I am apparently a manipulative and horrible person.

this a throwaway account btw

For context, there is a girl who has been crushing on me for literally 4 years. Multiple times she has told me this and has asked me out and each time I said no.

A few weeks ago during summer time, our friend group decided to all go to Six Flags together since we never had really done anything really big together. Since this would possibly be one of the last days we see each other again before school starts, someone had a great idea of everyone confessing to their crush if they had one.

Apparently a few weeks before we went to Six Flags, I was being extra flirty and such while texting this girl. Apparently this caused her and anyone involved with the confessing plan to believe that I started to develop feelings for her but just didn't want to admit it first and was waiting for her (even though I rejected her multiple times in the span of 4 years). What made all of this even worse is the fact that we decided we wanted to go to the water park in Six Flags. I didn't actually know how to swim though so I was holding her hand the entire time when we were in the pool because I didn't want to drown. This made everyone think, even the people who weren't involved in the plan, that I had some kind of feelings for her.

Well guess what, I didn't. She takes me alone and asks me out before we head into the car home and I say no once again as nicely as possible. She eventually starts tearing up and I try to comfort her but everyone else just pushes me away and tells me to leave her alone. Unfortunately for me, she was also one of the most popular girls in my school so literally everyone was on her side, even my closest boys. As the days go on I keep getting text messages reminding me of how much of a terrible and manipulative person I am and was playing with her feelings for fun. And now, I literally have lost all my friends, just because I didn't know how to swim!

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TLDR: Some girl has been crushing on me for a couple years and I always rejected her when she asked me out but the last time when I did it everyone decided I was just messing with her and hurting her even tho it was just because I cant swim.



Submitted September 18, 2019 at 12:00AM

this a throwaway account btwFor context, there is a girl who has been crushing on me for literally 4 years. Multiple times she has told me this and has asked me out and each time I said no.A few weeks ago during summer time, our friend group decided to all go to Six Flags together since we never had really done anything really big together. Since this would possibly be one of the last days we see each other again before school starts, someone had a great idea of everyone confessing to their crush if they had one.Apparently a few weeks before we went to Six Flags, I was being extra flirty and such while texting this girl. Apparently this caused her and anyone involved with the confessing plan to believe that I started to develop feelings for her but just didn't want to admit it first and was waiting for her (even though I rejected her multiple times in the span of 4 years). What made all of this even worse is the fact that we decided we wanted to go to the water park in Six Flags. I didn't actually know how to swim though so I was holding her hand the entire time when we were in the pool because I didn't want to drown. This made everyone think, even the people who weren't involved in the plan, that I had some kind of feelings for her.Well guess what, I didn't. She takes me alone and asks me out before we head into the car home and I say no once again as nicely as possible. She eventually starts tearing up and I try to comfort her but everyone else just pushes me away and tells me to leave her alone. Unfortunately for me, she was also one of the most popular girls in my school so literally everyone was on her side, even my closest boys. As the days go on I keep getting text messages reminding me of how much of a terrible and manipulative person I am and was playing with her feelings for fun. And now, I literally have lost all my friends, just because I didn't know how to swim!​TLDR: Some girl has been crushing on me for a couple years and I always rejected her when she asked me out but the last time when I did it everyone decided I was just messing with her and hurting her even tho it was just because I cant swim.
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