Me (18M) and my girlfriend (18F) of 6 months are struggling with our relationship

She gets very upset over the tiniest of things and says stuff such as ”I don’t need this in my life” ”I don’t want to suffer my whole life” and so on and so forth. To give you some context, we were planning to marry since the beginning of our relationship because of how she was brought up, she wants to only have one person in her heart and life for her whole life, and I respect that and want to be that person. Now, in no way have I been a perfect boyfriend but I always try my best and I love her crazy. We’re in a long distance relationship right now because of my university, but we’d spent almost 4 months together this summer + may while I was back home. We always got into small arguments but as far as I know it’s normal for people in relationships. The thing is that I think she is very childish in her outlook on the world, and as much as I want to make her happy and stay like that, I can’t. I can’t give her all the time and attention in the world because I have to study and work and build a career for myself so that I can have a peaceful family with her. But today we had a disagreement again, I wouldn’t call it a fight since I don’t get why she is so upset again. She exaggerates pretty much every negative thing I do. It was around 11:30 pm and we both have to wake up at 7 am that day for university, but in her time it was 1:30 which really worries me because I want her to get enough sleep. She had to study a little before sleep but she started chatting with me about different career paths but after a couple of minutes I realised this was going to take a lot of time so I should cut her off so she can concentrate on her homework. In my mind I was only doing good for the both of us. To quote, I said ”Honey, you have to wake up early tomorrow, I have to wake up early tomorrow, lets talk about this some other time and focus on our homework now, alright?” And she got incredibly upset saying things like ”Don’t talk to me” ”You don’t feel me” I’m trying to explain to her that I had good intentions in mind and she’s just telling me that if I let her finish her sentence she wouldn’t me upset, but before that I let her speak for a solid 3 minutes and I listened to everything she said. The thing is, I know it wouldn’t matter if I waited since she’d get upset anyway, I really don’t understand how to deal with this. I see that this is leading very close to a break up and I don’t want to lose her. The amount of arguments we have is a pretty big but that doesn’t phase me since I love her. But she can tell me all the sweetest things and then one misstep and she hates me all of a sudden. I have no clue how to deal with this. Please help.

Tl;dr My girlfriend and I got into a fight over me interrupting her by saying that we should talk later and just hurry up and go to sleep, but now she’s very upset and it’s leading to a break up which I do not want

Submitted September 16, 2019 at 11:44PM

She gets very upset over the tiniest of things and says stuff such as ”I don’t need this in my life” ”I don’t want to suffer my whole life” and so on and so forth. To give you some context, we were planning to marry since the beginning of our relationship because of how she was brought up, she wants to only have one person in her heart and life for her whole life, and I respect that and want to be that person. Now, in no way have I been a perfect boyfriend but I always try my best and I love her crazy. We’re in a long distance relationship right now because of my university, but we’d spent almost 4 months together this summer + may while I was back home. We always got into small arguments but as far as I know it’s normal for people in relationships. The thing is that I think she is very childish in her outlook on the world, and as much as I want to make her happy and stay like that, I can’t. I can’t give her all the time and attention in the world because I have to study and work and build a career for myself so that I can have a peaceful family with her. But today we had a disagreement again, I wouldn’t call it a fight since I don’t get why she is so upset again. She exaggerates pretty much every negative thing I do. It was around 11:30 pm and we both have to wake up at 7 am that day for university, but in her time it was 1:30 which really worries me because I want her to get enough sleep. She had to study a little before sleep but she started chatting with me about different career paths but after a couple of minutes I realised this was going to take a lot of time so I should cut her off so she can concentrate on her homework. In my mind I was only doing good for the both of us. To quote, I said ”Honey, you have to wake up early tomorrow, I have to wake up early tomorrow, lets talk about this some other time and focus on our homework now, alright?” And she got incredibly upset saying things like ”Don’t talk to me” ”You don’t feel me” I’m trying to explain to her that I had good intentions in mind and she’s just telling me that if I let her finish her sentence she wouldn’t me upset, but before that I let her speak for a solid 3 minutes and I listened to everything she said. The thing is, I know it wouldn’t matter if I waited since she’d get upset anyway, I really don’t understand how to deal with this. I see that this is leading very close to a break up and I don’t want to lose her. The amount of arguments we have is a pretty big but that doesn’t phase me since I love her. But she can tell me all the sweetest things and then one misstep and she hates me all of a sudden. I have no clue how to deal with this. Please help.Tl;dr My girlfriend and I got into a fight over me interrupting her by saying that we should talk later and just hurry up and go to sleep, but now she’s very upset and it’s leading to a break up which I do not want