We are expecting! But I need some advice with the family situation...

This might not fall under this sub, but I’m going to give it a whirl anyways. So my whole marriage and during our relationship, my wife and my mother never were on the same page. No fights or anything happened at all so it’s not terrible, but it all kind of reared its ugly head when my Sister ran away from my mother’s house and lived with us for about ¾ of the year. Got my sister her driver’s license, a job, and now she’s going to college in the span of that time. So she’s moved out. During that time though it didn’t make my wife any happier knowing that we were taking care of my mother’s responsibility.

Fast forward a bit to this year, we find out that we are expecting!! Mom and sister are doing a little bit better since half a year has passed which is good. My wife tells me that things are never going to get better between my mother and her even though everyone is kind of moving on and then also made the point that my mom doesn’t even reach out to ask how she is doing….so…I told my mom that she should start trying to make amends with my wife. My mother reached out to her asking maybe to take her out to lunch or something, as I want to make sure that I’m not stuck with having separate visits with our kid and any bad blood between anyone etc. etc.…aka everyone needs to get along. It seems to be making things worse. I can’t really explain as to why it is making things worse, but my wife just simply for whatever reason doesn’t want anything to do with her. I don’t want to force my mom down her throat, but I really want to have everyone get along and over everything. And on top of that, the Baby Shower is coming up and I don’t know how I’m going to handle that, as I’m sure my mother will be disappointed in knowing she isn’t invited to it, even though she bought us some gifts already for our little man.

Anyone have any advice?

Submitted June 03, 2019 at 08:54PM

This might not fall under this sub, but I’m going to give it a whirl anyways. So my whole marriage and during our relationship, my wife and my mother never were on the same page. No fights or anything happened at all so it’s not terrible, but it all kind of reared its ugly head when my Sister ran away from my mother’s house and lived with us for about ¾ of the year. Got my sister her driver’s license, a job, and now she’s going to college in the span of that time. So she’s moved out. During that time though it didn’t make my wife any happier knowing that we were taking care of my mother’s responsibility.Fast forward a bit to this year, we find out that we are expecting!! Mom and sister are doing a little bit better since half a year has passed which is good. My wife tells me that things are never going to get better between my mother and her even though everyone is kind of moving on and then also made the point that my mom doesn’t even reach out to ask how she is doing….so…I told my mom that she should start trying to make amends with my wife. My mother reached out to her asking maybe to take her out to lunch or something, as I want to make sure that I’m not stuck with having separate visits with our kid and any bad blood between anyone etc. etc.…aka everyone needs to get along. It seems to be making things worse. I can’t really explain as to why it is making things worse, but my wife just simply for whatever reason doesn’t want anything to do with her. I don’t want to force my mom down her throat, but I really want to have everyone get along and over everything. And on top of that, the Baby Shower is coming up and I don’t know how I’m going to handle that, as I’m sure my mother will be disappointed in knowing she isn’t invited to it, even though she bought us some gifts already for our little man.Anyone have any advice?