I caught my mother having intercourse with a young stranger. I don't know what to do, need help.

Only brief information about us: We actually came to Gainesville, Florida, in 2001 from Iran, I was only a few months old and we came to the United States because my father got a good job offer here that he couldn't refuse. Sadly my father passed away in 2006 due to speeding. My mother raised me alone and worked really hard to give me a good life as possible. We used to own a gym before, so mom would always train there, she cared alot about her body and health, she has a very good athletic body, she is also quite tall, 5ft10, which helped here strength even more. Today (2019) I am 18 years old and my mother is 44 years old. The guy that is also involved is 19 years old.

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So it goes back to April of this year (2019), when my mother's best and closest friend Linda came over to our house, she had a young guy named Garry with her. Mom served coffee and we all sat in the kitchen, I usually do not attend when guests come over, but Linda came with a stranger, a male, so I couldn't leave. Linda's son is a year older than me, but a good friend of mine. She first presented Garry to us, said that he was a friend of her son, and has recently moved in to a area here in Gainesville, close to our house. He left his parents to live on his own because he had gotten a new job here. Then she started talking to my mom about a trip she, her son, his girlfriend and Garry would go on, and Linda tried to persuade mom to go with them.

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The trip was to Ibiza, and they would stay there 4 weeks, mom refused and explained that she couldn't join them on this trip because of me, because my graduation was in May. So Linda told mom that they could stay 2 weeks instead, mom was still unsure, but after a long discussion and pressure by Linda and Garry, mom finally accepted. I wasn't pleased because I didn't like the idea of my mom traveling to another country alone and with men in the trip as well. Garry was quiet but stared at my mother very much, I felt quite uncomfortable. They then left and I talked with my mom about this trip and she told me that it wasn't a big deal, she also spoke to our next door neighbors and made sure they would check on me now and then.

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I drove mom to the airport, hugged her and wished her a safe trip. She met with the the rest of the company and they all left. This 2 weeks were a pretty hard, I wasn't used to be separated from mom. But I focused on school because it was not so much left, and I wanted to graduate with as good grades as possible. I called mom a few times the first week, from what I learned, she was happy. Then a picture from Linda's son's mobile was sent to me, it was a picture of them in the beach, I was surprised when I saw the picture. Linda, her son and his girlfriend were standing close to each other with their hands over each other's shoulders, then a few meters away, my mom stood with Garry, she had her hand on her hip and Garry had his arm around her shoulders. What made me disappointed and very annoyed was how close he stood next to her and that the others were in a place while Mom and Garry were a few meters away. I tried to not make a huge deal out of it so I forgot about it.

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Then I got a call from my mom, she told me that they would arrive tomorrow, early in the morning, she told me that she didn't need a ride home because they would all order an uber. The next day when I woke up I heard sounds coming from downstairs. I quickly dressed and walked down, there I saw my mom drinking coffee and chatting with Garry, they were laughing out loud and smiling. I joined them, it felt very awkard with him in our house, then I asked what he was doing here, and mom replied that he came over because he wanted to borrow something and that she invited him in for coffee. I just nodded and drank. He then left and I started talking strictly to my mother, where I said that he can not come over, that he has nothing to do here, if he wants to hang out with me he should come to me.

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The next day when I was driving back home from school I noticed Garry walking on the side of the highway, he walked out of the area where I live, and it was strange, because he doesn't live here so it was abnormal for him to go here. I then got an idiotic thought that he maybe was at my house, but that was impossible I thought, my mother would never invite a stranger in to the house if I'm not home. I got home, mom was in the shower, I went upstairs to my room. When mom got out of the shower I asked her if someone came to our place, she said no.

Then the day was here, I graduated, I had very good grades and mom looked very happy and proud. Linda and her son were there, they both congratulated me. Then Garry came, he greeted us all and hugged Mom, I saw Linda grinning strangely.

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Then came two very calm months, (June and July) where I did nothing, then in the beginning of August Linda's son and some of our other friends decided that we would travel to Mexico and be there for a week, Mom looked incredibly happy, normally she usually doesn't like me going anywhere alone without her. The thing that worried me while I was there, was mom, she was alone. When I got back from Mexico while driving back home, I saw Garry, this time, leaving my house, he closed the door and left. I was shocked, the thought of a stranger in my mom's house and she is allowing it made me angrier. I walked in and mom immediately hugged me, Linda was also there. That was a big relief for me. Then almost every single day I saw Garry always walking out of our area, I didn't suspect anything then, because I thought he went to Linda's house. Then for almost 2 weeks ago, I walked in to the house, mom was not there, I could tell, because her shoes wasn't there, I then saw that Linda was there, talking on the phone. I tried to calmly and slowly walk up to my room so that I don't have to greet her, while walking upstairs I heard Linda talking with somebody over the phone, it looked like she was talking to a male and was congratulating him for getting the woman he wanted. I understood nothing and kept walking up to my room.

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Later that day I had work, so I drove, but took a different road this time, a quicker one. While driving I saw a woman, looking exactly like my mother leaving a house, she kissed the guy that was walking her out and hugged him, then started walking away, I started to feel an emptiness and fear inside of me, I had to know something. The day after when mom left the house, I followed her from behind, without her knowing it. We walked a bit, then reached a house, she went to the house and just opened the door and walked in, the door was open, so I walked in after her. I wished that I would never see what I saw, and I hope that no one will ever see what I saw. As I was walking to the room there, I saw my mom making out with Garry, then he laid her on the bed and they both started undressing themselves, I couldn't watch and left the house. I have never felt this abandoned, forgotten, betrayad and destroyed.

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So I have known mom's dark secret for about 2 weeks, i'm a hundred percent sure that they have been sleeping with each other for a long time, since that trip to Ibiza in April, I believe. Mom doesn't know that I already know everything, and I haven't spoken to her yet, so I turn to you here in reddit for help and your advice on what to do, because I don't know what to do, I need help to figure it out, I hope you all can help me during this difficault time.

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TL;DR! - My mother's best friend Linda introduced me and mom to a young guy named Garry who recently moved in to town, close to us. He is a friend of her son. Linda talked mom into traveling with her, Garry, Linda's son and his girlfriend into a 2 weeks trip to Ibiza, there Garry got closer to mom, then after they came back to the states, he started coming over to us very much, spending alot of time close to us, without me knwoing anything, then one day after hearing a suspicious conversation Linda was having on the phone I spied on my mom the next day, saw her getting into a unfamiliar house, there I caught her preparing to have sex with Garry, I left without saying anything.

Submitted September 16, 2019 at 11:40PM

Only brief information about us: We actually came to Gainesville, Florida, in 2001 from Iran, I was only a few months old and we came to the United States because my father got a good job offer here that he couldn't refuse. Sadly my father passed away in 2006 due to speeding. My mother raised me alone and worked really hard to give me a good life as possible. We used to own a gym before, so mom would always train there, she cared alot about her body and health, she has a very good athletic body, she is also quite tall, 5ft10, which helped here strength even more. Today (2019) I am 18 years old and my mother is 44 years old. The guy that is also involved is 19 years old.​So it goes back to April of this year (2019), when my mother's best and closest friend Linda came over to our house, she had a young guy named Garry with her. Mom served coffee and we all sat in the kitchen, I usually do not attend when guests come over, but Linda came with a stranger, a male, so I couldn't leave. Linda's son is a year older than me, but a good friend of mine. She first presented Garry to us, said that he was a friend of her son, and has recently moved in to a area here in Gainesville, close to our house. He left his parents to live on his own because he had gotten a new job here. Then she started talking to my mom about a trip she, her son, his girlfriend and Garry would go on, and Linda tried to persuade mom to go with them.​The trip was to Ibiza, and they would stay there 4 weeks, mom refused and explained that she couldn't join them on this trip because of me, because my graduation was in May. So Linda told mom that they could stay 2 weeks instead, mom was still unsure, but after a long discussion and pressure by Linda and Garry, mom finally accepted. I wasn't pleased because I didn't like the idea of my mom traveling to another country alone and with men in the trip as well. Garry was quiet but stared at my mother very much, I felt quite uncomfortable. They then left and I talked with my mom about this trip and she told me that it wasn't a big deal, she also spoke to our next door neighbors and made sure they would check on me now and then.​I drove mom to the airport, hugged her and wished her a safe trip. She met with the the rest of the company and they all left. This 2 weeks were a pretty hard, I wasn't used to be separated from mom. But I focused on school because it was not so much left, and I wanted to graduate with as good grades as possible. I called mom a few times the first week, from what I learned, she was happy. Then a picture from Linda's son's mobile was sent to me, it was a picture of them in the beach, I was surprised when I saw the picture. Linda, her son and his girlfriend were standing close to each other with their hands over each other's shoulders, then a few meters away, my mom stood with Garry, she had her hand on her hip and Garry had his arm around her shoulders. What made me disappointed and very annoyed was how close he stood next to her and that the others were in a place while Mom and Garry were a few meters away. I tried to not make a huge deal out of it so I forgot about it.​Then I got a call from my mom, she told me that they would arrive tomorrow, early in the morning, she told me that she didn't need a ride home because they would all order an uber. The next day when I woke up I heard sounds coming from downstairs. I quickly dressed and walked down, there I saw my mom drinking coffee and chatting with Garry, they were laughing out loud and smiling. I joined them, it felt very awkard with him in our house, then I asked what he was doing here, and mom replied that he came over because he wanted to borrow something and that she invited him in for coffee. I just nodded and drank. He then left and I started talking strictly to my mother, where I said that he can not come over, that he has nothing to do here, if he wants to hang out with me he should come to me.​The next day when I was driving back home from school I noticed Garry walking on the side of the highway, he walked out of the area where I live, and it was strange, because he doesn't live here so it was abnormal for him to go here. I then got an idiotic thought that he maybe was at my house, but that was impossible I thought, my mother would never invite a stranger in to the house if I'm not home. I got home, mom was in the shower, I went upstairs to my room. When mom got out of the shower I asked her if someone came to our place, she said no.Then the day was here, I graduated, I had very good grades and mom looked very happy and proud. Linda and her son were there, they both congratulated me. Then Garry came, he greeted us all and hugged Mom, I saw Linda grinning strangely.​Then came two very calm months, (June and July) where I did nothing, then in the beginning of August Linda's son and some of our other friends decided that we would travel to Mexico and be there for a week, Mom looked incredibly happy, normally she usually doesn't like me going anywhere alone without her. The thing that worried me while I was there, was mom, she was alone. When I got back from Mexico while driving back home, I saw Garry, this time, leaving my house, he closed the door and left. I was shocked, the thought of a stranger in my mom's house and she is allowing it made me angrier. I walked in and mom immediately hugged me, Linda was also there. That was a big relief for me. Then almost every single day I saw Garry always walking out of our area, I didn't suspect anything then, because I thought he went to Linda's house. Then for almost 2 weeks ago, I walked in to the house, mom was not there, I could tell, because her shoes wasn't there, I then saw that Linda was there, talking on the phone. I tried to calmly and slowly walk up to my room so that I don't have to greet her, while walking upstairs I heard Linda talking with somebody over the phone, it looked like she was talking to a male and was congratulating him for getting the woman he wanted. I understood nothing and kept walking up to my room.​Later that day I had work, so I drove, but took a different road this time, a quicker one. While driving I saw a woman, looking exactly like my mother leaving a house, she kissed the guy that was walking her out and hugged him, then started walking away, I started to feel an emptiness and fear inside of me, I had to know something. The day after when mom left the house, I followed her from behind, without her knowing it. We walked a bit, then reached a house, she went to the house and just opened the door and walked in, the door was open, so I walked in after her. I wished that I would never see what I saw, and I hope that no one will ever see what I saw. As I was walking to the room there, I saw my mom making out with Garry, then he laid her on the bed and they both started undressing themselves, I couldn't watch and left the house. I have never felt this abandoned, forgotten, betrayad and destroyed.​So I have known mom's dark secret for about 2 weeks, i'm a hundred percent sure that they have been sleeping with each other for a long time, since that trip to Ibiza in April, I believe. Mom doesn't know that I already know everything, and I haven't spoken to her yet, so I turn to you here in reddit for help and your advice on what to do, because I don't know what to do, I need help to figure it out, I hope you all can help me during this difficault time.​TL;DR! - My mother's best friend Linda introduced me and mom to a young guy named Garry who recently moved in to town, close to us. He is a friend of her son. Linda talked mom into traveling with her, Garry, Linda's son and his girlfriend into a 2 weeks trip to Ibiza, there Garry got closer to mom, then after they came back to the states, he started coming over to us very much, spending alot of time close to us, without me knwoing anything, then one day after hearing a suspicious conversation Linda was having on the phone I spied on my mom the next day, saw her getting into a unfamiliar house, there I caught her preparing to have sex with Garry, I left without saying anything.