I (25F) am thinking of breaking up with my BF(25M)

So, i have been on and of with my BF for 9 years, we met when i was 16 and he was 17, long story shorts we broke up and got back together about 3 years ago. I have loved him with all of my heart, u know, to the core.

About six months ago he moved in with me, and that is when things took a turn for the worse. Living with him was awful, I basically became his mom, I cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, dishes u get it. But we constantly argue about his weed habit, I just do not want it around me, he assured me that he would stop or at least not be around me when he smokes, but obviously he did not honor it. He treated med terrible, would start a fight all the time just being rude ALL day.

He do not have family, his mom passed when he was really young and his white side of the family acts awful. But I am really close to my family, so over the years he has grown closer to my family, to the point where he sees them as his own and they love him too, they do not know about his drugs habit or anything.

So to the problem that broke me.. one day, in December he told me that he was going to hang out with his friend (after work) and he said he would probably sleep over there (it’s far from where we live so I did not mind) but the whole day he was acting distant, and I was annoyed about his behavior towards me so I was kinda happy he would be out of my face, but as the time went he did not text me telling me good night or anything, so I was about to text him to say goodnight when I got this text from him: if she calls you just say I am sleeping. My heart dropped, I tried to text him back but his phone was of. I WENT CRAZY, I obviously contacted his friend and asked to talk to him but he said that he was not with him.. at that point I started packing his things, I could not sleep the whole night, and during the whole night I am rage texting his phone that is turned of. So around 8 in the morning the texts get deliver and I got a hold of him. He basically said he was at his other friends house getting high. but I do not want to live with a fucking liar!! (I found out about allot he was lying about, hacked into his iCloud and Snapchat)

My trust issues was at a all time high after this and It has come to the surface that when we first got back together he cheated on me. He only told me this because i was threatening to leave him because of his lates actions.

I have never loved anybody like I have loved him, I literally gave him all of me. I am 25 years old and I pictured us getting married and now that thought scares me. It’s so crazy how i don’t want him but I can’t deal with the thought of letting him go. Plus he plays with my emotions, because of the fact that he is attached to my family, he tells me all the time he would be sooo lonely if I broke it of with him. It broke me down so I told him he needs to move out.

so it’s been two weeks and I have found the time to breath without him and I am so confused, like I can’t se myself marrying him but I am somehow not wanting to breakup with him.

Help?...

TL;DR! He lied and I am having a hard time with my next move



Submitted March 16, 2020 at 12:16AM

So, i have been on and of with my BF for 9 years, we met when i was 16 and he was 17, long story shorts we broke up and got back together about 3 years ago. I have loved him with all of my heart, u know, to the core.About six months ago he moved in with me, and that is when things took a turn for the worse. Living with him was awful, I basically became his mom, I cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, dishes u get it. But we constantly argue about his weed habit, I just do not want it around me, he assured me that he would stop or at least not be around me when he smokes, but obviously he did not honor it. He treated med terrible, would start a fight all the time just being rude ALL day.He do not have family, his mom passed when he was really young and his white side of the family acts awful. But I am really close to my family, so over the years he has grown closer to my family, to the point where he sees them as his own and they love him too, they do not know about his drugs habit or anything.So to the problem that broke me.. one day, in December he told me that he was going to hang out with his friend (after work) and he said he would probably sleep over there (it’s far from where we live so I did not mind) but the whole day he was acting distant, and I was annoyed about his behavior towards me so I was kinda happy he would be out of my face, but as the time went he did not text me telling me good night or anything, so I was about to text him to say goodnight when I got this text from him: if she calls you just say I am sleeping. My heart dropped, I tried to text him back but his phone was of. I WENT CRAZY, I obviously contacted his friend and asked to talk to him but he said that he was not with him.. at that point I started packing his things, I could not sleep the whole night, and during the whole night I am rage texting his phone that is turned of. So around 8 in the morning the texts get deliver and I got a hold of him. He basically said he was at his other friends house getting high. but I do not want to live with a fucking liar!! (I found out about allot he was lying about, hacked into his iCloud and Snapchat)My trust issues was at a all time high after this and It has come to the surface that when we first got back together he cheated on me. He only told me this because i was threatening to leave him because of his lates actions.I have never loved anybody like I have loved him, I literally gave him all of me. I am 25 years old and I pictured us getting married and now that thought scares me. It’s so crazy how i don’t want him but I can’t deal with the thought of letting him go. Plus he plays with my emotions, because of the fact that he is attached to my family, he tells me all the time he would be sooo lonely if I broke it of with him. It broke me down so I told him he needs to move out.so it’s been two weeks and I have found the time to breath without him and I am so confused, like I can’t se myself marrying him but I am somehow not wanting to breakup with him.Help?...TL;DR! He lied and I am having a hard time with my next move
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