Why can’t we have sex?

I (20F) have been in a relationship with a guy (26M) for 3 months. We have made out, I have given him blowjobs, he has eaten me out, he has fingered me, etc. It is all good. The main thing that is missing is the actual SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. PIV. I have been in two other relationships and our sex life was amazing. We had sex a lot and have never had difficulties with it. The men were also 20+ years older than me so getting into a relationship with someone closer to my age I figured that our sex life would be even better. I was wrong.......we live in the city and since we get along so well we have decided to be roommates bc living in nyc around our age we can’t necessarily have an apartment without roommates. I just moved here three months ago too so I needed someone to live with. We are both really chill and give each other space when needed. We literally sleep in the same bed and he doesn’t try to have sex with me. I have asked him multiple times why. He first said his foreskin was bothering him, then he said “I was drinking so it’s hard for me to stay hard when I have been drinking alcohol”, then he said he is nervous, then he said he was sick. The list goes on and on. He fingers me a bit then he’s like I’m tired lol. He doesn’t even try to have sex. I’m just baffled. Then just carries on with whatever tf he was doing. I honestly don’t ever expect us to have sex. It is very frustrating. He goes inside of me, thrusts a little (weak thrusts too) then pulls it out and says oh it’s not that hard let’s just do it another time. I don’t understand what to do. Have you ever been in this position? Please help.

tl;dr : boyfriend of 3 months keeps making excuses why he won’t have sex with me and I’m getting so frustrated.

Submitted March 16, 2020 at 12:15AM

I (20F) have been in a relationship with a guy (26M) for 3 months. We have made out, I have given him blowjobs, he has eaten me out, he has fingered me, etc. It is all good. The main thing that is missing is the actual SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. PIV. I have been in two other relationships and our sex life was amazing. We had sex a lot and have never had difficulties with it. The men were also 20+ years older than me so getting into a relationship with someone closer to my age I figured that our sex life would be even better. I was wrong.......we live in the city and since we get along so well we have decided to be roommates bc living in nyc around our age we can’t necessarily have an apartment without roommates. I just moved here three months ago too so I needed someone to live with. We are both really chill and give each other space when needed. We literally sleep in the same bed and he doesn’t try to have sex with me. I have asked him multiple times why. He first said his foreskin was bothering him, then he said “I was drinking so it’s hard for me to stay hard when I have been drinking alcohol”, then he said he is nervous, then he said he was sick. The list goes on and on. He fingers me a bit then he’s like I’m tired lol. He doesn’t even try to have sex. I’m just baffled. Then just carries on with whatever tf he was doing. I honestly don’t ever expect us to have sex. It is very frustrating. He goes inside of me, thrusts a little (weak thrusts too) then pulls it out and says oh it’s not that hard let’s just do it another time. I don’t understand what to do. Have you ever been in this position? Please help.tl;dr : boyfriend of 3 months keeps making excuses why he won’t have sex with me and I’m getting so frustrated.