Advice in helping my partner's family?

Sorry this is going to be long, Ill try to make it short. My bf and his family have had it rough since his parents have worked so extremely hard to immigrate from the Philippines to the US. Even after coming here, they have personal mental health and family issues such as alcoholism, abuse, his sister leaving (his mom hasnt genuinely laughed in the house since she left a few years ago). They've moved a lot and are unhappy/frustrated with their life since they live in not-the-best apartment and have debts to worry about such as his and his sister's education. I suggest to him they should move to a new place and get better jobs, but asides from the obvious fact that thats easier said than done, he said he's already had every discussion possible with them and they won't because of how financially burdening and stressful it is. They don't have a savings so I suggested we should save up money for a decade for them to move to a new apartment and cover their first two months of expenses. They're a priority because his parents don't want him to move out (hes 21M and I'm 19F) and he cant just leave because we're afraid of how they may react as it'll hurt them to a self-harm extent. So... if I want a future with my bf, I should help his parents so they're happy not just for my own sake but theirs, especially because they're a broken family and helping them out financially will give them a chance to rebuild their family that my bf has always wanted for them. My bf is hopeless but I'm going to save money every month to go towards his parents and stop any luxurious extra expenses. Do you guys have any advice or tips what else I could do to make this a reality? Or any advice if this is even possible?

As for my financial background, I want to be a nurse practitioner and I am planning to get a real estate license. I'm a college freshman and my college tuition is free because of scholarships and I only HAD to worry about my room-and-board, however, I am getting a job position where my room and board is paid off fully by my university. So a potential outcome is I have great income from my future occupations with practically nothing owed back. My parents are also financially smart and we're well off, I don't plan on not helping them but my parents have savings and retirement funds, while his family doesn't (I dont know why) I want to help both but my urgent focus is to help his. For my bf, he isn't motivated to save for them since 1. he also has mental health issues :( and 2. because his parents kinda ruined any hope he had to help them since they're very resitant to changing their life.

TL;DR: My boyfriend's (21M)family's financial situation is terrible and they're unsatisfied. Long story short, I (19F)want to help them move to a new apartment in the future with a couple months of expenses and bills paid off too. Need advice and tips if this is even possible and if so, what do you recommend? I am already saving for them and cutting off luxurious expenses, I want to help them since he and his family are important to me and I can't even think of a future with him if he can't move out since it'll break them. If they're better off, they may let him be the adult he is. They don't have savings and they have debts and always hesitant to move out because of financial burdens. See the paragraph before this one about my personal financial standing and my boyfriends.

!!!! I know it seems like I shouldn't be in charge of helping them out, but I do care about these people and I want to do the most I can for them. In the future, if they see they have help with actual tangible money not hypothetical money, they'll want to take the help I could offer rather than just dreaming and being overwhelmed.

Submitted March 28, 2020 at 12:13AM

Sorry this is going to be long, Ill try to make it short. My bf and his family have had it rough since his parents have worked so extremely hard to immigrate from the Philippines to the US. Even after coming here, they have personal mental health and family issues such as alcoholism, abuse, his sister leaving (his mom hasnt genuinely laughed in the house since she left a few years ago). They've moved a lot and are unhappy/frustrated with their life since they live in not-the-best apartment and have debts to worry about such as his and his sister's education. I suggest to him they should move to a new place and get better jobs, but asides from the obvious fact that thats easier said than done, he said he's already had every discussion possible with them and they won't because of how financially burdening and stressful it is. They don't have a savings so I suggested we should save up money for a decade for them to move to a new apartment and cover their first two months of expenses. They're a priority because his parents don't want him to move out (hes 21M and I'm 19F) and he cant just leave because we're afraid of how they may react as it'll hurt them to a self-harm extent. So... if I want a future with my bf, I should help his parents so they're happy not just for my own sake but theirs, especially because they're a broken family and helping them out financially will give them a chance to rebuild their family that my bf has always wanted for them. My bf is hopeless but I'm going to save money every month to go towards his parents and stop any luxurious extra expenses. Do you guys have any advice or tips what else I could do to make this a reality? Or any advice if this is even possible?As for my financial background, I want to be a nurse practitioner and I am planning to get a real estate license. I'm a college freshman and my college tuition is free because of scholarships and I only HAD to worry about my room-and-board, however, I am getting a job position where my room and board is paid off fully by my university. So a potential outcome is I have great income from my future occupations with practically nothing owed back. My parents are also financially smart and we're well off, I don't plan on not helping them but my parents have savings and retirement funds, while his family doesn't (I dont know why) I want to help both but my urgent focus is to help his. For my bf, he isn't motivated to save for them since 1. he also has mental health issues :( and 2. because his parents kinda ruined any hope he had to help them since they're very resitant to changing their life.TL;DR: My boyfriend's (21M)family's financial situation is terrible and they're unsatisfied. Long story short, I (19F)want to help them move to a new apartment in the future with a couple months of expenses and bills paid off too. Need advice and tips if this is even possible and if so, what do you recommend? I am already saving for them and cutting off luxurious expenses, I want to help them since he and his family are important to me and I can't even think of a future with him if he can't move out since it'll break them. If they're better off, they may let him be the adult he is. They don't have savings and they have debts and always hesitant to move out because of financial burdens. See the paragraph before this one about my personal financial standing and my boyfriends.!!!! I know it seems like I shouldn't be in charge of helping them out, but I do care about these people and I want to do the most I can for them. In the future, if they see they have help with actual tangible money not hypothetical money, they'll want to take the help I could offer rather than just dreaming and being overwhelmed.