what the f is he looking for??

HELLOOO sooo i have a slight dilemma and I thought i’d ask on here to see if anyone has any advice or insight for me. I’m currently in college, and this past saturday I hooked up with this guy at a bar. We had been like acquaintances for over a year now, didnt really talk much but had lots of mutual friends and said hi when we saw each other. a few days before the bar we had matched on tinder and he hit me up just chatting for a bit and eventually asked me to hang out and smoke and stuff on friday. i got a bit too nervous and ended up never answering, but saturday i ended up seeing him at the bar anyways. we kind of hit it off and i ended up going home w him and yeah you get the idea ANYWAYS. every single day since and up until the day he had to leave bc of the whole corona thing, we hung out, cuddled and did the deed. on one of the days i asked him if he was down to get food before we chilled at his place and he agreed and we went off campus, got food, and he paid for it. then the night he had to leave he came to my dorm for an hour, we cuddled and watched tv and ended up sleeping tg and then i dropped him off at the train station. since then and up to this very moment we have been texting non stop just about life, school, family, and ofc flirting here and there. im just wondering what all this means and if hes interested or just wants to have sex. everyone has been telling me its much to early to ask what hes looking for, and to wait it out, but it just bothers me that i cant really figure it out :( lol. i guess the fact that we’ve slept together every day since saturday threw me off and made me thibk maybe he just wants to have sex? idk. if anyone could give me any advice on what it seems like he wants or when/how to bring up that conversation bc i just genuinely want to know without scaring him off that would be greatly appreciated!



Submitted March 16, 2020 at 12:13AM

HELLOOO sooo i have a slight dilemma and I thought i’d ask on here to see if anyone has any advice or insight for me. I’m currently in college, and this past saturday I hooked up with this guy at a bar. We had been like acquaintances for over a year now, didnt really talk much but had lots of mutual friends and said hi when we saw each other. a few days before the bar we had matched on tinder and he hit me up just chatting for a bit and eventually asked me to hang out and smoke and stuff on friday. i got a bit too nervous and ended up never answering, but saturday i ended up seeing him at the bar anyways. we kind of hit it off and i ended up going home w him and yeah you get the idea ANYWAYS. every single day since and up until the day he had to leave bc of the whole corona thing, we hung out, cuddled and did the deed. on one of the days i asked him if he was down to get food before we chilled at his place and he agreed and we went off campus, got food, and he paid for it. then the night he had to leave he came to my dorm for an hour, we cuddled and watched tv and ended up sleeping tg and then i dropped him off at the train station. since then and up to this very moment we have been texting non stop just about life, school, family, and ofc flirting here and there. im just wondering what all this means and if hes interested or just wants to have sex. everyone has been telling me its much to early to ask what hes looking for, and to wait it out, but it just bothers me that i cant really figure it out :( lol. i guess the fact that we’ve slept together every day since saturday threw me off and made me thibk maybe he just wants to have sex? idk. if anyone could give me any advice on what it seems like he wants or when/how to bring up that conversation bc i just genuinely want to know without scaring him off that would be greatly appreciated!
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