Is it wrong that I feel bad for ending a toxic relationship?

My last related post had a summary of what basically happened in our relationship. If you don’t wanna bother reading it, I (23F) was in a very toxic relationship (24M) and I was in it way longer than I should have been. After receiving responses with majority telling me to end it, my foolish self was still considering staying with this person until it finally took a family member involved to come to my senses.

A few days ago, I uploaded a selfie on IG and he got angry about another guy commenting under my picture, not knowing it was my step dad. He told him to get off my page, and as soon I saw his comment I took a screenshot, disabled the comments and blocked him. I called my now ex and cursed him out, telling him he was dead wrong for coming at my family like that, and I’ll never let him get away with it. I felt so sick, I talked with my step dad about the situation and agreed I did the right thing to stand up for him and end the relationship.

I know I’m doing everything for the right reasons, but is it wrong that in some kind of way I will miss this person? All flaws aside, we really had good memories together. Before we dated and throughout, I loved his personality and he was special to me in many ways. I know I deserve much better and there’s probably someone out there for me who’s worth staying with, but is it wrong that I feel bad to leave him? I know it’s going to mess with me because I have a big heart.

TLDR: I’m ending a toxic relationship because my partner’s insecurity went as far as involving a family member. I made it clear to him that I can’t let him get away with it because I won’t put a man over my family. I’m breaking up with him for the right reasons, but all flaws aside, is it wrong that I will miss him? I don’t think it feels right to even be friends after this but I know he will float in the back of my mind sometimes.



Submitted March 27, 2020 at 11:58PM

My last related post had a summary of what basically happened in our relationship. If you don’t wanna bother reading it, I (23F) was in a very toxic relationship (24M) and I was in it way longer than I should have been. After receiving responses with majority telling me to end it, my foolish self was still considering staying with this person until it finally took a family member involved to come to my senses.A few days ago, I uploaded a selfie on IG and he got angry about another guy commenting under my picture, not knowing it was my step dad. He told him to get off my page, and as soon I saw his comment I took a screenshot, disabled the comments and blocked him. I called my now ex and cursed him out, telling him he was dead wrong for coming at my family like that, and I’ll never let him get away with it. I felt so sick, I talked with my step dad about the situation and agreed I did the right thing to stand up for him and end the relationship.I know I’m doing everything for the right reasons, but is it wrong that in some kind of way I will miss this person? All flaws aside, we really had good memories together. Before we dated and throughout, I loved his personality and he was special to me in many ways. I know I deserve much better and there’s probably someone out there for me who’s worth staying with, but is it wrong that I feel bad to leave him? I know it’s going to mess with me because I have a big heart.TLDR: I’m ending a toxic relationship because my partner’s insecurity went as far as involving a family member. I made it clear to him that I can’t let him get away with it because I won’t put a man over my family. I’m breaking up with him for the right reasons, but all flaws aside, is it wrong that I will miss him? I don’t think it feels right to even be friends after this but I know he will float in the back of my mind sometimes.
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