Should I[26M] be honest with future partners about how I lost my virginity?

I [26M] lost my virginity to a prositute when i was 24. Now, I am not ashamed of this in the slightest, in fact the story is pretty hilarious in my opinion haha. However I am wondering about future dating prospects. I know for many, this isn't something someone would appreciate or neccessaryily judge well. Understandable. The first girl i was with after the prositute how i lost my virginity, albeit 6 months later and after telling her that I lost it to "some girl at a party", which she could tell wasn't the truth. Though she didn't push me about it until later. I trusted her with the knowledge and knew she wouldn't judge me and quite frankly i was ready to tell her too. However, at the start, I felt it wasn't really her business and felt it might be judged poorly by her.

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SO, my question is, in the future, is it worth being honest about how I lost my virginity? I feel it's important to be 100% transparent with your partner, but I also feel that that trust is earned over time... I guess you could say it's a secret, but most of my friends know... Just not sure about new people I let into my life. Maybe it just depends on the person i'm seeing.

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TL; DR - Lost my virginity to a prostitute. Should I be upfront about this to future/potential partners?



Submitted October 12, 2019 at 12:02AM

I [26M] lost my virginity to a prositute when i was 24. Now, I am not ashamed of this in the slightest, in fact the story is pretty hilarious in my opinion haha. However I am wondering about future dating prospects. I know for many, this isn't something someone would appreciate or neccessaryily judge well. Understandable. The first girl i was with after the prositute how i lost my virginity, albeit 6 months later and after telling her that I lost it to "some girl at a party", which she could tell wasn't the truth. Though she didn't push me about it until later. I trusted her with the knowledge and knew she wouldn't judge me and quite frankly i was ready to tell her too. However, at the start, I felt it wasn't really her business and felt it might be judged poorly by her.​SO, my question is, in the future, is it worth being honest about how I lost my virginity? I feel it's important to be 100% transparent with your partner, but I also feel that that trust is earned over time... I guess you could say it's a secret, but most of my friends know... Just not sure about new people I let into my life. Maybe it just depends on the person i'm seeing.​TL; DR - Lost my virginity to a prostitute. Should I be upfront about this to future/potential partners?
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