t have any plans to meddle beyond potentially having a talk with him, but I worry that even that will come off poorly. Worst case, I’ll look for new living arrangements, but damn it, this place is such a great bargain and so close to my work. That aside, I wouldn’t be able to move until next July, so I’d have to deal with no privacy until then. My girlfriend doesn’t have a place of her own in town, so the opportunities for us to be intimate would be extremely limited.So what do you think, Reddit? Should I have a chat with my roommate? Should I stay out of it? Any other courses of action I could take?Tl;Dr: I live in a fantastic flat that I love, but there is nothing in the way of privacy. Roommate is always at his girlfriend’s place, affording me plenty of privacy, but his recent treatment of her has me concerned that she’ll dump him and my privacy will permanently come to an end.