I (27m) am falling in love with a girl (27f) who already has a boyfriend but sends (weak) signals. What should i do?!

So long story short. There was this girl at work who i work a lot with. We’ve been jokingly during work a lot of times. Her parents kinda know me and her mother keeps telling me I am sweet and very nice and how she would like if i was the boyfriend of this girl lol. It was just all just for jokes and giggles (I think). Ive promised myself i wont fall in love or date anyone anymore from work. Oh yea, besides she has a boyfriend. Thats automatically a no go for me.

However the last few days she just keeps popping up in my mind. Because I quit working at the place, I wanted to keep hanging out with me people i got befriended with. So me and this girl go jogging every now and time. After the first time jogging she wont leave my head. She messaged me the day after that how her leggs hurt and what not and keeps asking whens the next time we will jog again.

So there was this party and she was there too. I keep having the feeling she was looking at me from time to time when. When we walked out i put my hands on her back shoulders to not lose her (it was crowded) and he grabbed my hand from the front. When we drove back i was sitting at the back with her. She rested her head on my shoulder. Then proceeded to put her head on my lap and stuff. The day after she messaged me how she liked how i was drunk and stuff. And that she was happy seeing me. She then continued to ask when we were going to jog again.

Now, especially after this she wont leave my head. She has a boyfriend and i totally disapprove people who cheat. I am strongly against that. But i really think im starting to fall in love with her. I dont know if she just means this all friendly but i got other female friends who dont act this way. Its making me confused as hell. I really dont want to fall in love with her since she has a boyfriend. But i keep thinking about her. What should i do ?!

Tl;dr: falling in love with a girl who has a boyfriend who sends me (weak) signals. I dont want to fall in love with her when she already has a boyfriend. What should I do?



Submitted September 15, 2019 at 11:05PM

So long story short. There was this girl at work who i work a lot with. We’ve been jokingly during work a lot of times. Her parents kinda know me and her mother keeps telling me I am sweet and very nice and how she would like if i was the boyfriend of this girl lol. It was just all just for jokes and giggles (I think). Ive promised myself i wont fall in love or date anyone anymore from work. Oh yea, besides she has a boyfriend. Thats automatically a no go for me.However the last few days she just keeps popping up in my mind. Because I quit working at the place, I wanted to keep hanging out with me people i got befriended with. So me and this girl go jogging every now and time. After the first time jogging she wont leave my head. She messaged me the day after that how her leggs hurt and what not and keeps asking whens the next time we will jog again.So there was this party and she was there too. I keep having the feeling she was looking at me from time to time when. When we walked out i put my hands on her back shoulders to not lose her (it was crowded) and he grabbed my hand from the front. When we drove back i was sitting at the back with her. She rested her head on my shoulder. Then proceeded to put her head on my lap and stuff. The day after she messaged me how she liked how i was drunk and stuff. And that she was happy seeing me. She then continued to ask when we were going to jog again.Now, especially after this she wont leave my head. She has a boyfriend and i totally disapprove people who cheat. I am strongly against that. But i really think im starting to fall in love with her. I dont know if she just means this all friendly but i got other female friends who dont act this way. Its making me confused as hell. I really dont want to fall in love with her since she has a boyfriend. But i keep thinking about her. What should i do ?!Tl;dr: falling in love with a girl who has a boyfriend who sends me (weak) signals. I dont want to fall in love with her when she already has a boyfriend. What should I do?
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