Me (M 16) and my girlfriend (F 15) split up and I feel responsible for the dark path she’s going down. How do I deal with this? Can I help her?

Just a couple weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me because she felt like she would be happier being single and not worrying what I think about certain things and such. Im okay with it but it really does suck especially since it was so sudden, but I’ll be okay. As long as she’s happy is what matters. We dated for about 11 months. At the beginning of those months she told me that drinking had caused her to go into a deep depression and asked me too never drink. I have no interest in drinking or drugs so I agreed and she said she would do the same.

She left her best friend a while before we got together because she was turning into a druggy and a sex addict but about a month we broke up they became friends again. Her mom even had a stroke from smoking. Drugs have negatively impacted her life so much and she hated them but right after we broke up she started smoking weed and drinking. She’s going down a dark path but we don’t talk anymore and I can’t stop it. I love her so much and I care about her but I can’t stop her from doing in a downward spiral. She doesn’t even talk too someone who is supposed to be another one of her best friends (and my best friend) unless it’s for a ride too school. Whenever they want too hang out it’s always “I’m busy”. She’s leaving the people that truly care about her and soon enough her biggest fear (about everyone she loves leaving) is gonna come true because of her own choices. I can’t talk her out of it I can’t make her stop I can’t do anything but sit and watch as she destroys her life and when she does I can’t be there for her to help her.

I don’t want her back, not at all, but I want her to be okay. I don’t want someone I care about so much going down such a dark path but I can’t stop it. I can’t do anything. I believe that if we wouldn’t have broken up then it wouldn’t have happened. Originally she said she didn’t want too leave but I got upset and angry and cursed at her so she changed her mind and now I feel guilty. I feel like if I could have controlled my emotions then none of this would have happened and I can’t stand it. All I really want to do with my life is help people and I can’t even help one of the people I care about the most.

TL;DR: my ex and I split up and now she’s going down a dark path so I feel responsible for it. I can’t do anything about it and it hurts too see someone I love and care for go down a path of drugs and hurt there friends.



Submitted September 15, 2019 at 11:02PM

Just a couple weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me because she felt like she would be happier being single and not worrying what I think about certain things and such. Im okay with it but it really does suck especially since it was so sudden, but I’ll be okay. As long as she’s happy is what matters. We dated for about 11 months. At the beginning of those months she told me that drinking had caused her to go into a deep depression and asked me too never drink. I have no interest in drinking or drugs so I agreed and she said she would do the same.She left her best friend a while before we got together because she was turning into a druggy and a sex addict but about a month we broke up they became friends again. Her mom even had a stroke from smoking. Drugs have negatively impacted her life so much and she hated them but right after we broke up she started smoking weed and drinking. She’s going down a dark path but we don’t talk anymore and I can’t stop it. I love her so much and I care about her but I can’t stop her from doing in a downward spiral. She doesn’t even talk too someone who is supposed to be another one of her best friends (and my best friend) unless it’s for a ride too school. Whenever they want too hang out it’s always “I’m busy”. She’s leaving the people that truly care about her and soon enough her biggest fear (about everyone she loves leaving) is gonna come true because of her own choices. I can’t talk her out of it I can’t make her stop I can’t do anything but sit and watch as she destroys her life and when she does I can’t be there for her to help her.I don’t want her back, not at all, but I want her to be okay. I don’t want someone I care about so much going down such a dark path but I can’t stop it. I can’t do anything. I believe that if we wouldn’t have broken up then it wouldn’t have happened. Originally she said she didn’t want too leave but I got upset and angry and cursed at her so she changed her mind and now I feel guilty. I feel like if I could have controlled my emotions then none of this would have happened and I can’t stand it. All I really want to do with my life is help people and I can’t even help one of the people I care about the most.TL;DR: my ex and I split up and now she’s going down a dark path so I feel responsible for it. I can’t do anything about it and it hurts too see someone I love and care for go down a path of drugs and hurt there friends.
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