Found out he's actually engaged and lied about his dad being alive...

I am just in shock. We matched on Tinder 3 weeks ago and have been texting and FaceTiming everyday multiple times per day since. When we matched he was visiting his family in my city but lives in another state (about 1000miles away) Anyways he got my number and we just had so much in common and everything was just flowing. 2 weeks in he booked his ticket to come see me for August 15 till the 18th. I dont wanna sound like a cliche but we just got on so well and we were talking about how excited we were to see each other. Then he started saying he was falling for me and hasn't felt this way in a long time. He was telling me he told his mom and sisters about me since they kept asking him why he seemed so happy and checking his phone all the time. He also told me he showed a pic of me to his dad and his dad said that I was way out of his league. He told me his dad is battling serious cancer and he's in the hospital and that he's doing stem cell procedure and giving blood to his dad with the procedure happening in September. He kept saying how he feels so lucky that we matched and that its so rare to have this type of connection and have so much in common which I agreed. We talked about deeper things, what we want in life and even talked about what we're both going to do and long story short, he just seemed so kind and open and securely attached. During all those weeks he would tell me how he's going to see his dad at the hospital, he would talk about his dad and the dad's health, at one point he was telling me how his dad is now in the ICU and he isn't doing well.

5 days ago he told me he loves me and I thought that was way too fast. I did some deep googling and found the obituary that his dad died this March 1 2019 and he's engaged and found his online engagement website with the wedding supposed to be THIS august 31 2019.. I am in shock. We would FaceTime everyday couple times a day sometime. And then this bomb gets dropped. So i found out out the whole engagement and death 2 days ago and he'd been messaging me and calling asking me whats going on and today I finally sent a text saying "I know everything" and texted the link of the obituary along with the engagement page. he then keeps calling and texting saying how he needs to talk to me to explain the situation and how I dont understand the entire situation and keeps sending "please let me explain where im coming from" then he asks that i dont ruin her life because of his actions during a dark period and then how he's grieving and didn't know how to make it better. He just keeps calling and im not picking up. So he still messages begging me to listen to him and finally I text " No. Leave me alone." then he says "do you truly want that?" along with " I hope one day you let me explain, just please dont ruin her life because of me. You did bring me hope and im forever grateful for that, goodbye" and I replied with " I dont need to ruin her life because im sure you'll do that all by yourself. This whole situation is disgusting and there is nothing you can say to explain. Im just disgusted someone like you exists, goodbye" then he replied " You're right, perhaps in time, goodbye"

I am crushed, I want nothing to do with this guy but I feel so dumb that this happened to me. I just dont know, I found his fiancee on facebook and it doesn't look like she's active so I dont think ill contact her. He also told me he has 4 sisters but I found he only has 2. Like wtf I feel like I went into the twilight zone. Im just not sure how to move on from this

Submitted August 06, 2019 at 11:53PM

I am just in shock. We matched on Tinder 3 weeks ago and have been texting and FaceTiming everyday multiple times per day since. When we matched he was visiting his family in my city but lives in another state (about 1000miles away) Anyways he got my number and we just had so much in common and everything was just flowing. 2 weeks in he booked his ticket to come see me for August 15 till the 18th. I dont wanna sound like a cliche but we just got on so well and we were talking about how excited we were to see each other. Then he started saying he was falling for me and hasn't felt this way in a long time. He was telling me he told his mom and sisters about me since they kept asking him why he seemed so happy and checking his phone all the time. He also told me he showed a pic of me to his dad and his dad said that I was way out of his league. He told me his dad is battling serious cancer and he's in the hospital and that he's doing stem cell procedure and giving blood to his dad with the procedure happening in September. He kept saying how he feels so lucky that we matched and that its so rare to have this type of connection and have so much in common which I agreed. We talked about deeper things, what we want in life and even talked about what we're both going to do and long story short, he just seemed so kind and open and securely attached. During all those weeks he would tell me how he's going to see his dad at the hospital, he would talk about his dad and the dad's health, at one point he was telling me how his dad is now in the ICU and he isn't doing well.5 days ago he told me he loves me and I thought that was way too fast. I did some deep googling and found the obituary that his dad died this March 1 2019 and he's engaged and found his online engagement website with the wedding supposed to be THIS august 31 2019.. I am in shock. We would FaceTime everyday couple times a day sometime. And then this bomb gets dropped. So i found out out the whole engagement and death 2 days ago and he'd been messaging me and calling asking me whats going on and today I finally sent a text saying "I know everything" and texted the link of the obituary along with the engagement page. he then keeps calling and texting saying how he needs to talk to me to explain the situation and how I dont understand the entire situation and keeps sending "please let me explain where im coming from" then he asks that i dont ruin her life because of his actions during a dark period and then how he's grieving and didn't know how to make it better. He just keeps calling and im not picking up. So he still messages begging me to listen to him and finally I text " No. Leave me alone." then he says "do you truly want that?" along with " I hope one day you let me explain, just please dont ruin her life because of me. You did bring me hope and im forever grateful for that, goodbye" and I replied with " I dont need to ruin her life because im sure you'll do that all by yourself. This whole situation is disgusting and there is nothing you can say to explain. Im just disgusted someone like you exists, goodbye" then he replied " You're right, perhaps in time, goodbye"I am crushed, I want nothing to do with this guy but I feel so dumb that this happened to me. I just dont know, I found his fiancee on facebook and it doesn't look like she's active so I dont think ill contact her. He also told me he has 4 sisters but I found he only has 2. Like wtf I feel like I went into the twilight zone. Im just not sure how to move on from this