Girlfriend wants to have more group sex but is too self conscious

Hey everyone, my girlfriend [22] and I [22] have been experimenting with group sex, but she is too self conscious about her body. She recently gained around 30 pounds and developed many stretch marks on her belly. This does not bother me whatsoever, but it makes her so miserable. We did have one threesome, but my girlfriend wasn't very attracted to the woman and we've put off doing it again for awhile since it wasn't a great experience. Now she's been talking about wanting to try it again and find a friend with benefits that we can hang out with multiple times. But whenever I find somebody, they're always either "too ugly" or "too pretty" even when I think she is prettier than any of them.

I'm not trying to pressure her into any of this, since this is all her idea in the first place. But it makes me sad to see her so miserable about it and restricting herself sexually because of it. We've also been having significantly less sex between just the two of us because she doesn't feel sexy enough.

Do any of you have any advice to offer me? I feel like no matter how crazy I am over her body, she won't be convinced. Also, honestly, how many men and women our age would care that she has long red stretch marks on her belly?



Submitted September 18, 2019 at 12:15AM

Hey everyone, my girlfriend [22] and I [22] have been experimenting with group sex, but she is too self conscious about her body. She recently gained around 30 pounds and developed many stretch marks on her belly. This does not bother me whatsoever, but it makes her so miserable. We did have one threesome, but my girlfriend wasn't very attracted to the woman and we've put off doing it again for awhile since it wasn't a great experience. Now she's been talking about wanting to try it again and find a friend with benefits that we can hang out with multiple times. But whenever I find somebody, they're always either "too ugly" or "too pretty" even when I think she is prettier than any of them.I'm not trying to pressure her into any of this, since this is all her idea in the first place. But it makes me sad to see her so miserable about it and restricting herself sexually because of it. We've also been having significantly less sex between just the two of us because she doesn't feel sexy enough.Do any of you have any advice to offer me? I feel like no matter how crazy I am over her body, she won't be convinced. Also, honestly, how many men and women our age would care that she has long red stretch marks on her belly?
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