Wanting to cum with just him, advice?

Some background, I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. We've been together for 5 years and are in our early 20s.

I've always struggled around the confusion of orgasms and how to achieve them. Before I was old enough to purchase sex toys the only way I could achieve one was from humping a pillow, and for most of that time I didn't even know it was a orgasm because from that method they aren't extremely powerful (still pretty good!) though infinitely repeatable and only take about two minutes for the first one, and then about 30s for any I decide to have afterwards. I've always kept this very hush hush and had no clue other women did this also until I finally looked it up.

Once I was 18 I bought a vibrator, and with it I can have a very powerful orgasm, this tool is where I learned I can cum pretty hard, I can squirt, the soles of my feet get hot and fuzzy and I can have a blissful full body orgasm. I don't know why, but most the time my clit is too sensitive for the vibrator, and I cum from just using it on my clitoral hood with light pressure. Once in a blue moon I can use it on my clit and it's great! But most the time it's too sensitive and if my significant other tries to put it on my clit I end up squirming uncomfortably from the overstimulation, lots and lots of foreplay can help with it some but not always.

I don't really care that I don't orgasm from penetration alone, I have a entire different sensation from it that I very much enjoy, but I've never been able to use fingers or cum from oral. I've been with multiple people and have two hands of my own so I don't think it's a issue with him but rather me. I have tried many different ways with my hands with no result. I'd rather be rubbed with a flat palm through my pants than have someone rubbing my clit directly with their fingers, and oral is ok, but the only decent stimulation I get there is when he's sucking.

When I do cum I have to put a lot of pressure on my clit (or hood), but at the same time I am so easily overstimulated and don't really get much from the motion of the action, just the pressure and vibration if I'm using a vibator. I really want to be able to have a orgasm during sex (or even solo) without any outside tolls and it just be something I can really do anytime, anywhere. Any advice for a confused soul?

Tl;dr : Can cum from pillow humping and vibators, but can't from oral or hands use, wanting to cum solo or during sex without any outside objects or tools and looking for advice.

Submitted January 10, 2020 at 12:12AM

Some background, I'm a woman in a relationship with a man. We've been together for 5 years and are in our early 20s.I've always struggled around the confusion of orgasms and how to achieve them. Before I was old enough to purchase sex toys the only way I could achieve one was from humping a pillow, and for most of that time I didn't even know it was a orgasm because from that method they aren't extremely powerful (still pretty good!) though infinitely repeatable and only take about two minutes for the first one, and then about 30s for any I decide to have afterwards. I've always kept this very hush hush and had no clue other women did this also until I finally looked it up.Once I was 18 I bought a vibrator, and with it I can have a very powerful orgasm, this tool is where I learned I can cum pretty hard, I can squirt, the soles of my feet get hot and fuzzy and I can have a blissful full body orgasm. I don't know why, but most the time my clit is too sensitive for the vibrator, and I cum from just using it on my clitoral hood with light pressure. Once in a blue moon I can use it on my clit and it's great! But most the time it's too sensitive and if my significant other tries to put it on my clit I end up squirming uncomfortably from the overstimulation, lots and lots of foreplay can help with it some but not always.I don't really care that I don't orgasm from penetration alone, I have a entire different sensation from it that I very much enjoy, but I've never been able to use fingers or cum from oral. I've been with multiple people and have two hands of my own so I don't think it's a issue with him but rather me. I have tried many different ways with my hands with no result. I'd rather be rubbed with a flat palm through my pants than have someone rubbing my clit directly with their fingers, and oral is ok, but the only decent stimulation I get there is when he's sucking.When I do cum I have to put a lot of pressure on my clit (or hood), but at the same time I am so easily overstimulated and don't really get much from the motion of the action, just the pressure and vibration if I'm using a vibator. I really want to be able to have a orgasm during sex (or even solo) without any outside tolls and it just be something I can really do anytime, anywhere. Any advice for a confused soul?Tl;dr : Can cum from pillow humping and vibators, but can't from oral or hands use, wanting to cum solo or during sex without any outside objects or tools and looking for advice.