I (m,29) am ALWAYS rejected after the first date. What am I doing wrong?

Seriously, I've lost count, but over the last 5 years I've been rejected the best part of 30 times (each time after the first date.)

It's strange because I don't lack social skills. I have plenty of friends. People tell me that I'm good looking. I've even had both men and women tell me that they're surprised I'm single.

And I think the women I go on dates with actually like me as well. But it's ALWAYS "It was lovely to meet you... but I got more of a friendship than romantic kind of feeling".

And these aren't just outliers - it's every single woman I go on a date with!

I mean, I'm told I'm good looking - and I realise that for women it's about much more than just looks. But I'm also educated, i have a professional job, I have interests, and a social life, and plenty of male and female friends.

But no one is interested in me romantically. I'm nearly 30 and yet I've never had a girlfriend (although I've never admitted that to anyone apart from my closest friends)

It seems strange to say this about someone who can effortlessly socialise and gel with all sorts of people - including those who are 'normal' enough to be married and in stable relationships.

So why might this be, and what can I do about it?!

Submitted December 20, 2019 at 11:27PM

Seriously, I've lost count, but over the last 5 years I've been rejected the best part of 30 times (each time after the first date.)It's strange because I don't lack social skills. I have plenty of friends. People tell me that I'm good looking. I've even had both men and women tell me that they're surprised I'm single.And I think the women I go on dates with actually like me as well. But it's ALWAYS "It was lovely to meet you... but I got more of a friendship than romantic kind of feeling".And these aren't just outliers - it's every single woman I go on a date with!I mean, I'm told I'm good looking - and I realise that for women it's about much more than just looks. But I'm also educated, i have a professional job, I have interests, and a social life, and plenty of male and female friends.But no one is interested in me romantically. I'm nearly 30 and yet I've never had a girlfriend (although I've never admitted that to anyone apart from my closest friends)It seems strange to say this about someone who can effortlessly socialise and gel with all sorts of people - including those who are 'normal' enough to be married and in stable relationships.So why might this be, and what can I do about it?!