My people...y’all need to relax!

I have seen so many posts about people not knowing about to approach someone you find attractive. Relax, everyone is nervous about meeting new people and getting rejected, it’s a universal human feeling. Relax...

Just want to say, I am a male, 26, 5’9”, not super ripped but not fat (workout daily), not gorgeous but not ugly, not rich but not poor....super average dude here. Been in 2 long term relationships and a few short term. Just never worked out and back into dating.

You have to be willing to embarrass yourself...more often then not I’m dancing terribly (which I’m super self conscious about btw, but I do it anyways) and I’ll notice a girl giggling at me or something and I’ll go up and say “Hi, glad you liked my dance moves!” Or I’ll go up to a girl I find attractive and say “Hey how are you doing?” It’s not that hard to say Hi to someone...no one likes the “cool” guy eye fucking someone from across the room all night...it’s creepy and stalker like. If the person isn’t interested in you, take the hit gracefully and say “Hope you have a nice day or night!” And you walk away...it’s that simple.

Be goofy, be funny, be nerdy, be self-conscious, be happy, be confident...be your god damn self! If you find yourself to be beautiful then someone else will to! Love yourself and then you can love someone else...if you don’t love yourself right now, take steps to improve your self image and begin steps towards self-love.

Also, the goal should never be to fuck if you’re serious about dating. It should be to have a conversation with someone you find attractive! If you get their number, awesome! If they ask you to come back to their place, you could get laid or have your kidney stolen...you never know!

Submitted December 21, 2019 at 12:19AM

I have seen so many posts about people not knowing about to approach someone you find attractive. Relax, everyone is nervous about meeting new people and getting rejected, it’s a universal human feeling. Relax...Just want to say, I am a male, 26, 5’9”, not super ripped but not fat (workout daily), not gorgeous but not ugly, not rich but not poor....super average dude here. Been in 2 long term relationships and a few short term. Just never worked out and back into dating.You have to be willing to embarrass yourself...more often then not I’m dancing terribly (which I’m super self conscious about btw, but I do it anyways) and I’ll notice a girl giggling at me or something and I’ll go up and say “Hi, glad you liked my dance moves!” Or I’ll go up to a girl I find attractive and say “Hey how are you doing?” It’s not that hard to say Hi to someone...no one likes the “cool” guy eye fucking someone from across the room all night...it’s creepy and stalker like. If the person isn’t interested in you, take the hit gracefully and say “Hope you have a nice day or night!” And you walk away...it’s that simple.Be goofy, be funny, be nerdy, be self-conscious, be happy, be confident...be your god damn self! If you find yourself to be beautiful then someone else will to! Love yourself and then you can love someone else...if you don’t love yourself right now, take steps to improve your self image and begin steps towards self-love.Also, the goal should never be to fuck if you’re serious about dating. It should be to have a conversation with someone you find attractive! If you get their number, awesome! If they ask you to come back to their place, you could get laid or have your kidney stolen...you never know!