Do you hate the girl that rejected you?

I [23f] dated this guy [28m] I REALLY liked for about four months... personality-wise we were two peas in a pod and basked in each other’s company. He worked insane hours (close to 100 some weeks) and was using significant amounts of cocaine to cope. My brothers both work in similar roles, so I know how hard his career is on his mental health. Not to mention we have a bit of an age difference, not a huge deal but we are at different places in our careers. Breaking things off was a logical decision, not an emotional one. After breaking things off, he tried to ask me out two more times. Once a couple of weeks after, and again three months later. The last time he reacted very badly and acted like he didn’t really like me/care anyway and went and immediately blocked me on everything. To be clear, I didn’t bother him at all after the first time. I understand that most men don’t like to be strung along after rejection, even though I missed him. He continued to follow me on social media (millennial problems, I know) up until the last time. Yes, I secretly hoped we could try again in like a year if he decided to pursue a position with a better work/life balance which he always talked about. I know I sound juvenile but the way he reacted really really hurt me, I just want to know that he doesn’t hate me.

tl;dr I know I sound juvenile but the way he reacted really really hurt me, I just want to know that he doesn’t hate me.

Submitted October 12, 2019 at 12:03AM

I [23f] dated this guy [28m] I REALLY liked for about four months... personality-wise we were two peas in a pod and basked in each other’s company. He worked insane hours (close to 100 some weeks) and was using significant amounts of cocaine to cope. My brothers both work in similar roles, so I know how hard his career is on his mental health. Not to mention we have a bit of an age difference, not a huge deal but we are at different places in our careers. Breaking things off was a logical decision, not an emotional one. After breaking things off, he tried to ask me out two more times. Once a couple of weeks after, and again three months later. The last time he reacted very badly and acted like he didn’t really like me/care anyway and went and immediately blocked me on everything. To be clear, I didn’t bother him at all after the first time. I understand that most men don’t like to be strung along after rejection, even though I missed him. He continued to follow me on social media (millennial problems, I know) up until the last time. Yes, I secretly hoped we could try again in like a year if he decided to pursue a position with a better work/life balance which he always talked about. I know I sound juvenile but the way he reacted really really hurt me, I just want to know that he doesn’t hate me.tl;dr I know I sound juvenile but the way he reacted really really hurt me, I just want to know that he doesn’t hate me.