My 18 year old stepdaughter is in a relationship with my 14 year old son and my husband and I aren't on the same page

I have a son 14M, my husband has two daughters 18F and 14F and we have a son together who is 16 months.

His oldest daughter (18F) is in a relationship with my son (14M). At first we all thought it was a joke but they seem to be taking this seriously, she kisses on the lips. My husband said it was completely inappropriate and told to stop or he'd kick her out of the house. She said it was only a 4 year age Gap and that he's old enough to decide who he wants to be with, that he could consent to sexual activity if he wanted. Then she was very quick to say that they had no sexual contact. My husband repeated what he said.

We came home and I was upset because my son had been left alone with her, my husband said he didn't know I'd left the house and thought I was just upset stairs, he said he yelled he was leaving but should have checked. My son was cuddled up with her and he was rubbing her back. I told my husband and he said he told her she needed to leave by tomorrow morning. She cried saying she wouldn't have anywhere to go and that she loves my son.

Her being his step sister is the least weird thing about the relationship. 

She came back 2 hours after leaving the house and my husband let her back in. He said we need to arrange somewhere for her to go. I am not okay with this girl being in the house one more second. I told her I would call the police if she didn't leave and he said no, that's his daughter and he needs to find somewhere for her to go, that he can't just kick he out. 

She hugged my son again and I'm just so angry at my husband. He is begging me to let him find somewhere but I'm just not okay with any of it and want her out. He's told me that he can find somewhere but it's going to take a few days to a week and we'll just keep an eye on them. I feel like he's not listening to me, it's his house so I don't even know what I can do

TL;dr: my stepdaughter who is 18 is in a relationship with my son who is 14. I want her out but my husband is saying he needs to find somewhere for her to stay, I don't feel comfortable with her being around my son



Submitted March 16, 2020 at 12:15AM

I have a son 14M, my husband has two daughters 18F and 14F and we have a son together who is 16 months.His oldest daughter (18F) is in a relationship with my son (14M). At first we all thought it was a joke but they seem to be taking this seriously, she kisses on the lips. My husband said it was completely inappropriate and told to stop or he'd kick her out of the house. She said it was only a 4 year age Gap and that he's old enough to decide who he wants to be with, that he could consent to sexual activity if he wanted. Then she was very quick to say that they had no sexual contact. My husband repeated what he said.We came home and I was upset because my son had been left alone with her, my husband said he didn't know I'd left the house and thought I was just upset stairs, he said he yelled he was leaving but should have checked. My son was cuddled up with her and he was rubbing her back. I told my husband and he said he told her she needed to leave by tomorrow morning. She cried saying she wouldn't have anywhere to go and that she loves my son.Her being his step sister is the least weird thing about the relationship. She came back 2 hours after leaving the house and my husband let her back in. He said we need to arrange somewhere for her to go. I am not okay with this girl being in the house one more second. I told her I would call the police if she didn't leave and he said no, that's his daughter and he needs to find somewhere for her to go, that he can't just kick he out. She hugged my son again and I'm just so angry at my husband. He is begging me to let him find somewhere but I'm just not okay with any of it and want her out. He's told me that he can find somewhere but it's going to take a few days to a week and we'll just keep an eye on them. I feel like he's not listening to me, it's his house so I don't even know what I can doTL;dr: my stepdaughter who is 18 is in a relationship with my son who is 14. I want her out but my husband is saying he needs to find somewhere for her to stay, I don't feel comfortable with her being around my son
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