boyfriend (22m) hates harmless memes or jokes I send him (20f) and shuts me down for them

To give some backstory, my boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend two weeks after we first met/our first date. It didn’t strike me as strange, we hit it off, have fun together when we hang out and have a strong attraction for each other. We’re both in uni and he’s a varsity athlete and his parents put a lot of pressure on him with academics and sports. I understand this and respect his hustle, support him when he’s down and try my best to motivate him through the stress.

We’ve now been dating for almost two months and red flags are starting to appear. First of all let me preface this by saying we haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks because of Covid-19 and social distancing. We live 1.5 hours away from each other currently but we are planning to see each other soon. During the school year I’m only minutes away from him. We are pretty good on communication (text and snap everyday) and he’s loyal and honest to me. However, lately he’s been snapping at me randomly when I send him a meme or make a joke.

He doesn’t appreciate my sense of humour and consistently shuts me down when I make jokes. Examples of responses have been “ugh. I’m sorry but you know I don’t like that stuff. Don’t find it funny” all the way to today when he said “idk how old you think I am but that’s just stupid”. I send him harmless memes and things to make him laugh OCCASSIONALLY. Yet almost every time I get shut down if it’s at least slightly different (I sent him a bird with a bowl cut and he hated it). There shouldn’t be such an overreaction to such harmless things. It hurts me because I text him with good intentions.

He’s told me before he’s a sore loser and gets mad easily. Usually it’s an underlying problem that has nothing to do with me yet he’ll still take it out on me very rudely when I do nothing wrong. How do I go about this? Am I overreacting? Open to criticism.

TLDR; boyfriend hates harmless memes or jokes I send him. Don’t know what to do



Submitted March 28, 2020 at 12:10AM

To give some backstory, my boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend two weeks after we first met/our first date. It didn’t strike me as strange, we hit it off, have fun together when we hang out and have a strong attraction for each other. We’re both in uni and he’s a varsity athlete and his parents put a lot of pressure on him with academics and sports. I understand this and respect his hustle, support him when he’s down and try my best to motivate him through the stress.We’ve now been dating for almost two months and red flags are starting to appear. First of all let me preface this by saying we haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks because of Covid-19 and social distancing. We live 1.5 hours away from each other currently but we are planning to see each other soon. During the school year I’m only minutes away from him. We are pretty good on communication (text and snap everyday) and he’s loyal and honest to me. However, lately he’s been snapping at me randomly when I send him a meme or make a joke.He doesn’t appreciate my sense of humour and consistently shuts me down when I make jokes. Examples of responses have been “ugh. I’m sorry but you know I don’t like that stuff. Don’t find it funny” all the way to today when he said “idk how old you think I am but that’s just stupid”. I send him harmless memes and things to make him laugh OCCASSIONALLY. Yet almost every time I get shut down if it’s at least slightly different (I sent him a bird with a bowl cut and he hated it). There shouldn’t be such an overreaction to such harmless things. It hurts me because I text him with good intentions.He’s told me before he’s a sore loser and gets mad easily. Usually it’s an underlying problem that has nothing to do with me yet he’ll still take it out on me very rudely when I do nothing wrong. How do I go about this? Am I overreacting? Open to criticism.TLDR; boyfriend hates harmless memes or jokes I send him. Don’t know what to do
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