Let it go or shoot ur shot?

So I was talking to this guy for about 3 months we were so alike and got along well he was everything I could ever ask for. We both liked each other a lot and knew that we were a good fit, but we lived 3 hours away and have only seen each other 4 long weekends but still FaceTimed everyday. He kinda knew that I didn’t know what I wanted and was just going with the flow, but I am also not very serious at times which we both weren’t we would constantly joke about blocking each other for dumb stuff. Anyways things were going good until we didn’t see each other for 3 weeks Bc I had quit my job and didn’t have money to go see him. Long story short I went to a festival and on the day after it was over he ended things with the only reason being that he didn’t see it going anywhere. Side note 1 day before the festival he asked me “if I asked you to be my girlfriend would you say yes?” To which I didn’t know what to answer since I thought he was kidding and didn’t want to seem clingy or eager so I played it cool and said the wrong thing which was “no Bc you live kinda far.” It’s been almost 3 weeks that we haven’t talked besides him liking two photos on ig. I want to text him on his birthday which is next month but I feel like it’s too far away and won’t be relevant anymore but I also don’t know what to say other than happy birthday on his birth day. I’m not the type of person or have ever been to pursue or text first. Also I can’t figure out if it was my fault and some of the things I said while we talked or if he ended it bc he lost interest which I have a hard time believing. Anyways if anyone read all that pls help. This guy is just to great to pass off on and not try. Also when he broke it off I didn’t even say anything o just said ok. I made a lot of mistakes in that relationship that I wish I could take back. I’m just scared of giving someone everything just so they can break it. Ya feel



Submitted September 18, 2019 at 12:08AM

So I was talking to this guy for about 3 months we were so alike and got along well he was everything I could ever ask for. We both liked each other a lot and knew that we were a good fit, but we lived 3 hours away and have only seen each other 4 long weekends but still FaceTimed everyday. He kinda knew that I didn’t know what I wanted and was just going with the flow, but I am also not very serious at times which we both weren’t we would constantly joke about blocking each other for dumb stuff. Anyways things were going good until we didn’t see each other for 3 weeks Bc I had quit my job and didn’t have money to go see him. Long story short I went to a festival and on the day after it was over he ended things with the only reason being that he didn’t see it going anywhere. Side note 1 day before the festival he asked me “if I asked you to be my girlfriend would you say yes?” To which I didn’t know what to answer since I thought he was kidding and didn’t want to seem clingy or eager so I played it cool and said the wrong thing which was “no Bc you live kinda far.” It’s been almost 3 weeks that we haven’t talked besides him liking two photos on ig. I want to text him on his birthday which is next month but I feel like it’s too far away and won’t be relevant anymore but I also don’t know what to say other than happy birthday on his birth day. I’m not the type of person or have ever been to pursue or text first. Also I can’t figure out if it was my fault and some of the things I said while we talked or if he ended it bc he lost interest which I have a hard time believing. Anyways if anyone read all that pls help. This guy is just to great to pass off on and not try. Also when he broke it off I didn’t even say anything o just said ok. I made a lot of mistakes in that relationship that I wish I could take back. I’m just scared of giving someone everything just so they can break it. Ya feel
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